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@krozberry @cardamomkiss @SarahW761102 It is crazy how thirsty I would get the second my baby latched.

@torioftexas @cardamomkiss @SarahW761102 And water bottle. If the baby is breastfed then the water is for mom, if the baby is older than the water is for the baby

All specifically designed diaper bags are hideous you should just use a regular tote bag

@outofoffice90 I agree sadly. Which is why I often find myself in very left wing spaces. Blur coded things are just generally more interesting to me. I wish there were more high openness conservatives. I don’t think it has to be an oxymoron but maybe it does.

Not surprising. The idea of study abroad/immersion presupposes a willingness to engage with other people, cultures, languages, food, ways of living, and destinations that can be far different from your own. Conservatives are not known for their openness to that.

@CoKeynesian My SEC school had a substantial conservative population. On the school’s study abroad programs I was the only conservative in many situations. My conservative friends often don’t understand my interest in travel at all sadly.

American conservatism has degenerated to a state where studying and appreciating foreign cultures is coded as liberal.

@culturalcritic3 @theisabelb It is amazing how much mom’s want to stop other moms from doing things. I saw a post a few days ago of a mom asking if she could go on a 2 night girls trip without her 19 month old. The comments were full of other moms shaming her for considering it.

@torioftexas @theisabelb And I don’t understand why!!!

We bring my daughter pretty much everywhere—on planes, to restaurants, to film at the studio, even to the White House. Even in a city (DC) where virtually everyone prioritizes their job over everything, you should see people’s faces LIGHT UP when they see a baby enter the room. Secret Service agents get the biggest smiles. Staffers drop everything to want to hold her. Hostesses give us the best seat in the house. Flight attendants come over to play for half the flight. There is no greater joy than a smiling baby. Maybe we’re living through record low fertility because no one’s getting baby fever anymore 🤷🏼‍♀️

@cardamomkiss @krozberry @SarahW761102 The backup outfit is an essential

@krozberry @SarahW761102 Bottles for if your child is formula fed sure but the rest falls into "I think you may be overpacking"

@culturalcritic3 @theisabelb I think a lot of the online discourse around parenthood is moms with a martyr complex. Then they project that onto everyone and shame moms who do things without their kids.

Both of my parents had vibrant social lives with lots of friends when I was growing up. I have memories of being taken all sorts of places with them, but I also loved it when my parents would leave me home with a babysitter. I have no idea where the narrative of parenthood as a prison came from, but it’s exceptionally harmful.

@kangalope @Evie_Magazine Sadly that isn’t the first time Evie has been accused of publishing AI written articles. It is a shame because Evie has potential but churning out lazy slop like this isn’t going to help elevate the magazine.

@torioftexas @Evie_Magazine The em dashes are a sign of AI written copy

We were sold the lie to go after our careers, make money, and make our mark on the world first, and then go find a partner once we've accomplished A through C. We used to have a backstop against some of this—our biological clock ticking louder around our mid-thirties—but we did an end run around that too, with egg freezing. Not a single man told us to do any of this. In fact, historically, they’ve been pretty petulant about the whole thing, but we pushed right through that sentiment by calling them all “toxic” and threatening them with cancellation if they didn’t comply. While we were busy climbing the corporate ladder, the men in our cohort weren’t just waiting around for us to feel "ready" to settle down. They were dating, and as we aged up, they continued to date twenty-year-olds (women in their fertile prime, because that’s what men are biologically programmed to find attractive). So we freeze our eggs, maybe buying us some additional time. Ten years go by. Surely, the men left in their forties are still single because they're looking for something real, something mature; a woman of substance. Wrong. They're still dating twenty-year-olds. And it’s not really their fault; it’s mostly biology. Men have about the same fertility as they age until well into their sixties. Feminism forces us to reject biology, both on the male and female side. Read more here: bit.ly/47yWtRY

People will tell you to get the cheaper version of baby / kid items bc they technically work too but did you ever consider that I don’t want to spend my motherhood looking at ugly things? It harms me.

@AniseNot Being a Silvercross family

Uppababy because I’m a white person

@wrowclif A few days ago she implied a mom was doing things wrong by letting her 6 month old baby “control” her by responding to his cries. It was wild. I think she just has no connection to normal experiences like having kids.

