fryingpanchin72

for the autist who struggles with eye contact, be nietzchean about it. make eye contact like holding your hand over a stove. control the pain. assert your dominance. redirect the discomfort. one of us is going to struggle to make eye contact and its not going to be me.

Burger King CEO takes a big bite of a Whopper in new video after McDonald’s CEO went viral for reluctantly nibbling the chain’s new Big Arch Burger.

the “people are homeless because they refuse housing” line is so infuriating bc ut comes from a real place, but what people are actually refusing is parternalistic control. People do want housing, they just don’t want curfews, bureaucratic bullshit, sobriety requirements, etc.

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Venezuela's President Nicolás Maduro breaks into singing John Lennon's 'Imagine' as he talks about US tensions.

I saw this with some regularity, but people don’t actually want diversity where they live. They say they do for two reasons. 1. They think it’s a thing they’re supposed to say socially 2. “Diversity” means good restaurants Across nearly all groups nearly all the time, people want to be around people with a similar worldview, income, and priorities.

"Koona t'chuta Solo? Soong peetch alay. Ee mara tom tee tok maky cheesa. Jabba won neechee kochba mu shanee wy tonny wya uska. Chosky nowy u chusu." —Mayor Jacob Frey

Do guys over-assume interest or under-assume interest? IME it various tremendously by the guy as well as by the situation. e.g., your typical nice guy, in my experience, will tend to assume anything women do around him is “just them being friendly.” I had a nice guy tell me about a time his hot female friend asked them to sleep with her in bed because she “was lonely”… the girl stripped down to her underwear… and he did nothing because “I didn’t want her to think I was a creep.” 😑 Then he asked me if maybe I thought she wanted him to do something. Yeah dude. I think she did. I’ve taken out guys who had girls all over them and watched those guys be like, “She was just being friendly, right?” and you will be like dude… that girl wanted to go home with you. OTOH, nice guys who get ‘hooked’ on a girl can start interpreting everything she does as a secret signal of attraction to them. Girls who have rejected them 10 times already who show some little friendly interest can have that interpreted as “I think she might be into me.” Often, once nice guys are in relationships, they also tend to overestimate how in-love with them the woman is, projecting their feelings onto her. This is part of why you see so many guys “blindsided by divorce” — it’s always nice guys talking about how “I thought she was happy!” The guy was happy, so assumed his woman must be too. Guys who are players on the other hand often overestimate interest from women up-front and underestimate it later on. Using myself as an example… I test for compliance and everything but more or less assume every girl is interested until proven otherwise. (Makes it easy to follow up doggedly and persist through resistance at various stages. Always in a smooth way, of course, but still — I’m not just going to walk off if I like her and I can still get her to comply.) I have had many girls I’ve been with who told me after sleeping together that they weren’t actually interested in me until late in the game (e.g., the kiss at my place, seeing me shirtless, etc.). Then you look back and are like, “Hmm, yeah, she wasn’t really flirting much or responding to my touch or much of anything. Hmm!” (More girls will sleep with you than most guys realize just because you’ve made them comfortable enough with you and gotten them alone somewhere with you and they decided, “What the heck, why not?”) Conversely, I will get a lot of girls who after sleeping together will start chasing, professing all these emotions, telling me how special I am, bringing me food, buying me gifts, etc., and in my head I am saying, “Well, that is sweet and everything, but she probably says/does that with every guy.” Women usually need to do a lot for me before I start realizing that MAYBE they mean it (maybe!). I have talked to other experienced guys with similar thoughts (getting ready to publish an interview with our December Skilled Seducer of the Month, Topcat, who said something similar to this in his interview IIRC). So yeah, it is a bit complicated. But generally — and this is just in general — I would say: • Inexperienced men vastly underestimate interest from random girls, while overestimating it from girls they become fixated on + women they are in relationships with. • Experienced men tend to overestimate interest from random girls (while still moving on quick if a girl is just not responsive enough), while underestimating it from women they are in relationships with. That has been my experience, and what I have seen with a lot of guys.