Allison Paz

If you’re overly invested in the system, you aren’t incentivized to change anything.

no matter how angry you are, there are hurtful things you can never say to people you claim to love

I could ask him to drive me 3 hours for an ice cream and he’d say ‘alright, ready when you are’. Wouldn’t even bat an eyelid. Stop spending your life with men who barely tolerate you.

I think the classiest revenge in the world is never letting someone have access to you again.

@LizWolfeReason We don’t know each other but I’m so sorry for what you are going through. A parent should never have to lose a child.

absolutely MOGGED by grief, tomwaitsmaxxing SO hard

One thing that narcissists do is vicious verbal rants that are intended to crush and destroy people. They do this face to face. I have been on the receiving end of this evil a few times, as an adult, and it was devastating. I cannot imagine a child having to endure this.

regardless of relationship structure, a man who believes it's unhealthy to put his partner's needs ahead of his own and a woman who believes that self erasure is what makes a relationship work are two of the worst people to partner to each other.

This is literally the reason I finally left my exhusband. I could not let her grow up thinking that being treated like shit was normal and ok.

Marriage and motherhood are great if your spouse is also great, and if not, marriage and motherhood are bad. There I summarized the discourse, everybody can go home.

defending a person & then experiencing why nobody likes them is very humbling.

There is a specific kind of intelligence that is almost never celebrated but is consistently effective: the intelligence that recognizes when the game being played is not the game worth playing.

i’m very adamant about this. miserable people purposefully try to dysregulate you.

No one tells you that parenting is just relearning the world through someone who thinks worms are friends & birds are miracles. It’s the most healing thing I’ve ever done. My daughter looked out the window this morning & said, everything is green & growing. I told her, you too. And something inside me whispered, so are you. Now I’m watching her hold flowers up to the sun while the light bends like it recognizes her. It’s funny, every spring I think I’m teaching my child about the world & every spring she proves she’s the one teaching me how to see it.

My ancestors buried half their children. All mine are alive. My ancestors' house had a dirt floor. Mine is wood. I have indoor plumbing, I have hot water, I have never in my life hauled a full bucket half a mile and I probably never will. Do you know how rare it is, in human history, for small children to wear shoes? Mine have multiple pairs. I can speak to my relatives who live thousands of miles away, for free, at any time. Video, if we want video. With machine translation, if we speak different languages. The original Library of Congress had 740 books in it. I have more than that. If I run out of books in my home my local public library has 350,000. If I want to take a hundred books with me on vacation, they all fit on a device that fits in my purse. I have heat in the winter and AC in the summer and a washing machine and I have never, ever, ever had to scrub a dress clean by hand in the stream. I can look up recipes from more than a hundred different countries and I've tried dozens of them. I ride a clean and modern train across my city for $4, or take a robot taxi if I'm out too late for the train. I donate $40,000 every year to the cause of getting healthcare to the world's poorest people and even after the donations I never have to think about whether I can afford a book, or a pair of shoes, or a cup of coffee. There is a great deal more to fight for, of course. I hope that our descendants will look back on our lives and list a thousand ways they're richer. Maybe we ourselves will do that, if some of the crazier stuff comes true. But the abundance is all around you and to a significant degree you aren't feeling it only because fish don't notice water.

There have been zero attacks against random Muslims by family members who lost people on Oct 7

Narcissists be like: How dare you ruin my reputation by telling people things I did and said.

men be like yes i hurt you but now you hate me so i am the true victim

What the hell is wrong with you? 48 hours ago two men were beaten in your district for speaking Hebrew. Earlier today there was a shooting at a Jewish school in Michigan. Is it politics? Lack of empathy? Are you actually racist?

Does Working Moms Day come with a free home cleaning and someone to do the laundry? Otherwise I’m really tired of the marketing BS.

You were sucking the life out of her until she became a shell of herself. Not being around you gave her so much more mental clarity and peace in order to do more self care. Hope that helps

Growing up as the descendant of Holocaust survivors, I was constantly asking myself, "How could it happen...?" Now I get it.