Thinky Crow

What Husbands Want From Wives Wives, here are 5 simple steps you can take to improve your marriage today: 1. Help him feel respected - Show appreciation for his efforts - Tell him what he's done especially well - Make him feel successful, remembering to recognise his ACTIONS, not just his words - Show gratitude with soft touch and tone, not just words 2. Be ultra-specific about your needs - Don't expect him to mindread - Give him ways to please you - Forgive him for his old mistakes, and don't bring them up - Accept his offers to help 3. Support him emotionally - Never shame him for sharing emotions - Remember your mood affects his massively - Be smiling and grateful to brighten his world - Understand his silence isn't meant to hurt you 4. Worship him with your body - Aim for sex at least twice a week - Tell him what you want sexually and praise him for giving it to you - Tease him during the day with flirty messages/pics, touch and kisses - Compliment him DURING sex 5. Move beyond arguments - You're one flesh, so you're on the same team - Don't belittle or blame him, and have reasonable expectations - Look beyond the immediate pain to find the root problem, and help him solve it for you - Remember he's trying to make you happy even when it seems like he's not (e.g., making you feel neglected by working such long hours to provide a lifestyle he thinks will make you happy)

The greatest miracle of science isn’t what it discovers… it’s that discovery is possible in the first place.

Caller: “ I have a net worth of about $3 million and my Dad has asked for $55,000 to pay his debt. What should i do?” Caller: My 80 year old father is asking my husband and me for $55,000 to pay off his credit card and car loan debt. Dave: What’s your financial situation? Carla: We’re retired, debt free, net worth between $2 and $3 million but we’re on a fixed income and would have to dip into retirement accounts to do it. Dave: And your husband’s position? Carla: He’s firmly against it. But my dad is very persuasive and I feel guilty saying no. Dave: Carla, the answer is no. You have no moral, ethical, or biblical obligation to fund your father’s bad financial habits especially when manipulation is part of how he’s asking. Carla: But he’s 80 and he’s my dad. Dave: Being your dad doesn’t give him the right to your retirement. And “no” is a complete sentence. Don’t give him an encyclopedia of reasons, he’ll debate every one. Be brief, be gentle, and be firm. Carla: What can I offer instead? Dave: Gift him Financial Peace University. Give him the tools to help himself. That’s generous without enabling the pattern.