@RyanMalphrus @BeTraumaFree Did you train yourself to mentally say, "You're putting the MAL in Malphrus, RYAN!"
I bet that would have shook the system.
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THE PEOPLE'S THERAPIST, Expert
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THE PEOPLE'S THERAPIST, Expert
@Careerflex2
Back up to @careerflex.
Присоединился Ağustos 2025
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@BeTraumaFree You and me both 🤣
Can be hard to shake even once I recognize it at times. Feel real dumb in those moments, hard not to indulge.
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Nowadays when I get stuck in a rumination loop I can recognize it, name it and get myself out of it. A type of rumination I used to do was make up scenarios in my mind of an argument or conflict THAT NEVER HAPPENED and then I would feel upset about that made-up fantasy.
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@cubbi10284 @AlobhaPatrick Is there such a thing as an expert, or are all bodies of knowledge equal?
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@Careerflex2 @AlobhaPatrick The ones who claim to be highly specialised are projecting insecurity.
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@Rlrofthedohnuts @johnhawkinsrwn Slave mentality then
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@Careerflex2 @johnhawkinsrwn Not even, technically, peasants had family property of which the head of the family had trusteeship. Peasantry required more of a sense of obligation than this. Its less than peasant mentality.
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Kick Your Kids Out of the House at 18
There was never a question that I would be leaving home at 18. My parents did help me with college, and I came home on the weekends a lot my freshman year, but much less so as time went on.
When I got out of college, moving home wasn't an option. My parents didn't want me there, and I would have been ashamed to mooch off them.
Instead, I got a crap job, got roommates, and started making it on my own while driving a barely functional car my parents got me in high school. Did I visit? Did I ask for advice? Did I get some help from my parents here and there? Absolutely.
But you're not really an adult living your own life until you're out of your parents' house. "Oh, but it's tougher today...." No, it's not. Early on, my jobs sucked. I always had roommates. I had very little money. It was not fun, but I sucked it up and made it work. That doesn't make me exceptional; it just means I was doing what an adult was expected to do.
One way or the other, kids shouldn't be staying with their parents through their mid-twenties. They need to get out on their own, make their own way, and forge their own identity as something other than Mama and Daddy's little boy or girl.
Complex@Complex
Nearly half of Americans under 30 are living with their parents. About 49% of U.S. adults under 30 now live with at least one parent, according to new data cited by The Wall Street Journal from the Federal Reserve. (via @WSJ )
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@trevnorton Just how bad is your porn habit, buddy?
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This CUCK Believes an Angel came down with Golden Plates in the 1800s n calls others crazy LOL Fukin Hilarious #MormonTARDS
Dr Manhattva@Manhattva
I lost 100 followers for this post. Good.
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@MaryBethO_ @Tom_Selleck If your world views led you to addiction, what good are they?
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@Tom_Selleck I pulled a couple of ideas from 12-steps but most of the program didn't fit my worldview. Today many choices are available online, even if not in your local community.
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I recognize that faith and/or the 12-step approach works for many in #addiction recovery. And I certainly support them in this. But it doesn't work for many others. The problem arises when we go from "this worked for me" to "this is the only thing that will work for everyone."
GIF
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@BlackBlessedLDS It's a modern love story for our age.
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@cubbi10284 Memory is flawed, recreated over time. So the patient is just as biased and inaccurate as the psychiatrist.
People who call themselves experts are suspect
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@paulrenenichols @hot_cocoa_girl Salsalacious?
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I’m a bit averse to the whole “flown out” or “he paid for my uber” thing because why do I have to be the one in transit.
Why am I the burrito in the doordash car showing up at your doorstep? Nah I’d rather not
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@paulrenenichols @hot_cocoa_girl The best burrito she can be. Complete with cream filling by the time it's all said and done.
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@NickTaber That you did not roast me for typing "patience" makes you suss, man.
Super suss.
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@Careerflex2 From my POV, if I have to push to get them to understand or to care, they’re not worthy of access to it.
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A big flex on the healing/trauma recovery story is not needing people, especially those who crossed you, to understand.
It’s about not casting pearls before swine.
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Payson Scottish Festival,
I am *in* you.
Delicious meat pies,
You are *in* me.
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@FrankLeeSG @AlobhaPatrick Non-sequiter. Whether existence ends at death does not answer the question as to whether or not we should live life as a slop shot.
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@AlobhaPatrick @Careerflex2 Do you believe that death is the end?
I find the fact that some young girls are raped and murdered before they're teenagers proof that death is not the end.
There is no fucking way that an existence solely consisting of birth, rape, and murder is possible.
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You're equating a builder of a house, who has to follow orders from its superiors, to a person constructing its inner world...
Do we all have to follow orders and construct our inner worlds exactly as we're told? Who tells us how to be? Who tells us how to live our lives?
Patrick Lockwood@AlobhaPatrick
Hallucinations are aberrations of the normal sense construction process. What dictates how we construct senses? Needs/drives/wants. So, sensation = construction of what we “believe” we should be experiencing, mixed in with the real data of the external stimulus (noise/heat/etc.). Our brains mostly rely on memory to guide how we “construct” what we hear and see, etc. but sometimes we have unregulated “constructions”. Imagine a builder of a house, who ignored a blueprint. Imagine how strange the house could look if he were “motivated” to build it strangely. Sensation = real external event + lots of memory/motivation/need
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@AlobhaPatrick @FrankLeeSG Either fast or slow.
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Hey everybody! This guy says that empathy is not the give all end all of being a "good person".
Scandalous!
Patrick Lockwood@AlobhaPatrick
As i have said over and over again, empathy is projection and therefore dangerous
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@AlobhaPatrick @laura74612 @rovingchloe The dumbest person you know believes eradicating communists is an act of racism and misogyny.
Incredible work.
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It’s the people that talk about trauma all the time who likely have an issue they’re not addressing in themselves.
Dr. Jessica Taylor@DrJessTaylor
Here is a collection of my key messages about trauma, so if you’re new here (or have been here agesss and fancy a refresh) - read them, share them, discuss and use them. All my love to you all, thank you for all your support over the years x
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@AlobhaPatrick @FrankLeeSG Good thing I am a licensed general contractor and a licensed psychotherapist.
I work for no one. I built what I want. But I answer to physics. There is no such thing as building a house that defies physics. It will fail.
Is there an analogy there for the psyche?
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@FrankLeeSG Between nature (fundamental drives and needs) and society, we all have to follow orders. There’s no such thing as complete freedom if you want social cohesion.
Are you some postmodernist who believes all rules and norms are evil?
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@AlobhaPatrick Now this is the stuff that will get you cancelled. You just flipped the tables of their religion, man.
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As i have said over and over again, empathy is projection and therefore dangerous
Mahlerite@jesusrglez
“Projective Identification is not in itself a pathological mechanism it forms the basis of all empathic communication. We project into others to understand better what it feels like to be in their shoes and an inability or reluctance to do this profoundly affects object relations
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About as BPD a scenario as possible.
Concise, perfectly said.
Jade Stanton@jadethebpdcoach
@Careerflex2 “Maybe if I die they will care for me” while they are literally caring for me 😭😂
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