@pleasemilf I don't know man, I have 3 kids, 1 is a toddler and they were all super easy as a newborn.
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Harry Guerrilla
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The newborn phase is so hard that a lot of people block it out and forget what it was actually like. And those who have enough kids and do remember it are like fat people who lost the weight and have no sympathy for other fat people.
Matt Walsh@MattWalshBlog
I have kids ranging from toddlers to teenagers and I still think the newborn phase (especially for a first time parent) is the hardest by far. I remember being a younger parent and hearing older parents constantly whine about how much harder it gets. Turns out they were exaggerating for attention and pity. Parenting gets A LOT easier over time. Your kids get more mature and so do you. That’s how it should work if you’re doing it right anyway.
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@HMBrough_ That's objectively not true, at all.
There are tons of Hispanic people who live in that range.
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I lived and worked in this area for a few years as a brown man. There’s definitely a lot of rebel flags, but they seem to be more about aesthetics than racism. I once saw a man in a diner with a rebel flag shirt reading “born of rebel blood,” but with a Black wife and a mixed-face family.
I will say this, if you’re not Black or White, your social circle will be kind of limited. Sadly this region lacks the cosmopolitanism and large diaspora communities we see on the West Coast. You also see fewer mixed-race couples compared to northern and western cities.
Roberto 🌹@r0berto_mid_5
I think this area might be the most racist place in the world
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@darrelltalksfi The average is higher because of high earners maxing it out.
The median balance is much lower and absolutely horrifying.
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Fidelity tracks more than 53 million retirement accounts every quarter.
The average balances:
IRA: $137,095
401(k): $146,400
403(b): $133,500
How does the average person plan to retire?
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Te oferecem 20 milhões de dólares, mas você tem que ser perseguido por um animal 24 horas.
Qual animal vc escolhe?
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@nbayoungnoob @MurrayHillGuy1 I don't know anything about them and don't want to disparage them or their relationship.
Just the general idea is that in the south money can definitely buy love.
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@HarryGuerrilla @MurrayHillGuy1 I’ve actually followed her for some while
while she’s on the slow side nothing special anout her shes lucky she foumd a guy who wants her
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Sometimes I wish I lived in the south… is it that easy?
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@ashleysbored That's bullshit and you know it. I have primary custody of my kid and there is plenty of down time.
Mommy martyrdom is pathetic self victimization.
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“The man doesn’t ask the wife to help out with his job” ok and his job ends when he comes home. Hers literally never-ending
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@cosmicblackdude I look at it like a stupid filter.
I pay less than $1000 a month for rent and utilities on a 3 bed house and my roomie stays to himself 95% of the time.
Why change it when I can stack cash and increase my wealth?
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As a 34 year old man, I can tell you this...
If you are 30+ and still living with roommates, you are not respected by most women or people in general
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@SavvyWroteThat There is absolutely nothing you can do about the state of the economy but you do have control over you.
Why waste time bitching about it and not making personal changes in your life, to make it better?
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Why is it that people make accusations about poor people being bad with money when poor people speak up on how unfair our economy is?
Most poor people don’t waste their money. It goes to bills, rent, car insurance, etc. It’s too much for some people, no matter how hard they work or how much they try to save
Everybody deserves good food, and it can be provided at lower costs if companies were not greedy
Tres Haute Vitesse@SnowPunn
@SavvyWroteThat No, this is a "if youre poor, act poor" post. If youre poor & spending $30 a day on fast food, youre an idiot. Capitalism isnt responsible for your lack of worth, poor decision making, or incapability of attaining/saving money. Youre coping because youre bottom of the barrel.
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@SamwiseGLAMgee @missus_wormy You can design a trust where a bank or trust management company is the trustee, list out exceptions and requirements for disbursements (health, education, etc.) until the kids reach the age/conditions you designated.
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@HarryGuerrilla @missus_wormy That’s what I’m thinking too. Some sort of trust where a more financially reasonable grandparent can determine how much is necessary for their care/education/etc.
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one thing that sucked about growing up in poverty and autistic was being able to see and not change my parents money choices. my grandma got abused and died from her nursing home, we got a lawsuit payout, and my mom bought a 10k fur coat that she then lost at Texas Roadhouse.
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@LionBlogosphere Everyone has a price and so does this but the threshold hasn't been met yet.
It would probably be wiser for governments to shift what they pay for the elderly and to increase payments generously towards family formation incentives.
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@SamwiseGLAMgee @missus_wormy I'm setting up a revocable trust and making the trustee a non family/friend third party.
No withdrawals until my kiddo hits adulthood, maybe mid 20s.
Family being in charge is just too risky.
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@missus_wormy Thanks for this reminder that I’ve got to set up an estate plan that won’t have mine draining my kids’ inheritance bc they “needed” a new car or whatever if my husband and I die
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@missus_wormy Parents were upper middle class earners but mom had a mean gambling/spending habit, so the power would get shut off occasionally. Had to work to buy my own school clothes. Between inheritance and settlements, my parents got around $300k-400k.
They lost the house to foreclosure.
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@estherzelda0514 That would make sense, as less people are going for non valuable degrees.
Everyone misses the point of why "college is a scam" though.
College is an inefficient allocation of time and resources for career training.
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The typical person with a 4-year makes about $80k versus a high school diploma, at about $48k. This gap has widened. In 2004, the degree premium was 2x. Now it's 2.3x. Grads are also half as likely to be unemployed.
Education has not lost any value. It's gained it. Men on the internet who think otherwise are literally so dumb they'd rather be poor than go to college with women.
