@AnnieHolmquist Absolutely. I’ve had the joy of walking alongside many precious single women for over a decade now, and I believe it’s so important to rightly support and encourage them from a place of understanding and truth.
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Heather Cofer
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Heather Cofer
@HeatherACofer
Believer | Wife to Judah | Mama of eight | Second gen homeschooler | Author/Writer | Passionate about how Jesus changes everything for womanhood | Psalm 90:12
เข้าร่วม Ocak 2018
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@HeatherACofer Wise words. Thank you for recognizing and saying this!
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I was just having a conversation about one of the sad but oft-overlooked effects of feminism on single women who desire to get married (I bring this up, because I’ve seen others share about Alex’s openly expressed desire to be married and have a family).
On one side, people often assume these women have embraced feminist ideas when they aren’t married, which is painful. OR they downplay their sorrow over not being married and the possibility that they may not become moms one day, because they’re viewed as having the ultimate free life. Either way, it can add significant insult to injury to those who desire a marriage and family.
I’ve talked with some single women about the fact that facing the possibility of never being married and having children is comparable to infertility. Not the same, but similar because they’re grappling with the same outcomes. As believers we need to be sure we’re not painting all single women with a broad brush, and offering compassion and encouragement and support to those seeking to be faithful even while their hearts long for marriage and family.
White Baby Factory@WhiteBabyFac
Alex Clark has some good ideas and I've enjoyed listening to her podcast in the past, but I don't think it's wise for her to have a prominent role at TPUSA's Women's Leadership Conference considering that she's still unmarried at age 33. I'd much rather see a woman up on the stage who has embraced marriage and motherhood, like Rachel Wilson or Gina Bontempo. It makes no sense to me that a woman like Alex is still single if she truly holds conservative Christian values. What could be stopping her from finding a husband after all these years? She's famous for her conservative views, and there are so many great guys who would love to marry an attractive conservative Christian woman.
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//For the beauty of the earth
For the glory of the skies
For the love which from our birth
Over and around us lies
Lord of all to Thee we raise
This our hymn of grateful praise//
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@ChunLing_Chiu That’s true! And at least the church has lovely windows.
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@HeatherACofer I wouldn't mind. Especially if I got snacks or something.
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I’m giving a talk this week on helping our children cultivate loving relationships with one another. So *obviously* this song has been going through my head during my preparation, and I had to blast it through the house today.
In my practical application section, should I suggest that moms do the same, and belt it with all their heart when their kids need a reminder to love each other? 😉
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The nostalgia tree is blooming.
I could stand here and drink in the scent forever.
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Why do I call it the nostalgia tree?
Here’s something I wrote a few years ago about it:
Nostalgia is a funny thing, isn’t it?
This same kind of tree grew outside our apartment building in Mongolia. In a city that had so little green, it’s fragrant blossoms brought much delight as the harsh winter (and dust storm-filled spring) came to an end.
Now without fail, the smell of these blossoms takes me back to childhood days, and that ache of nostalgia fills me as I remember those treasured years.
But the older I’ve gotten, the more I’m convinced that nostalgia doesn’t point as much to how idyllic the past was as it does to the perfection of something that’s to come. Nostalgia brings to mind all the sweetness of one point in history and dulls the hard that was equally present. If we were to be transported back to that exact moment, it would be real in every sense of the word and all the mystique of the nostalgia would fade. As my husband likes to say, “there’s really no such thing as ‘the good ol’ days.’”
In his book ‘Mere Christianity’ C.S. Lewis says, “If I find in myself desires which nothing in this world can satisfy, the only logical conclusion is that I was made for another world.”
When that overwhelming ache fills me at the scent of these blooms, I know my soul is resonating with the reality of eternity for those who follow Christ—a perfect place in the presence of our perfect Savior. The beauty of this earth is a shadow of the pure joy that is yet to come in a new Kingdom untainted by sin and death.
For those who don’t know Jesus, the fleeting beauty shadows of this earth are the height of what they will ever experience. But for those who place their trust in Him, the best is yet to come.
(A pic of the tree in full bloom)
Heather Cofer@HeatherACofer
The nostalgia tree is blooming. I could stand here and drink in the scent forever.
