Paul Benjamin

What’s a girl to do in today’s dating market? If she makes a man wait for sex she gets chastised for using sex to manipulate him. If she has sex with him early then she is shamed for having “low morals.” If she has sex with him and it doesn’t work out, then she adds another body to her body count. So how is a woman supposed to navigate dating? It’s actually simple. Men aren’t demanding “sex by date 3” in a vacuum.
 They’re looking for evidence of genuine desire. 
Sex is just the clearest signal. Women lie/negotiate desire constantly. Men are tired of solving the puzzle. 
They don’t want:
• A woman settling for him
• Rules for him that she broke for hotter guys
• to be seen as utility/provider instead of raw attraction So solving this problem is super simple. Stop settling. 
Women, don’t date men a man unless he actually turns you on. And if ONLY toxic guys or unavailable guys or 1% of guys who are super models turn you on → go get therapy. 
2. Demonstrate desire WITHOUT sex. Men can wait surprisingly well if they feel:
• Wanted
• Pursued
• Admired
• Sexually anticipated Kiss him. Touch him. Flirt. Text first. Show excitement. Be consistent.
Tell him you’re into him, you want intimacy, but that you don’t want to make a mistake and let it happen early. Have adult discussions about sex and values instead of text messages. The problem is many women are entitled and have bad attitudes towards men. They don’t act feminine and warm. And this is because they date men who they aren’t really attracted to anything besides his bank account. Or they are entitled and make men jump through hoop after hoop just to get them out for a drink. Or they use sex as a tool to get what they want and then shame men for not wanting to meet their conditions. Or they shame men for wanting intimacy all together with them, forgetting that if it was only sex they were after they could pay for a hotter woman to at least pretend to like them. Women, keep showing up like that and you are going to keep having a bad time. Last point is for the men: Women’s mating strategy changes over time and with learned experiences. 
At 21 yr old or woman right after a divorce or something might’ve been reckless. At 35 or 40 maybe she’s trying not to repeat mistakes. And maybe if you are out dating that 35 or 40 year old you should consider HER concerns as well as your own. Don’t just look at body count or “she fucked Chad faster” as your only data point. If that’s you, then I know you don’t fuck women. I know you are an incel who has a lot more work to do that you will probably never do. Don’t be that guy. I’m not saying to ignore things like previous behaviors and red flags, but you need to consider the whole human being. Ask the most important questions of: Does she show authentic desire for ME now? And is she CAPABLE of being a warm, carefree, feminine woman to be around who is capable of a long term relationship? The problem is, too many women are asking guys to wait for sex but not demonstrating that they are worth the wait. And too many guys are just full out retards. Can’t seduce. Can’t have empathy. Can’t communicate or not be a dork. And then they are worried about some mythical “Chad” that fucked her before him instead of worrying about how to be more attractive and have better social and seduction skills. It’s not that hard to not be that clueless girl or guy. You just have to stop being arrogant, look in the mirror, and start fixing yourself… one flaw at a time.

I can coach women too (but they have to stop bullshitting themselves and listen)

Where do the successful men in her age category hang out in Austin? Go there. Make friends. Have those friends introduce her to single guys. It’s actually easy but will take about 2 months to build into. But patience pays off as this has a MUCH higher ROI for a 62 year old woman then swiping mindlessly on apps. This is all assuming she is actually attractive at 62 (meaning not obese and I am being serious). If she isn’t actually then there are a lot more steps before she gets here.

I have a friend in Austin. Attractive woman 62 years old. Professional. Divorced. She doesn’t want to use apps. What is the best way to meet men her age in your opinion?

Imagine if someone prayed and prayed to someday become an auto mechanic, but never made any moves to train himself to learn about cars. That’s basically how too many Christians approach relationships .

Never thought of it like that. 🤔

Facts

@NamekHybrid @T0mdrum You are just a low resolution thinker who doesn’t understand how second and third order effects work, and who doesn’t recognize when someone is presenting a solution for an individual vs a systemic one.

@T0mdrum @apxmindset The solution your offering is so narrow minded is crazy, so what about lesbians? Or women who don't want relationships? Are they just fucked because they don't have a man? Also relying on "good men" in public to help is naive as most men do not intervene to help just watch.

