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@fffffjjjvvvyy @RealDianeYap It makes me laugh that you assume my husband can do any of that 😂

@RealDianeYap Ok by this logic, go edge the lawn. Troubleshoot that old computer in the basement. Fix the plumbing. Build a gazebo in the backyard. Go cut a dovetail joint without checking in one time, and then we'll see if you remember to get the goddamn milk next time you go to the store.

So many replies are “it’s not the end of the world if he gets the wrong kind of milk” and that’s why I need to re-iterate: men can avoid having these problems at all if they treat their home life as seriously as they treat their jobs. They’d never check in 10x with their boss on one simple task. They would know how things are done and not have to constantly ask. Or, they would be fired.

@lorahmoe Because I couldn’t care less about my nails?

Girls that don't get manicures and pedicures.... Why???

@RealDianeYap They’re usually frazzled not from the kids themselves, but the fear of judgment from other people.

If having kids is so wonderful, it should be immediately obvious from observing them in public. They should bring everyone joy. Joy like the last time you saw a golden retriever. But they don’t. They’re usually being annoying, and their parents are frazzled.

@realcolinquinn @RossMcCaff @JoeAverto Just answering your question

@anna_inScotland @RossMcCaff @JoeAverto Aye but you wont be fined for that?

taking this company into public ownership but keeping all the pointless petty shit was an absolute PR disaster. Who does this benefit?

@realcolinquinn @RossMcCaff @JoeAverto It’s a pain to get a refund if your train is delayed or cancelled, so I tend to jump on, & once I’m sure the train is actually going to move on time, I then buy my ticket on the app. (Several times I’ve thought I’d be getting train to work & ended up driving for above reasons)

@RossMcCaff @JoeAverto Why would you expect to get on a train without a ticket?

@Free_ByTheSea @PGSound_Tim Oh I agree, just pointing out that it’s not easy to get an *actual* medical diagnosis. The waiting lists are many years long, for a start

@anna_inScotland @PGSound_Tim 1 in 10 self identify as autistic. Perhaps if more children were told that life is hard at times, and that being anxious is not a condition but a normal part of life, then there would be more resources for children with genuine problems?

Well this won’t come as a surprise.. A new study has found that our children have been actively seeking a diagnosis of ADHD or autism because they see it as a ‘gateway’ to unlock access to special treatment at school and work. You don’t say?! The report found common childhood behaviours such as restlessness, and the normal difficulties of life were being medicalised. We need to stop dishing out labels with liberal abandon, and teaching children that feeling anxious about friendships, relationships or exams is abnormal. We need to teach children resilience.

@doglovesbiscuit @Free_ByTheSea What uni was this? Because I’m at uni and this has never happened where I am. Not sure why they’d be testing an entire class for dyslexia?

@Free_ByTheSea Totally agree. At uni, my daughter, along with everyone on her course, had to take a test for dyslexia. She passed and got a free laptop. She obtained an honours degree and has never had dyslexia, except in the mind of the creator of the test.

@Free_ByTheSea @PGSound_Tim They don’t. Have you any idea how hard it is to get a diagnosis?

@PGSound_Tim There are genuine cases. So it’s not great if every child with a worry gets a diagnosis and dilutes the resources available for the genuine cases.

@ThrillaRilla369 No. Never be financially dependent on someone else

To the women who are on this app, be honest If you could stay home, raise babies and run a cozy homemaker life.. Would you??

@JaneCaro Exactly, it totally depends on the individual. Personally I’d have been bored as I need the mental stimulation of a job and adult company. Choice is key!

Many women do not want to ‘stay home’. It’s boring, repetitive and you are an unpaid servant. It also predisposes you to poverty if your husband gets bored & dumps you. Also, women have outperformed men in education for a century. Maybe you guys should stay home.

