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That's us! 🌍
The Artemis II crew captured beautiful, high-resolution images of our home planet during their journey to the Moon. As @Astro_Christina put it: "You guys look great."
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I saw this post and it stopped me because this is something I’ve been teaching for a long time.
The data isn’t surprising to me. Structure improves relationships. We’ve seen it over and over again with the families we work with at Tensai.
But here’s what I want to add to the conversation.
The reason most parents struggle with structure isn’t because they don’t believe in it. It’s because structure requires something from them first.
Whatever standard you set for your child, you have to keep it yourself. That’s where it falls apart for a lot of families.
You tell your child “no cursing” but they hear you curse.
You tell them “put the phone down” but you’re scrolling through yours at dinner.
You set a bedtime for them but you have no discipline around your own sleep.
Children are watching. And when they spot the gap between what you say and what you do, they stop taking the rules seriously.
Not because they’re rebellious. Because they’re honest.
They see the hypocrisy and they call it out. And most parents aren’t ready for that conversation.
So the first step to building structure for your child is building it for yourself.
Now here’s the part that connects to what I teach daily.
A lot of parents come to us wanting their child to perform better academically. “My child doesn’t want to read.” “My child can’t focus.” “My child hates studying.”
But when we look at the home, there’s no structure supporting that outcome. No dedicated study time. No screen limits. No homework routine.
The child has unfettered access to devices, entertainment, distractions.
Everything in the environment is working against the very thing the parent is asking for.
You can’t demand academic performance in a home that’s structured for entertainment.
Structure is what makes everything else possible. The bond. The discipline. The academic results. It all falls to the level of structure you have in place.
And yes, I agree with the original post. High warmth plus high structure is the winning formula.
You can absolutely have a deep, loving bond with your child while maintaining firm boundaries. Those two things aren’t in conflict. They strengthen each other.
But I’ll add one thing.
Structure alone doesn’t build a child who wants to learn. It creates the environment where learning can happen.
The desire comes from something else. It comes from how the child feels when they study. From what happens after the effort.
From whether the experience is rewarding or punishing.
That’s a whole other conversation. And I’ll share more on that soon.
Dr Danish@operationdanish
We now have evidence that gentle parenting doesn’t work. Here’s an uncomfortable truth about parenting no one wants to say out loud: The data is not kind to gentle parenting. According to teenagers, strict curfews. strict bedtimes, screen limits, device drop off times, dedicated homework blocks, and sleepover restrictions IMPROVE higher relationship quality. And yes, parenting difficulty goes up. Of course it does. Leadership is harder than appeasement. For the past decade we have been sold a watered down, Instagram friendly version of “gentle parenting” that often collapses into boundary avoidance, endless negotiation and emotional processing without enforcement. Parents terrified of saying no because they do not want to rupture connection. But connection without authority is not connection. It is dependency. When parents impose structure, the relationship improves. Teenagers report better parent child relationship quality in homes with curfews and rules. Younger kids report better relationships in homes with screen limits and bedtimes. Even device drop off times correlate positively. Why? Because structure is not cruelty. Structure is love made visible. A bedtime says: your brain matters more than your entertainment. A screen limit says: your dopamine system is not fully developed and I will guard it until it is. A curfew says: your safety matters more than your social standing. That is not authoritarianism. That is caring. Boundaries create friction. Friction creates growth. The parent absorbs the short term discomfort so the child does not pay the long term cost. Children do not experience well calibrated limits as rejection. They experience them as stability. The human brain craves predictability. Predictability reduces anxiety. Reduced anxiety strengthens attachment. That is why relationship quality goes up. Notice something else in the data. The strongest effects are around time structure. Bedtime. Homework. Devices. Outside play. These are environmental constraints. They scaffold executive function. The winning formula is not tyranny. It is high warmth plus high structure. The modern failure mode is high warmth plus low structure. That is just abdication of responsibility wrapped in empathy. Children need leadership, not negotiation. They need adults who can tolerate their anger. They need boundaries that do not move every time emotions spike. They need someone whose prefrontal cortex is fully myelinated. The harder path produces the stronger bond. Because when a child feels that someone is strong enough to hold the line, they relax. And relaxed nervous systems build durable relationships.