Women do have struggles that men don’t understand. But most of these struggles can be solved by being with a masculine guy who knows how to care for and protect a woman. So when women are online shitting on men, they are literally shitting on the solution to their problems.

@mazda_mx5_red Yes. Because guys are more successful at violence. Don’t think women wouldn’t be more often if they could be more successful at it, because the data shows otherwise.

@apxmindset So... We need a guy to keep us safe from... Guys? My God 💀

This is probably bullshit but I can’t help but laugh my ass off if it’s true. 😂

2 things that come to mind. One is what a fucking weirdo. He could just share the post and comment t on it for engagement. There is just no real benefit to trying to steal a post, let alone any ethics behind it. Two, the only people who criticize someone for posting a photo in a bikini is women who don’t look good in bikini’s, and men who can’t get women who look good in bikini’s.

I’m gonna tell you a story that I experienced yesterday that was probably one of the most hypocritical moments I’ve seen in my 15 years on social media I’ve experienced a lot, but this one really opened my eyes to what’s actually going on. There’s somebody I’ve followed for a while now. Big self-proclaimed conservative Christian with a large following. Always talking about family values, putting your family first, and rejecting the mainstream narrative. Ironically, they stole a post from a friend of mine, cropped out her name, and tried to pass it off as their own. When I tagged my friend and gave credit to the original creator, they not only blocked me, but blocked her too, then went private to try to hide what they had done. What makes this even more ironic is these are the same people who told me I shouldn’t be posting bikini pictures.😂 Yet they see nothing wrong with stealing someone else’s work and claiming it as their own. This is what we’re dealing with on social media: sinners judging sinners who sin differently, while wrapping it all up in a “I’m better than you because I have a ✝️ in my bio” persona. This is exactly why social media was engineered for envy. It’s less about “what you’re doing” and more about “why can’t I do it too” and one of the best things you can do if you’re gonna be online it live your life unapologetically and transparent Because what matters in the end is those who are gonna be around when this fake world goes away.

I love being sexualized. If that were all I offered, I could make millions. But I have other passions things that don’t pay, but give me purpose. Women who excel at multiple things love being sexualized. They know it’s just one of the many things they do and they’re not dependent on it.  The only women who get triggered when objectified by men are the ones reminded that it’s all they have to offer and it’s fleeting.

@chaossstude lol that’s one take. I would say it would do both men and women well to eliminate the word “deserve” from their vocabulary, and focus on earning the things that they want.

@apxmindset women deserve nothing

@kaileesi_ I highly recommend that women get one, learn how to use it, and live in a place where she can freely have one without the government locking her up. Ironically all the places that would support her self defense rights in that manner don’t have these problems.

@apxmindset A gun is even more effective than a man.

Worth mentioning, toxic liberal women voted for this shit. It’s almost comical.

A negative attitude. Being entitled, rude, unpleasant, and having an overall shitty outlook on everything. It’s gross.

Facts. I keep telling ya’ll but you don’t go out and talk to real women, and you simp for filtered chicks online (many of you)

@RememberNine_10 I’m making a point for everyone else. Don’t care about the slop account,

@apxmindset You're right but you're replying to a 3rd world ragebait slop account

Modern women are actually so ridiculously safe today that it makes them delusional. Anyone who has been around violence and understands it knows, a r@pist isn’t going to “not rape” because HR gave a really good class on not r@ping. Or how about that “don’t murder people” convention for murders? Protect yourselves dumbasses. Whatever fantasy special training you think should exist so people won’t do violent shit doesn’t work.

If your woman is in a committed relationship and suddenly “needs” a girls trip full of alcohol, nightlife, validation, secrecy, and “what happens here stays here” energy… She’s not acting like someone protecting a relationship. She’s acting like someone emotionally checking out of one. Loyal people don’t put themselves in environments designed to test loyalty for entertainment. A woman who truly values her relationship doesn’t crave distance from her man to go play single with her friends. The trip isn’t always the problem. The mindset usually is.

Even funnier though is that women have been using the system to gain advantages over men for decades, and now they turn around and complain they can’t find one who is doing the same or better than they are. Which isn’t even really true, it’s just a way to flex on social media.