@_imey @PositivFuturist That was the same when I used to work at a council many years ago. My toddler kept giving me vomiting bugs, so 3 x 1 day absences in 6 months got me onto a performance review

@PositivFuturist Nice work if you can get it. In my private sector company your third absence within a six-month period triggers a performance review.

I spoke to someone retired from HMRC.. they explained that there's a certain number of sick days you can take before HR get involved, and that everyone treated it as a kind of second holiday allowance. Just to give you a flavour of the culture.

@ValMThatcher @_curnonsky__ @MerrynSW @priteshpatel9 My dad was the most intelligent person I (and most people he knew) had ever met. But definitely a slow processor, as you could tell by talking to him! He might not have been able to be an air traffic controller but it certainly didn’t stop him being an excellent teacher.

@anna_inScotland @_curnonsky__ @MerrynSW @priteshpatel9 Same for my son - you only have to talk to him to see it takes him a little longer to process the question - 99% in A level maths shows he knows the subject

"Gateway" to unlock benefits and special treatment. Oh and extra time in exams. Incentives always matter.

@MerrynSW It is not the diagnosis that gets someone DLA, it’s the child’s care needs and severity of symptoms that are assessed. A diagnosis isn’t even needed. It is absolutely NOT the case that a diagnosis automatically = DLA and it’s disingenuous to repeatedly suggest that it is.

The key incentives for children are the extra time/attention. For parents there's something else. The child gets DLA.. that makes the parent a carer and lifts the benefit cap. Incentives.

@elle_fury @RealDianeYap This!!!!

@RealDianeYap No, the problem is your country. Most civilized nations in the world provide women with decent paid maternity leave.

Why does she have to go back to work tomorrow? Because her baby daddy is a loser. If he weren't a loser, she wouldn't have to work if she doesn't want to. She says that she would love to stay on leave longer or do part time "but that's just not our financial situation." Please, women -- do yourselves a favor. Do not procreate with losers who cannot afford to carry the household (you plus kids) on his income alone. Work if you want, but do not have kids with someone who can't afford them.

@RealDianeYap Imagine seeing this and thinking the problem is the dad, and not the insanely short time Americans are given for maternity leave

@ValMThatcher @_curnonsky__ @MerrynSW @priteshpatel9 It’s absolutely untrue for my daughter. She scores extremely high in all subjects when she is given a (very small) bit of extra time to read and process the questions.

@_curnonsky__ @MerrynSW @priteshpatel9 That’s simply untrue for many!

@UK_Compounder @MerrynSW Ok, well that’s a performance issue. I do completely understand that some careers that require high-speed working are not going to suit people with slower processing speed. There are so many jobs that are not like that though, and we shouldn’t lock people out of them.

@anna_inScotland @MerrynSW He does not.

@UK_Compounder @MerrynSW At work, you don’t sit exams. If your friend takes longer to get stuff done at work (less likely than in exams, as he can use tech to help, eg he won’t have to hand-write, could use text-to-speech software) he probably works extra unpaid hours to ensure he gets his stuff done.

No I get that lol. You've missed my point though. In the real world, you don't get extra time. We both work the same hours, similar job, but I get more done. That's the reality. So it was unfair at the time that he was given the opportunity to showcase his skills with an advantage. Just my opinion. Mind you, the school system itself isn't geared towards the real world anyway, so maybe that's the problem.

@_curnonsky__ @MerrynSW @priteshpatel9 Not necessarily. Perhaps your ASD doesn’t affect your reading or processing speed but people with dyslexia, for example, need the extra time to read the exam paper. People with ADHD often need the extra time due to processing speed difficulties.

@MerrynSW @priteshpatel9 DLA to be specific. However if you are on the spectrum, like me, you are ruthless with regard to time management and punctuality. If you need more time in exams, its because you do not know your stuff and are just floundering.

@MerrynSW @priteshpatel9 As a parent of a neurodivergent child I must have missed the part where I became a ‘carer’. Must’ve missed the ‘benefits’ too.

@priteshpatel9 You become a carer. Benefits.