Chris Karabats

Exactly this. There's a big difference between someone who is repentant and someone who is ready to settle down now that they are done with that phase of their life. Not acknowledging that is simply ignoring reality, and it's difficult to differentiate that from the outside. People who use their prior sinful lives as proof of their current holy one when they finally make the right choices at a convenient time are rightfully to be looked on with skepticism.

One of the problems of the "reformed hoe" trope is that it conveniently fits the planned trajectory of unreformed hoes. "I'll settle down in my 30s, when men stop buying me drinks, with a decent earner that will treat me better than I deserve."

This produces complicated emotions among people, and I'm not sure I can state my thoughts effectively, but here we go. I, like you, haven't been dating for a while and have been very fortunate in finding my wife and having a wonderful family. In general people like redemption stories, but there's basically no air between this as a redemption story and this as the worlds story of a woman having it all; from the outside people just have to take her (and his) word on it. It's combined with this being the same as the church's message over the last couple of decades of "man up and marry that hoe". This isn't really a reaction against this particular individual, whatever your impressions might be of these two people, but a reaction of the overall message and experience of men trying to follow this path and being burned. I know several men who went down this path, believed their girlfriend saying she was reformed, and just ending up with a wife who wasn't really and ended up being unfaithful. I know others who just had many years of therapy to work through the trauma and bonding issues this lifestyle produced, even though she did seem to clearly repent. For most men, this feels to be a lose lose situation where this side of the church is telling them the exact same thing the world is, and that they are wrong for desiring a wife who had made the right choices and been Godly before marriage. This is hardly different marrying addicts of any kind, or people caught up in a myriad of other sins, it's just a particularly sensitive area for many, and young men are being told they are sinners for wanting to avoid it.

Call me someone who was pleased to hear how Jesus changed Ashley and brought her to Trevor, and who forgave and redeemed her. Call me someone who was annoyed by professing Christians who didn’t forgive her, or who mocked Trevor. At the same time, I think this is a fair take. I used to wonder why every time I brought of a story of radical forgiveness for a formerly promiscuous woman, I heard endless claims of “don’t tell us we have to marry her!” But I haven’t been dating in decades. Young men right now face a bleak landscape where many girls won’t have them, where they struggle to get a job, where society has left them behind, and where they lack the self confidence held by precious generations because said generations weren’t taught to hate themselves for being male. Young men now think that because they struggle to thrive in a more difficult world, they will be forced to settle for a reformed promiscuous woman, since that’s the only girl who’d accept them. It’s an emotional reaction. This is depression and low self esteem talking, but it is also reality. And while I 💯 disagree with the meanness, vile comments, and misogyny some men have, I also believe that our society let them down, and that it’s to everyone’s benefit to build them up again. Understand that behind the nasty comments, there is a hurting who has given up on a fulfilling life, and will chase any false prophet promising better. Recognize that our failure to keep feminism out of public schools left young men feeling left out of society. We all knew this was happening in schools. Why did we let it fester for so long? So no, I don’t defend anyone with nasty comments, bad behavior, or uncontrolled anger. But I also won’t pretend that young men are well. They’re in a much wiser place than their fathers and grandfathers ever were. And we can either alienate them fight with insults, or we can try to find out why they feel the way they do. And far too many have never felt the love and guiding hand of anyone who cared about them well being. Yelling won’t work. I don’t know what will, but perhaps loving and caring will go further.

@RAZ0RFIST I had to re-read this several times before realizing this wasn't a movie where David Spade was playing her drug dealer fiancé.

So... I can't be the only one seeing David Spade as a Drug Dealer, here.

Blocked and reported.

@redsteeze Blocked and reported.

I know everyone's giving Talarico a hard time over the meat thing, but if I had to eat Texas BBQ regularly, I'd also probably turn vegetarian and gay.

@Thatumbrellaguy @marcorandazza Not that you want to count on it, but feels like plenty of appealable issues so far.

@marcorandazza The jury concerns me. Small town, and they do not look amused. Ive lived in a lot of small towns, and many tend to believe police and side w them even more than normal juries, and that might not be good. We'll see and I hope he wins it.

I have been negative about the Afroman case, but looking at the MTD order, I'm less certain. I understand making a video crapping on cops that raided your house. But reading this order I could imagine at least some of this claim might be legit. Mind you, I've moved from 100% certainty the claims are bullshit to 75% certainty. But it is a significant move. assets.aclu.org/live/uploads/2…

@Huff4Congress It's really not fair fo you to use the same actress twice.

Why do they keep doing this? “Let’s make a really good movie that all the fans of the character will like, except…” “Yeah? Except?” “…let’s cast the supporting female lead terribly. Like, hilariously badly, so it kind of ruins the whole movie.” “LOL yeah okay.”

@NatetheLawyer All signs point to yes.

Is this real?

@IanRunkle Afroman? Afroman.

Gah, why do I have like eight things I need to cover _now_ all happening at once?

@Chris_Segroves @IanRunkle Try this one simple trick to live happily ever after on a rustic hobby farm.

@Zaphoid @IanRunkle Ah yes. I shall now merely become wealthy by other means. I didn’t understand that pet before. 👀

Sure, buy millions of dollars worth of land to do back-breaking work for low returns. I mean, there's many "skip the degree" paths to success, but if you've never farmed, that's gonna be playing life on super-challenge mode.

@Chris_Segroves No live action Chameleon? Disappointed.

DSSL5 !!

@Mayhem4Markets The Jones act has been a disaster do years, and should be revoked permanently. The US simply doesn't have enough ships to meet our demand, nor enough shipbuilding capacity to catch up anytime soon even if it economically made sense.

Hilarious and sad. The Jones Act requires vessels transporting cargo from one US point to another be US-built, owned and crewed by US citizens. Suspending that law is NOT at all America First.

@DaniAhnDirect Am I the only one who hasn't read this letter?

"Walk the Dog" letter comes in, Kouri Richins is done!

@GuilhermeRios @HoegLaw I was preferring human writing, but I've gotten a distaste for the quantity of obvious AI writing of "it's not this, it's that" on X so it tainted my view enough that likely resulted in me just correctly guessing.

@Zaphoid @HoegLaw Question: were you trying to correctly guess which was which, or have you really preferred the human writing every time?

Not sure how good this test is (I have some...thoughts), but suffice it to say:

@LilyRoslynWest I'm not sad he's blocked me.

1.4M Follow this lunatic.

@justalexoki From a couple months back. Woman being treated for schizophrenia checked herself into the hospital after an ad on her fridge had her name in it and she thought she was having an episode. notebookcheck.net/Woman-with-sch…

this must genuinely be the worst time in history to be schizophrenic

@WilliamShatner Great you're able to raise funds for your charities doing this. I'll have to wait until it's a bit less hoity toity to join in.

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Parents well recognize this sleep schedule. Did it for infants. I do not suggest doing it for AI.