ElleWell

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ElleWell

ElleWell

@ElleWell27

Licensed Christian counselor: Working in a professional field that hates genuine Christians and considers morality to be pathological.

Katılım Ağustos 2023
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ElleWell
ElleWell@ElleWell27·
@DanielleBFranz @allie__voss Yeah. And if my kid is screaming in a restaurant, the next words out of my mouth will be, "If you don't stop screaming right now, we're going outside." And I will take my child outside as long as necessary for the child to quiet down.
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Danielle Franz
Danielle Franz@DanielleBFranz·
@allie__voss I’m a huge “kids belong in public” proponent but we also have to admit there is a level of discernment necessary from parents. A romantic date-night spot past bedtime is probably not the move.
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ElleWell
ElleWell@ElleWell27·
@lpyoung @jk_rowling @nyaraVT As a woman who cares about the reality of womanhood, I appreciate her stance again trans ideology just as much as I appreciate her excellent Harry Potter legacy. It's remarkably narcissistic to assume "no one cares" simply because you don't care.
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Lenny Young
Lenny Young@lpyoung·
It boggles my mind that this is the sword you wish to die on. Nobody cares about your opinion on this subject. You hurt so many people in the process. You destroy the other story you created that was so wonderful. What is the point? Take a step back and think about your legacy for a minute. Maybe two minutes if you need it.
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nyara@nyaraVT·
If being female requires you to produce large gametes then you're not a "biological woman." Women are more than their reproductive roles and feminists have been arguing that for decades. Trans women support this view, while you reinforce the patriarchal sexist roles.
J.K. Rowling@jk_rowling

Being biologically female means having a body that is observably organised to produce large gametes (eggs), as opposed to a body organised to produce small gametes (sperm). A woman is female whether her eggs have been fertilised or not. A man can never be female.

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ElleWell
ElleWell@ElleWell27·
@T8WOhio @UpTambourine Sure. I'm not suggesting anyone go beyond their means. Just pointing out that for many people, a starter house may not be a wise move--might be better to rent a while and save up if needed.
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Charles T Wilson@T8WOhio·
@ElleWell27 @UpTambourine You have to pay for that or learn how to invest in the now and grow that investment. It's called building equity while meeting current needs. You do not buy a 4 br house as a couple because you know you want multiple kids unless you can already afford that now.
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ElleWell
ElleWell@ElleWell27·
@LeeKurtiss @UpTambourine I'm just pointing out a valid reason why someone might not financially consider a "starter home" to be the wisest option. Not defending people who are complaining about housing costs. 🤦‍♀️
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ElleWell@ElleWell27·
@T8WOhio @UpTambourine Sure. But again, that's a "starter house" perspective if we're talking about a 2br house and they're planning to have multiple kids, potentially both boys and girls. When they get older, they should ideally have gender-separated rooms.
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ElleWell@ElleWell27·
@LeeKurtiss @UpTambourine Okay...I'm talking about people who are able to afford a larger house. In that case, a starter house isn't necessarily wise, even if the space won't be needed immediately.
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KLee@LeeKurtiss·
@ElleWell27 @UpTambourine Then you can't afford to have children🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️
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ElleWell
ElleWell@ElleWell27·
@namerankssn @UpTambourine Especially because many seniors likely stay in larger houses so they can accommodate visits from their adult children and their grandkids. Totally legitimate if they can afford it!
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ElleWell@ElleWell27·
@UpTambourine Although if they aren't even married yet (but hope to be soon), it's probably best not to buy a house at all unless they can easily afford it. What if a potential spouse doesn't even like the house?
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ElleWell@ElleWell27·
@UpTambourine TBH, while I agree that many people have excessively high expectations for homes, I understand not starting in a smaller house if they are planning to have a family soon. The cost of selling and moving is substantial compared to getting a long-term house ASAP.
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Alisa Childers@alisa_childers·
Sheila Wray Gregoire has become one of the most influential voices in the Christian conversation surrounding sex, marriage, and evangelical culture. But do her conclusions actually stand up to biblical and logical scrutiny? My latest with @The_real_annek
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ElleWell@ElleWell27·
@NiaramaM @MikeWingerii Public discourse on ethics (especially in cases of mass-scale injustice) is absolutely necessary. On what other mass injustices would we ever imply that it's unhelpful to publicly debate the ethical implications of a unjust killing of innocents?
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Mckrian@NiaramaM·
@MikeWingerii As an ex-pro-choicer, I now comprehend the undeniable evil of abortion. I simply request compassion for women who may have mistakenly believed abortion was their sole option. Are you addressing the root cause of the sin or engaging in political discourse?
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Mike Winger@MikeWingerii·
Answer this pro-choicers… A woman is pregnant and a man beats her to death. Is he charged with double murder? I suppose most of you will answer yes. During the trial it is discovered that when he beat her to death she had just got off the phone scheduling an abortion at Planned Parenthood. Is it still double murder? I’m guessing you say no but when you try to explain why you find that any words you use make you sound like a moral monster. But wait, there’s more. Then they find her diary which says she was only going to kill the baby because it was a boy and her email has an unread message from her doctor saying the ultrasound was misread. Turns out she was pregnant with a girl. Back to double murder? Use words to explain this and please realize you’re a moral monster on this topic. Babies have the same right to life as adults and we should protect them even more than adults because they are so defenseless.
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ElleWell@ElleWell27·
@LipstickMystic2 @seatbythefire @megha_lilly E.g., Amber Thurman. Doctors might not have done a D&C if she was already too physically unstable for major surgery and they were trying to stabilize before anesthetizing. ProPublica blamed the law, but didn't provide any evidence that the delays were related to the law at all.
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ElleWell@ElleWell27·
@LipstickMystic2 @seatbythefire @megha_lilly I absolutely support lawsuits when patients clearly haven't been given necessary care. Need to bring more attention to medical negligence. On the other hand, sometimes the medical situation is complicated and there may have been legitimate (other) reasons not to proceed to D&C.
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ElleWell@ElleWell27·
@LipstickMystic2 @seatbythefire @megha_lilly I've read every article I came across on this topic, and not one presented a compelling case to blame the law. Every doctor has an ethical obligation to understand the laws accurately and practice in a patient's best interest. It would be foolish to give them a pass on this.
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Jennifer Shepherd@LipstickMystic2·
@ElleWell27 @seatbythefire @megha_lilly And all these cases just come up in a simple search. Doesn’t count women I’ve known in my circle in daily life. It’s about the failed miscarriage problem and it is killing and disabling very real women.
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ElleWell
ElleWell@ElleWell27·
@LipstickMystic2 @seatbythefire @megha_lilly No state's law considers the removal of a deceased fetus to be an "abortion" (nor is that kind of D&C medically coded as an abortion). If a doctor misunderstands a law and says "I was afraid of getting sued," he or she should not have a license. That's negligence.
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Jennifer Shepherd
Jennifer Shepherd@LipstickMystic2·
@ElleWell27 @seatbythefire @megha_lilly Medical providers are saying “we don’t want to get sued because abortions are illegal here and this can be called abortion” to deny women both abortion pills and D&C’s and that is a fact. And yes it is a legal definition problem but also a problem with religious hospitals.
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ElleWell@ElleWell27·
@LipstickMystic2 @seatbythefire @megha_lilly No adequately-trained medical provider is going to think that removal of a deceased baby is legally considered "an abortion." If they think this, they do not properly understand the law, and their ignorance is the problem, not the law.
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Jennifer Shepherd@LipstickMystic2·
@seatbythefire @megha_lilly The problem is providers who decide that as long as there is fetal material inside a woman, removing it is abortion. And religious settings as well as states with any-abortion laws often play Russian Roulette as the woman with the dead fetus fights septicemia and organ failure.
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ElleWell
ElleWell@ElleWell27·
@LipstickMystic2 @damesilverhair @megha_lilly Not one pro-life doctor would have hesitated to provide all needed care in that situation. Only medical negligence, lack of training, ignorance of the law, or more complex medical reasons would cause a doctor to delay care when the baby has no heartbeat.
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Jennifer Shepherd@LipstickMystic2·
@damesilverhair @megha_lilly The article is very incomplete and Ryan has posted here in much greater detail. x.com/theryanhamilto…
Ryan Hamilton@TheRyanHamilton