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Moms or grandmas or aunties of little girls. I have the most tremendous news. I just discovered that my most favorite childhood book has been reprinted and is on sale on Amazon for $6! If you want to delight her imagination with the whimsy of old fashioned girlhood and open her mind to the wonders of cloaks and kerchiefs and muffs and nosegays and overskirts and parasols and tippets, all illustrated beautifully by Tasha Tudor, then order this book! Link is in comments below.
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@farmingandJesus We always called them egg-in-a-holes growing up. I haven’t made them for years, but I bet my kids would love them. Thanks for the inspiration!
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THIS right here 👇🏻:
“…right now, men and especially women who are most dedicated to living a family-first lifestyle pay a big price in status as well — a price they did not pay in 1950. Marriage and motherhood, and particularly stay-at-home motherhood, have become, as the legal scholar Erica Bachiochi argues, “low-status,” particularly in the eyes of the most privileged.
In her words, women “whose chief desires are, say, a good marriage and happy children now take on a low status—especially when they forego paid labor entirely to dedicate themselves to the goods of care in the home.” As societal expectations for standard of living (and standard of parenting) are increasingly set by households with two 21st century incomes, one-earner families face increasingly punishing tradeoffs in social status.”
I’m so grateful my husband and I went into marriage with a pre-decided choice for me to make home and family a priority. It *can* be done if you’re willing to make it work, say no to things, and be creative. We’ve seen God’s blessing and provision countless times as we’ve sought to be faithful in this way.
But this element of social pressure is, I believe, one of the biggest things a young couple, and especially a young woman, needs to be prepared to face. You need to have a firm grasp on your convictions: *why* you believe it’s so important to prioritize family and home over a career. This will help you brush off the comments of pity or suggestions that you’ve wasted your potential. It will enable you to resist buying into the cultural narrative that you’re doing something of less value. Because once you cave to the social pressure, the income aspect is an easy excuse to put aside those convictions, masking the fact that you simply don’t want to be looked down on by others.
I would add, too, that this is why it’s so important to be in community with people who see the value of this, too. Because it’s not easy to raise kids in a culture that devalues them and devalues your investment into them. It *can* be done; I say this as a 34yo woman with lots of kids. But swimming upstream is so much easier when you’re doing it with others who are helping you keep your eyes on the bigger picture; the long-term vision.
Brad Wilcox@BradWilcoxIFS
This one's for you @michaelbd: ifstudies.org/blog/can-your-…
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@mom_upstate I’m so thrilled for you!! We have nine month old twins, and the delight is through the roof!
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I guess god decided that after 2.5 years of infertility we should have two babies instead of 1 👶🏼👶🏼🥹 #twins
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It’s true. And it starts young. I put this together after looking through the Easter Sunday photo takes. She is such a fan of pockets and filling them with all sorts of odds and ends.
One day when she realized she was wearing an outfit without pockets she began wailing, “I lost my poooockeeetts!”
Fredman 🍍+🍕=👍@Fred_Butler
@MichelleDLesley @BibChr @Protestia All of my girls (wife included) love pockets on dresses. You can put things in them like peppermints and buttons.
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Can you bring this exhibition to Denver, Colorado so I can see it, please? 🥺
The Royal Family@RoyalFamily
First look! Queen Elizabeth II: Her Life in Style 👗✨ In her centenary year, explore more than 300 items reflecting the remarkable style of Queen Elizabeth II across all ten decades of her life - from birth to adulthood, from Princess to Queen, and from off-duty style to dressing for the global stage for momentous occasions in history. Opening today, the exhibition will run from 10 April to 18 October 2026 at The King’s Gallery in London, near Buckingham Palace. Head to @RCT to find out more.
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@HeatherACofer Okay someone also pointed out that 300-400 hours per year… is basically one hour per night 😂 which is WAY less dramatic or detrimental sounding when framed that way.
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@tyler_austin55 Can relate 😂. Almost had our fourth in the car due to something similar.
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"Let's go to that estate sale first."
Tyler C@tyler_austin55
My wife is in active labor right now but insists we stop at an estate sale
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