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ASKING A KOREAN WOMAN ABOUT KOREAN GENDER RELATIONS 🇰🇷
Went out with a Korean woman last year, conversation was good but at one point began to get curious about the gender and TFR ‘discourse’ so-called you often hear repeated about Korea so decided to segue in asking her questions about it:
“I heard gender relations are pretty bad in Korea”
“What do you mean?”
“I mean I read on the internet that men and women really hate each other now”
“Really? I wouldn’t say so”
“That’s what they say online”
“Where do they say this online?”
“Twitter”
“I’ve never used Twitter”
“Have you heard of the 4B movement?”
“What?”
“The 4B movement”
“I don’t know what it is”
“Have you not heard of the 4B movement? Isn’t it famous?”
“No”
[via Wikipedia: 4B or "Four Nos" is a feminist movement that originated in South Korea. The name refers to its defining four tenets which all start with the Korean-language term bi(Korean: 비; Hanja: 非), roughly meaning ‘NO!’. Its proponents do not date men, marry men, have sex with men or have children with men - hence 4 B’s]
Showed her this on my phone
“Huh, I’ve never seen this in my life”
“Is it not widespread in Korea?”
“No”
“Do you feel like a lot of Korean women hate men?”
“Who told you that? I don’t think so”
“How do you personally feel about men?”
“I don’t hate men. Why would I hate men?”
“I don’t know I heard some Korean women do”
“I don’t hate men, I like men”
“Are man haters not common in Korea?”
“A lot of men are very sweet”
“Well, did you hear about the fertility crisis in Korea?”
“What do you mean?”
“They say people in Korea aren’t having kids anymore”
“My cousin had a child a few months ago”
“I mean people are having less kids on average”
“I know lots of young couples with kids”
“Apparently the data says Koreans are having less kids”
“What data is that?”
“Probably UN data”
“I would like to have children one day, I think many other women would”
“Do you not think this is just anecdotal though?”
“I don’t really encounter many man haters in Korea”
“The data has to come from somewhere”
“Why are you asking all this?”