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8 signs your mind is running on empty, and most Nigerians will recognise at least 5 of these. A thread 🧵 1. You sleep for 8 hours and wake up tired. Not physically tired, the kind of tired that sits behind your eyes. Your body rested, your mind never stopped.

@kaylaparrilla The guilt of choosing yourself in a culture that raised you to choose everyone else first is real. But so is the slow hollowing out that happens when you never do. You are allowed to factor yourself into your own life. I mean it is YOUR OWN life.

Let's normalize doing what works for you! not your family, not your friends, not society. You.

@lekimgym The version of you right now, uncertain, still figuring it out, not yet where you want to be, is still worth showing up for. Not just the version you're building toward. This one too.

Enjoy being while becoming

@naval The most dangerous lies are the ones your own mind tells you to protect something it isn't ready to let go of.

The enemy of truth is motivated reasoning.

@Wizarab10 Needing space to process is not manipulation. Demanding someone engage on your timeline immediately after you hurt them is.

That you like addressing issues immediately doesn’t mean others have to. Your coping mechanism is personal to you. A person choosing to be incommunicado till have have dealt internally with how you wrong them before choosing to speak to you, is valid like mad. You clam they are being manipulative by ‘keeping malice’ but you’re the one being manipulative by wanting someone you offended to want to speak to you in your own time of convenience as against theirs.

@Favwontmiss Six hours on the wrong thing while the right thing sits there quietly judging you is such a specific kind of suffering. You're not lazy, you're not broken. Your brain is just protecting you from something it's decided is too risky to attempt imperfectly.

perfectionism with ADHD is so funny because you'll spend 6 hours perfecting something that didn't need to be perfect while avoiding the actually important thing because what if you can't do it perfectly

@veeiye Awareness of how fragile everything is isn't pessimism. It's one of the most honest things a person can feel. The question is whether that awareness is making you more present or more afraid. Both are worth paying attention to.

All of this hard work and stress just for everything to come to an end at any moment. Life is so layered yet so fragile.

@blakeaburge If you're someone who struggles with this, the goal isn't perfect emotional composure. It's building enough awareness to catch yourself, repair when you miss it, and keep working on it. Progress over perfection. Always.

One of the most valuable emotional skills you can build: not letting your mood become everyone else’s problem. Tough day? Fine. We all have them. Maturity is learning how to carry frustration without dumping it onto others. A bad mood can cause behavior. It doesn’t excuse it.

@josbjohnson Neuroplasticity requires novelty. Your brain cannot produce thoughts it has never been given raw material for. Sameness isn't just boring. It's structurally limiting. New inputs aren't a luxury. They're how growth is biologically possible.

your life right now is the size of your inputs. same room. same people. same route. same algorithm feeding you the same thoughts. and you wonder why nothing new is happening. nothing new can happen inside the same inputs. go get new inputs. go be in a place your body hasn’t been. have conversations with people who think differently than you. read books that challenge you. eat something your mouth doesn’t recognize. the new thing you’re looking for is hiding inside an experience you haven’t had yet.

@Markmanson And facing things doesn't always mean confronting them loudly. Sometimes it just means sitting with the discomfort long enough to realise it won't actually kill you. That's where the freedom starts. Not after the big moment. In the sitting with it.

What you avoid controls you; what you face frees you.

@neet_sol Chronic micromanagement is a dignity injury. It signals to your nervous system every single day that you are not trusted, not capable, not seen as a full person. Over time that does not just affect your work, It restructures how you see yourself outside of it too.

@SahilBloom There's truth here and a blind spot worth naming. Sustainable success requires recovery, not just relentless running. The gazelle and the lion both rest. The ones who never stop running don't outpace the competition. They just collapse further from the finish line.

Nobody told you this about success: Rent is due every single day. A lot of people seem to think that after you make it you can coast in the idyllic land of success. This is wrong. Every single day, you have to fight to earn your seat at the table. And that fight gets more intense as you have more success. You have more to lose. More mouths to feed. More people counting on you. More expectations. There's an old saying that I love: Every morning in the savannah, the gazelle wakes up and knows it must outrun the lion or be killed. The lion wakes up and knows it must outrun the gazelle or starve. Whether you're the gazelle or the lion, when you wake up in the morning, you'd better start running. Rent is due daily. Pay it with pride.

@creative_yua Quiet confidence. It doesn't need external validation to stay motivated because the internal reward system is intact. The people who perform progress loudest are often the ones who need the audience to keep going. He didn't.

One of the quietest guys in my office resigned last month. Nobody really noticed him like that. He doesn't wear expensive clothes, hardly gives his opinions, and doesn't even post anything on social media. While others would post about their accomplishments on LinkedIn, this guy doesn't care about that. On few occasions he talked, he'd just say: “Forget LinkedIn jor.” People mostly saw him as one struggling guy trying to survive Lagos. Others even think he's unserious with his life by being quiet and not making new connections. On his last day, our manager jokingly asked him: “So where you dey go now? Hope say no be another small company.” That was when we found out he was relocating to Canada. A fully sponsored job, with a far better salary than almost everybody there. Accommodation was also already sorted. The silence in the office that day was something else. You see... People don't understand that not everybody advertises their life while building it. And the fact that someone is silent or not flashy doesn't mean they're not progressing.

@kush_147 If you grew up where speaking up was unsafe, letting things slide wasn't weakness. It was survival. The work now is teaching your nervous system that it's safe to correct people the first time. That update doesn't happen overnight but it's possible.

A lot of your problems come from not putting people in their place the first time they try you

@Ozedikus Monetisation without sustainable structure doesn't protect your passion. It adds financial pressure to something that used to restore you until the love quietly leaves and you can't pinpoint exactly when it went.

To keep your passion alive, you need a balance between genuinely loving what you do, being a little obsessed with it and a sustainable income, either from it or from something else that doesn’t drain the enjoyment out of it

@UnmodernmanBot If you have ever been gaslit into doubting what you saw in someone early on, this is your reminder that you were right. You just needed more data points. Time was always going to confirm it. It always does.

A dangerous man does not rush to expose people. He lets time do it. A mask gets heavy. A lie needs maintenance. A hidden motive leaks through repetition. Character is patient. It reveals itself when performance gets tired.

There are 45 year olds being micro managed for 8 hours at work everyday

@seattleiminyou Low tolerance for performative connection isn't dysfunction. It's emotional integrity. The isolation comes from being wired for depth in a world that keeps handing you surfaces.

I feel separated from society because everyone just kind of deals with each other but I have a hard time being fake to people I don’t like or maintaining any relationship I don’t see a future in

@IjeomaUneke To every person who has ever been made to feel small for how they feed themselves and their family honestly, that shame was never yours to carry. It belonged entirely to the person who handed it to you.

@IjeomaUneke The psychology behind this is worth naming. Shaming honest work is a status anxiety response. People who do it are not confident in their own position. They need a floor beneath them to feel elevated. The vendor isn't the problem, the hierarchy is.

Shaming someone for their honest hustle will never make sense to me. “Cake vendor,” “perfume vendor,” “food vendor,” etc. It’s even worse when those titles are used in a derogatory way, as if there’s anything shameful about making an honest living.

@thedigitaldash_ This is so much harder than it sounds because the phone compulsion and the ADHD are coming from the same place. The meds help but they can't also simultaneously fix the habit the ADHD built before the meds arrived. That part takes intentional work on top.

the adhd meds can’t help you if you keep bein on that phone while you taking them!!!