@torioftexas She seems like she's not having the most fun with life.

If these things discourage fertility, then those folks perhaps weren't fit to breed to begin with. Something we all must consider.

@GodsTruthJim @Evie_Magazine I’m married with a baby so I’m good. But I also see how societal forces shape the decisions young women are making. Acting like they make these decisions in a vacuum and ignoring the data showing that higher earning women get married most is stupid.

@torioftexas @Evie_Magazine Irate woman, take accountability

@ChristinaPushaw @Evie_Magazine I feel like men who desperately want to ensure that their wife has no fall back option to support herself without them are telling on themselves a bit.

Yep. I am very familiar with those same circles; accomplished conservative men tend to marry accomplished conservative women. Sure, the wife might become a stay-at-home mom when their kids are young, but that would be her choice because she views it as her highest calling... not something she is forced into for lack of any other options.

@ChristinaPushaw @Evie_Magazine At a party for Fedsoc and Fedsoc friendly people we took a photo together with all of our engagement rings. Conservative and Christian men are also marrying the maligned “girlboss.”

@torioftexas @Evie_Magazine And, might be relevant to add, they're both Catholics and about as "trad" as can be in this day and age. Living traditional family values does not mean women should be deprived of education.

I think teacher is often a great career for women who want proximity to successful men in college but aren’t focused on having a high earning job/want flexibility for kids. Being a teacher still involves going to school though. According to this article those women should just sit around and wait for some 40 year old creep to want them at 20 though instead of just hanging out with men their age in higher education and finding a partner there.

My dad is a law professor and former attorney; he has said the same thing. It's most common for lawyers to marry another lawyer, especially now that the profession is about equal proportions of men and women. Same as physicians nowadays. He didn't marry a lawyer, but he did marry an educated woman (my mom was a teacher).

@ChristinaPushaw @Evie_Magazine Exactly. Anecdotally, the women in my law school class were mostly engaged and married within a year or so of graduation. The idea that men won’t marry women who are highly educated or have a career is not backed by the data. Those women are marrying at the highest rates.

The article also makes unsupported assertions that are contradicted by real-life data, if we look at marriage statistics in the USA. The vast majority of married couples are within 1-5 years of each other's ages, not 20 years apart. Most married couples are also closely matched in terms of their educational attainment and social class. It is human nature to prefer those you have a lot in common with.

@Evie_Magazine Add this to the list of articles and tweets that fail to understand that the gender wars are class wars.

I ended up on a date with a guy in his late 30’s when I was in my early 20’s. I remember realizing how much more life experience he had than me. It felt like we were at different stages of life and there would always be a large power imbalance. There was no second date. I think men who seek out large age gaps enjoy the power imbalance. Younger less experience women are easier to manipulate. Big age gaps give me the ick except in very rare case.

@ChristinaPushaw Yep. I truly have nothing against age gaps when they happen organically, but I am skeptical of old men (and young women) who go out seeking age gaps on purpose, and I just think most 40something men do not want to date, let alone marry, a woman that much younger than them!

I find this article sad for two reasons: (1) That feminism has failed countless women, including this author; and (2) That the author has such a low opinion of men as to think they don’t care about intelligence and only date with 20 year age gaps to the point of undergoing cosmetic surgery she clearly does not want (and that most men don’t even care for aesthetically). Insofar as Millennial women were failed by feminism and the prevailing cultural milieu of the 2010s (especially as far as longer term family formation is concerned), Millennial men were failed as well. There are lots and lots and lots of good people out there who are lost and listless and left behind and if we continue to assume the worst of each other, instead of seeing that reality, if we continue to define the opposite sex by the most extreme members—the women with triple-digit bodycounts, the men who refuse to date women above the age of 25—we risk losing sight of the (admittedly flawed) human beings in front of us, most of whom are looking for what we’re looking for: to love, and be loved.

@sivori Haven’t thought about that summer of 2011 in a long time. Wasn’t that when the fires happened in around August/September? The heat and dryness was unreal that summer.

I grew up in San Antonio and Austin. My first car lacked air conditioning. It’s really not that big of a deal. Don’t be fat and don’t be a wuss about sweating. In 2011, I recall 70 consecutive days of 100+ temps.