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@Jd_Alibi @LookingForMide Or she is being asked too frequently for 'dutiful sex'

@LookingForMide Morayo is been dutifully denied sex and it’s obvious..

Morayo : My argument is , dutiful sex is good however it can also be painful , cause sometimes it come as tough as selfish , because a woman usually needs to be prep and ready , when she’s asked to have a dutiful sex posture , it means all she need to do is just lay down and that can be painful too Afolabi Brown : Countered It👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾 Me : what do you think? Drop your opinions wanna learn

@bigyboy @LookingForMide 'Dutiful' in the sense that one partner doesn't want it, but gives in because the other wants.

@LookingForMide Calling sex “dutiful”is weird honestly, when sex starts to feel like a chore, obligation or dutiful in her words in a marriage, it often reflects a deeper issue in the relationship. Once love/attraction is present, it can never be dutiful

@Stepharny1 @LookingForMide Maybe it's just me but there are times no amount of foreplay works. If I am worried or preoccupied, if I am angry about something and we have not resolved it, no matter how much 'foreplay' it won't move me. My mind has to be there first before my body.

@LookingForMide Anyways foreplay it’s important for women. So maybe that’s what she’s saying

@makanjuolaangel @LookingForMide Of course dutiful sex can be painful. She is not aroused, she is not in the mood, she is not lubricated, and you don't know it will hurt?

@LookingForMide Wahala no too much How is dutiful sex painful again

@LookingForMide These ones will still divorce. When una carry una sef out like 8 day old children no how no how, dirty linen go spread laslas

She resents it because she is feeling stuck. You have both worked countless shifts during the week. On Saturday she knows there's so much to be done to get prepared for the next week. Cleaning, laundry, cooking or prepping lunches, the children are under foot. Then you wake up and head to play football and she feels like the only adult in the relationship. If you play football for 2 hours and come home to run your 'shift' while she goes out for a coffee or whatever she wants to do, that helps. But most of you come home, ask 'what's for lunch?' Eat and start to watch 'your match' In Nigeria she could function without your physical help - Labour is cheap, even without washing machine, there was washerman, most people can afford a househelp, and there was always extended family for support. As immigrants, there's less support. Your wife should not feel like she is the only adult in your family.

A lot of women are the reason why their husbands are unhappy here in the UK. I’m not writing this to denigrate women, but to call attention to things that may seem small, yet are very important to the mental health of your husbands. In Nigeria, many men have ways they unwind. Those who drink go to a local bar, gist with friends and even strangers, take a bottle or two, then return home with the energy needed to keep the family moving forward. Those who play football do it on weekends. That’s when they meet other men, shout at each other over rough tackles, argue a bit, and settle it quickly. By the time they get home, shower, and rest, they feel refreshed again. For those who lift weights in local gyms, they go there, vibe to music, push themselves, challenge each other, and feel good about who they are. For the older ones, they play draft or simply sit under a tree, catching fresh air with other elderly men. They return home calmer, lighter, and ready to continue supporting their families. Then they come to the UK, and all of that stops. It’s understandable because of the work-life structure here. These men understand their responsibilities. They know they need to be present and support their families. But whenever they get the chance to step out and unwind, some wives refuse. It’s either an excuse about being left alone, or a sudden reminder that they should be spending more time at home, or unnecessary chores, or even arguments—just to stop them from leaving the house. At some point, my woman wanted me to stop going out to play football. But I made her understand that it’s the only hobby I have. I enjoy seeing other Nigerian men, shouting at each other, cracking jokes, bantering, and even organising yearly get-togethers from our weekly contributions. That is how I unwind. She eventually realised it wasn’t a battle worth fighting and let it go. I met a guy yesterday in Liverpool, and he said the same thing. Every time he wants to go and play football, it turns into an issue at home. It’s not that we are neglecting our responsibilities. We do our share of the chores. Sometimes, we even help with yours. But we also need to be around other men. Men need to be in the midst of men to feel like men. All that energy, call it testosterone if you like…..needs somewhere to go. Sports, jokes, banter, physical challenge… these things matter. It is only when we unwind that we can give you the best version of ourselves. You don’t have to keep your man indoors like a pet before you can feel secure or happy. Let him breathe. He will come back better. ~FinestDove

@oladejo_fatimah @_Nursepreneur I was so irritated lol

@_Nursepreneur And the way the mother was crying sef..as in pikin fall na new thing😏

One of the scenes I saw #BTS was when Aderonke was panicking because her son was trying to climb up to get snacks (or something) for his sister. That boy looked about 8–10 years old, why can’t he safely reach heights in his own house without fear of falling? This is one of the parenting flaws I notice in many rich or average Nigerian homes. Their children are almost useless because there is always domestic help available to do everything for them. It’s sickening.

