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Prefer that he do things promptly, as she likes it? Is she talking about a man (who is a different individual) or a programmed robot?

Dating apps introduced distribution at scale to the sexual marketplace. Men value access to sex while women value the possibility of a long-term relationship. Because sex can be fleeting and without recourse men are willing to sleep with women that are below them in “value” in the sexual marketplace. Because women are focused on relationships and procreation they are generally more likely to attempt to maximize the “value” of their chosen mate in the sexual marketplace. As a result of scaled digital distribution and the receding taboo around hookup culture women suddenly found that they had instant access to men that wouldn’t typically hit on them in real life let alone pursue a relationship with. They could open an app and find a man that they previously thought was out of their league who is drunk or horny at any time of the day or night. Initially this simply resulted in women calling guys assholes at a growing clip in parralel with the instances of less attractive women who were hooked up with and then instantly dumped by guys hotter than them. But then something strange happened. First we started seeing women come to terms with the fact that they were hooking up with guys out of their league. But instead of lowering their standards they just started re framing them as “situationships” and “rosters” because it was less painful vs accepting that they were dating out of their league. Then the vast majority of guys who were by default increasingly ignored by the majority of women who were all pursuing the small cohort of “higher value” guys … will these “lower value” guys just started opting out of the sexual marketplace entirely. They started “locking in” or “getting red-pilled”. Meanwhile because men will tell women whatever they want to hear to get laid and women lie to each other out of tribalism and intra-gender competition there was no one to tell the girls that they were increasingly delusional in their dating expectations or that things like age-based looks were far more important to most men vs a women’s career progression. This led to rampant dating expectations on the female side further alienating the median male even as “high value” men seemed to be exempt from any expectations. In other words if you’re hot you can call her at 3am and then ignore her the next day and she’s fine with it but if you’re a normal guy you better be sending her an uber to a nice restaurant with flowers. But because of social media the average men became increasingly aware of this phenomena. And now they’re enraged. Either they become obsessed with getting hot (clavicular) or they start to just hate women in an unhealthy adversarial way. At the same time because of the increased hookup component with guys out of their traditional “league” on the female side a whole industry of female influencers have popped up to make women feel better about their newly found sexual liberation. Now to be clear there is definitely a component of traditional and religious framing of sex that women have been moving past for decades. But this is something else. This has become mostly women who would prefer to be monogamous with one guy but being forced into a more fluid situation of dating multiple guys at once simply because that lets them retain access to those guys who are out of their league. And so influencers like Alex Cooper have built an entire genre of female empowerment around reducing the shame associated with sleeping with hot guys who won’t commit to you. Now where it gets dark is not only are the non-hot men resentful. The first cohort of women from the dating app era are just hitting the proverbial wall. And they are realizing that the previously mentioned hot guys by virtue of digital distribution have access to newly minted early 20s girls and find that more attractive vs women in their 30s. Continued below…

From two of my only-half-joking polls, this is pretty common. The idea that protection/room-scanning does not count as "mental load," or that women spend more time managing MEN'S emotions than vice versa is - again - almost facially nonsensical.

Single girlfriend in NYC’s text exchange with a Hinge match. She’s upset. In my opinion… - She’s entitled to whatever expectations of men she wants, but asking a stranger from the internet to send a car is cringey, and she has no business being upset if he won’t - The guy’s response is simultaneously fair, abrasive, and weird. Just say “How about I come to you?” if you still want the date, or “I don’t think this is a fit…” if you don’t Hard not to stay stuck single if you interact like this 😬

Nolan publicly saying he referenced her translations a lot while working on the movie and then her saying this is one of those things that reinforces why so much of the public finds academics insufferably snobbish and elitist

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