Praefectus Casmiricus

If you talk to any boy between the ages of 18-22, he’ll likely tell you that he’s frustrated with dating because it seems like every girl is on OnlyFans or sleeping around. Then he opens a social media app and the first thing he sees is some guy happy because he waited while his wife slept around but it’s okay because she found Jesus. So the average young boy is reading it frustrated because it sounds like this guy is a cuck and if he follows this path, he too will end up with a reformed hoe. Marriage needs a better marketing campaign. Many people have never seen a powerful marriage in real life. Everyone dreams of love and romance and feels like it’s no longer achievable in this age. Additionally, good girls also feel Prodigal son’d when they see posts like these because when a girl does bad things and “sees the light” she still keeps all the OF money and gets speaking engagements, fame, and a guy simping over her anyway. Not saying people can’t change, but these posts don’t inspire the ones who need inspiration. They just end up pissing off the guys and girls trying to date.

-Born to an Eastern Orthodox family -Forced to practice the faith without explanation -Became anti-religion due to resentment -Became libertarian, ergo more tolerant -Heard God's calling, became Protestant -Got disappointed, chose Catholicism over EO after discernment -No regrets

If this won’t make you rethink your view of Islam I don’t know what will. What an incredibly brave woman standing up to the barbarians who tried to finish her off.

My main criticism of OnlyFans and similar sites isn’t the nudity (though this line of attack is valid), it’s that millions of women are essentially running what amounts to a romance scam. Wholesale fraud. Beyond that, most OnlyFans girls have a typer/chatter (typically male, or now AI) that does the chatting. If you claim the men get to talk to YOU (for money) but it’s actually someone else, that’s misrepresentation and fraud. Porn production has its defenders, but the intentional creation of fake relationships for profit is undeniably wrong. The scam/fraud aspect is completely indefensible: 1. Selling the illusion of personal connection 2. Fabricated intimacy for financial gain 3. Pay-to-progress “relationship steps” 4. Emotional baiting and withholding 5. False exclusivity 6. Dangling a potential future 7. Targeting vulnerable or lonely individuals

My wife was formerly promiscuous. I was a virgin. She was then radically born-again. Committed to church, evangelized constantly, Puritan books in her bedroom, prayer journals, grief over past sexual sin, etc. We got to know each other well for over a year, dated for four months, engaged for two and a half, and didn't sin sexually with one another. Our first kiss with each other was at the altar on our wedding day (reaction pic attached!). We've been married for over five years now, and she's been the most wonderful and godly wife, mother to our three children, and homemaker you could imagine. She's more pure than most virgins, as biblical purity has less to with past sins (though they certainly matter) and more to do with one's current posture of the heart and daily decisions to honor the Lord (Matt. 5:8). We're far too quick to forget the story of the woman labeled as a known "sinner" (likely a prostitute) in Luke 7:36-50 who was washing Jesus' feet with her tears while kissing them too. The Pharisees were shocked that Jesus let a public sinner do this. Jesus responded with a parable about debts being forgiven and ended with this powerful conclusion: "Her many sins have been forgiven; that’s why she loved much. But the one who is forgiven little, loves little" (Luke 7:47). Everyone seems to highlight the benefits of virginity, and it certainly is a blessing. But we forget to highlight the benefits of being forgiven much as well. My wife knows the depths of Jesus' forgiveness more than most people, enabling her to more easily live out a life of passionate love for her Savior. A woman or man's past sexual sin matters. But what matters far more when it comes to deciding who to marry is if the person is truly born again, if their repentance is real, if they truly have a heart for Christ, if they truly follow Jesus and obey his commands. "God has chosen what is foolish in the world to shame the wise, and God has chosen what is weak in the world to shame the strong. God has chosen what is insignificant and despised in the world ​— ​what is viewed as nothing ​— ​to bring to nothing what is viewed as something, so that no one may boast in his presence. It is from him that you are in Christ Jesus, who became wisdom from God for us ​— ​our righteousness, sanctification, and redemption, — in order that, as it is written: 'Let the one who boasts, boast in the Lord.'" (1 Cor. 1:27-31) "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has passed away, and see, the new has come!" (2 Cor. 5:17)

I think the biggest problem regarding finding a spouse for Christian men, especially Orthodox Christian men, is not that it is hard to find a woman to date, its not really. It's hard to find a woman who can help you with your salvation. Because most Christian women today don't want to spiritually struggle, they're very lukewarm about their faith. The wanna follow the approach of giving Christ occasionally some time on Sunday mornings and a couple minutes at most of their day and then living a fully secular lifestyle 99% of the time. Women like this will not help you in your salvation or help you raise children to truly seek Theosis.