No actually. We had maids growing up. My mom made sure to let us know her maid was not our maid. We did stuff ourselves- washed plates, washed our bathrooms, our underwear etc. The maid was even more like an older sibling who would make us do our chores when mum was busy. These days 4 and 5 year olds are comfortable ordering domestic staff around.

@_Nursepreneur It’s not on purpose, you say it like they make sure the kids don’t know. If I have a maid and I am busy with work, well my kids might not learn those basic skills. Does not make them useless. When they are adults, they will learn with time, does not make them useless.

@agborshalomm @_Nursepreneur @favouryuwa If he was used to getting things for himself, common sense would have told him to get a chair.

@_Nursepreneur @favouryuwa No, become his cousin purposely put it there to be out of his reach It's usually within his reach

@AfroVII Yeah, I agree. It was too much.

Yeah, now I understand the problem. The direction, just like the story, was thick. Nothing about the lead actor's delivery was natural, it was over laden. The actor should have been trusted better, perhaps?

I have siblings and other family friends and acquaintances who moved from Nigeria in their teens. They all found it ridiculously easy. The only people who may find High school challenging are those who were raised here in Canada because they have never been exposed to any rigour.

So you are comparing course overload to work standards? Courses have weight and it’s not by numbers of course you do. Your sentence shows 2 gaps, you don’t understand what you’re criticizing and you have not even taken time to do that. I used to have your sentiments, but I lived it, so I know better. Ask from people that did both. They will tell you.

A Nigerian parent in Canada seeks advice #nigeriansindiaspora #nigeriansincanada🇨🇦

@CiraNzube Lol. As you no chop emblem, you suppose chop pizza.

Memorial ‘26 🤍 ✅

@TheInnerShiftHQ @msmocrown Only about 4 subjects a term. Why should a child from Nigeria who has been writing 1 to 200 from nursery 2 get to such a system and fail?

@TheInnerShiftHQ @msmocrown It is actually. Very little stress academically. Few assignments, no homework, no tests, no exams. Almost endless opportunities to postpone and extend assignment/project deadlines. A child has to be very determined not to learn to fail.

@UramaMichael @abikedabiri School is not a scam. She said they are on their way home. She has done her job. The rest is just a public service announcement to prevent other people from failing into the same situation.

@abikedabiri Thus, you can't nothing about it?

The problem is the use of agents for South African visas. Apart from passport data pages, they fill in anything they wish. This way the travellers fail immigration interviews on their reasons for coming. One of them had also been insulting the SA govt online, so they already had him on their radar. When confronted with the insults, he was unable to defend himself. Not sure which of the three ??You are free to take it up when you return

@UTDMan247048 @GideonToba See laslas you will find the Nigerian woman is still the best match for you. Physically, emotionally and spiritually na she be your match.

@GideonToba Imagine praying to God to enable you leave Nigeria and the first type of woman you find attractive is a Nigerian

Naija Women say they don’t date Naija men in Canada, Naija men say they don’t date Naija women, what really went wrong? 🥹

@MichelleMc68522 @Tanyaelisabeth Nobody is miserable if they are living their choice. Women should have a choice. You choose to stay home, fine. Some other woman chooses to work outside the home, cool. Live and let live.

@Tanyaelisabeth Ive been a stay at home mom for 13 years. I have been asked 4037 times when im going to get a job. I have the one job nobody else can do. Those women are miserable.

If I stay home and raise my own children I am a loser and not ambitious But if I hire and pay another woman to raise and take care of my children for me than I am an empowered woman If that same woman stayed home with her children she would be a loser But if she takes care of my children she is not If we both switched and raised each others children for a paycheck we would be successful ambitious girl bosses But if we do it for our own children we are losers

@thecableng So these people would not have learnt this lesson without being dealt with by South Africans? Ọmọ egba l'àwọn people yíí shá.

PAUL NWOSU: "Let’s be blunt. The recent attacks on Ndi Igbo in East London, South Africa, following the installation of an “Eze Ndi Igbo,” were tragically predictable. When cultural lines are crossed in a continent where tradition is sacred, backlash is inevitable. What is shocking is not the reaction; it is that we keep provoking it. This is not new. Ghana witnessed a similar uproar when Chukwudi Ihenetu was crowned “Eze Ndi Igbo Ghana,” nearly sparking a diplomatic crisis. Truth is that self-imposed coronations in foreign lands, especially in black Africa, ignite anger and endanger the lives of millions of law-abiding Igbos in that country." thecable.ng/how-self-style…

@munahtee It looks flashy but it's basically adire and glass beads.

Sunshine secondary school Ibadan inter-house sport and Ojude Oba. This looks so good ngl but what about the parents who can't affords all these??? 😒