💗@ma1ybe
And this is why I don't trust the sudden onset of the idea that "college is a scam". It's not a coincidence that higher education has started losing its value in society's eyes now that women outperform men.
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@estherzelda0514 How the typical woman travels /= how a man would travel.
The common woman destinations (e.g. Paris) are sterile, Disneyland places, that lack all interest and adventure.
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Men saying traveling is feminine is just baffling to me. Like you guys didn't read adventure books? You only want to work on the homestead and make children? That sounds very traditionally feminine, my dude.
More proof that as soon as women do anything it's put in a ghetto and dumb men think their cock will fall off if they enjoy it too.
Diane Yap@RealDianeYap
Why is it so male-coded these days to say traveling isn’t that fun, isn’t that great, isn’t that impressive, isn’t worth putting off “real life” for? Because these men want you in the house doing maid work and looking after their children. Depressing.
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@MegaBasedChad Smart and under employed people have to dial in their language and mannerisms to the customer base they serve.
You just don't notice them.
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Underrated impact of the Big Sort; There are no smart people in dumb jobs anymore. When was the last time you spoke with a functionally literate service worker?
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@AntiCommieBecca @st_louis_stan The places women travel become sterile, mundane and over trafficked.
Ex. Paris.
France is awesome, Paris is Disneyland for women. Lacks any and all kinds of adventure. Just a playground for boring women.
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What you don’t understand is that this in itself is female coded.
You don’t want to travel because women are traveling? 🤦♀️This is a cop out and you know it.
You are feminizing yourselves as part of degrowth ideology which is why you’re complaining about “consumerism”.
And “degrowth” is managed decline,
You have adopted progressivism, you don’t even get it & refuse to listen to reason.
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It's very simple, travel has become woman-coded over the last decade or so because women have more money now and travel is safer, and once something becomes woman-coded men lose interest in it. Also men still travel a lot, but we're less likely to plaster it over an Instagram account or tell everyone they know about their amaze-balls trip to Iceland. Men will go on trips and come back with like 4 pictures (none with them in it) and never mention it to anyone outside of their immediate circle. Not to mention the Passport Bro stigma on any man who travels to the third-world
Rebecca V. Proud American 🇺🇸@AntiCommieBecca
I really do think this is a good example of male feminization. And it shows how it’s actually self-inflicted. Travel, adventure, and potential danger has always been male coded. Going hunting, going on quests used to be a right of passage for men. Are these men not doing that with their sons? “Sorry son, we can’t go anywhere, you see that’s consumerism” not only is this not something a man should say, but what right winger would ever utter those words?!🤦♀️ These men just want to stay inside the home play video games, masturbate & stay as far away from excitement as possible. This is becoming very problematic. How can they be “protectors“ if they’re too scared to leave the house. This is not normal!
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@RealDianeYap Traveling is fun.
It's that traveling with women, a lot of times, isn't fun.
You want to go to all the same tourist traps and do all the same instadork things, that make it so trite and boring.
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Why is it so male-coded these days to say traveling isn’t that fun, isn’t that great, isn’t that impressive, isn’t worth putting off “real life” for?
Because these men want you in the house doing maid work and looking after their children. Depressing.
Coddled Affluent Professional@feelsdesperate
Traveling really isn’t that impressive. It’s not hard to do. You just go to an airport and get on a plane. It’s not a big accomplishment. Then you go somewhere and you have no responsibilities or obligations and just wander around and so of course it’s pleasurable enough. Traveling is fine. I’ve been to about 45 countries. But it’s not worth making big sacrifices for or delaying real life more than a year or two or anything like that.
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@Tanyaelisabeth My parents, "we're going to spend it all before we die."
Me- "you had nothing, until my grandparents died."
Followed by angry boomer noises.
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Boomers in the replies proving why everyone feels the way they do about them
Truly nothing more insufferable than people who can’t laugh at themselves
Wish they fought this hard to see their grandkids the way they fight over someone ever criticizing the general state of their generation.
Tanya@Tanyaelisabeth
There is nothing I hate more than this individualist culture, this only living for self crap Constantly my children’s grandparents will say they want to be close to them, see them grow, live right next door, be a help and blessing to us My husband is leaving for six months, guess who told me to just suck it up and figure out how to manage it all alone? Yup you guessed it. The grandparents. And you know what pisses me off even more? Someone will accuse me of being entitled, when until 30 years ago family sacrificing and helping each other was just the normal thing to do. My grandmother every single day of her life would have lunch ready for us when we came to eat from school break, after school we would come and stay at her house until my mom picked us up, and guess what my mother took home with her also? Dinner. Yup. They had all this help and support, and yet refuse to now give what they once had. This is why people can’t stand boomers.
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@Tanyaelisabeth My ex MIL with travel internationally to spend time with and help with her dozen + grandkids.
My parents thought it was too much work to watch my kid while I was at work, just for a week.
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There is nothing I hate more than this individualist culture, this only living for self crap
Constantly my children’s grandparents will say they want to be close to them, see them grow, live right next door, be a help and blessing to us
My husband is leaving for six months, guess who told me to just suck it up and figure out how to manage it all alone?
Yup you guessed it. The grandparents.
And you know what pisses me off even more? Someone will accuse me of being entitled, when until 30 years ago family sacrificing and helping each other was just the normal thing to do.
My grandmother every single day of her life would have lunch ready for us when we came to eat from school break, after school we would come and stay at her house until my mom picked us up, and guess what my mother took home with her also? Dinner. Yup.
They had all this help and support, and yet refuse to now give what they once had.
This is why people can’t stand boomers.
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