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If your child becomes a reader, about 80% of the educational job is already done. That's our honest assessment, based on many of us working in education for over three decades. Everything else is secondary. Most parents think science education is important. Yes, it is. But if you can't read the biology textbook, you're not going to learn biology.
Reading is the meta-skill that enables all other skills. History requires reading. Science requires reading. Even math increasingly requires reading as it becomes more sophisticated. The child who reads voraciously will figure out everything else. The child who doesn't will struggle with everything.
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A diet book from 1958, telling people to stop counting calories and to cut carbs and eat animal fats instead.
A million miles better than 99% of diet books that have been churned out since then.
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Indian performance in wars so far:
1947- Lost territory.
1961- Victory.
1962- Surprised. Lost
1965- Surprised. No gains. No penalty to enemy or own slackers.
1967- Victory.
1971- Great victory.
1984- Victory.
IPKF- Like US in Afg.
1999 - Same as 1965.
2020- Stalemate
Opinions?
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𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐝𝐢𝐳𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐟 𝐏𝐮𝐧𝐣𝐚𝐛𝐢 𝐋𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐮𝐚𝐠𝐞:
In order to promote Punjabi as a language of science, administration, education and literature having a standardized written dialect is essential. But so far Punjabis don’t have a clear position
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Correction: its chakwal pehlwan rewari from Panjab not Pakistani*
خان@khantainer
Good to see Pakistani pehlawan rewrri in Bangladesh after decades.
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@KookieFore55652 @KantInEast These societies are manages directly by GHQ Housing Directorate so they enforce military style discipline just like Cantonments. Indian Cantts would be the same if not more clean.
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@KantInEast F...king hell. These are roads in a country whose GDP is a fraction of what India has. I don’t think I’ve seen roads as clean as this even in some of the poshest localities of South Delhi
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DHA in Pakistan stands for Defence Housing Authority, showcasing lavish homes in an extremely low-GDP country that hasn't seen war since the 2000s. It’s a lot like Indian bureaucrats—sending their kids abroad, building mansions, without any valuable contribution to society.
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The example of Fateh Khan Jat inspired Shaikh Hamid to revolt. Fateh Khan Jat had risen to great prominence extending his sway across the Lakhi jungle and carried up his depredations up to Panipat and also displaced Baloch warlords from Multan and humiliated the Afghan generals.
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@Ataturk19051881 @BheriaMS A significant number of Arains are assimilated Muslim Kambohs.
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askhually true, you’ll never find that phenotype in Punjabi Sikhs/Punjabj Hindus, centuries of complex genetic selection/eugenics needed to get a Mard-e-Mujahid Mard-e-Haq
Yottachad@GS05445168
I can tell Pakjabis and Indian Punjabis apart. Hundreds of years of cousin marriage on the other side have created a distinct phenotype
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on Rai Kharral:
"Ahmad Khan .... headed the combined tribes in no less than five insurrections, which to a certain extent all proved successful .... This success had spread his renown far and wide." This gave him great influence and the outbreak in 1857 was mainly planned by him.
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There is a Persian proverb 'The Dogar, Bhatti, the Wattu, and the Kharral are all rebellious and ought to be slain." "Through all historic times the Kharrals have been a turbulent, savage, and thievish tribe, ever impatient of control and delighting in strife and plunder."
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Ghuri was incited by the Jamun Raja to invade Panjab. But the Kokhars (Khokhars) continued to be a threat. Cutting off roads between Peshawar and Multan, laying waste to the country between Jhelum and Sodra, being prepared to take Lahore and also forming links with other rebels.
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@Sw33tt0o lol they are mostly high caste Punjabis and our creme de la creme who got mistakenly swayed by that kana dajjal. They are our own people and will be soon brought back to mainstream Muslim fold. We are not gonna loose them for some foreign so-called Muslim ethnicity.
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Imagine getting lynched left and right for being ahmadi while you are more interested in barking at Pashtuns instead of worrying about your own people. Go to Punjab and tell Punjabis you are Punjabi Nationalist and ahamdi and see if they choose you or the Pashtun you hate.
NEZA@NEZAnetworking
The “mainstream” Punjabi lives in small towns and villages. Our “educated elite” has kept us sedated to hate against us all this time. We have only woken up. Thank you for making us realize.
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