My heart is broken💔: As friends & family know, my wife was pregnant with our 2nd child, & about to begin her 2nd trimester. A few days ago she had severe pains, & bleeding, and had to go to the emergency room. There, it was discovered that our baby no longer had a heartbeat. Devastated doesn't come close to what that feels like. Unfortunately for people like us, because of the current laws in the state of Texas, that was only the beginning of this nightmare. Jess (my wife) had an "incomplete miscarriage", and what needed to happen, what was best for HER, and her health, was to terminate the pregnancy, and get the baby out. The doctor gave her a medication that would move this process along, and sent her home. Where, apparently we would be handling it ourselves. We were told it might take a couple of attempts before it worked. I'll let you decide how you feel about that. After a long, painful night of the equivalent of early labor, the baby was still with her. So, we went back to the Emergency Center to get the 2nd dose. A new doctor was on call. He was an older man. You could hear him in the hallway as he said, "I'm not giving her a pill so she can go home and have an ab*rtion!". Being well aware that our baby no longer had a heartbeat. Then, he came into the room to say, and I quote: "Considering the current stance. I'm not going to prescribe you this pill". Then, just sent us on our way. The "CURRENT STANCE"?! Did he really just say that?! No one should ever have to hear their wife say: "Get this dead baby out of me!". Can you even imagine how that must feel? The pain, and the bleeding continued. So, we decided to go to another hospital, about an hour away. There was a female doctor on call there, and we thought we might have better luck. I should probably mention, the procedure to get the baby out is called a D & C. It's scary, & traumatizing, but sometimes necessary in situations like ours. Especially in emergency circumstances. So we get to the next hospital. They take Jess in, ask her a bunch of questions, do a new scan... confirm that the baby is still there, with no heartbeat, and then disappear... for hours. Only to come back in and keep asking the same questions over and over. It's becoming clear that they're primary concern is NOT my wife's health. Instead, they seem to be worried about the legalities involved. So, they decide it is not "enough of an emergency" to perform the D & C. They do, however, prescribe another, stronger, final dose of the medication for us to try again... at home. So, we go home to try again. Another long day/night of early labor pains. Only to discover my wife UNCONSCIOUS in the bathroom. Having to pick my wife's cold, limp body off of that bathroom floor, not sure if I was about to lose her, is something I will NEVER forget. She had to be rushed to the hospital. By this point she had lost so much blood, and bodily fluid, her body gave out. They were able to stabilize her, give her the fluids she needed, and we came back home yesterday afternoon. We were also able to confirm that our baby was no longer with her. Now, not only do we have to live with the loss of our baby... we have to live with the nightmare of what we just experienced because of political and religious beliefs. MY WIFE'S HEALTH SHOULD HAVE COME FIRST. PERIOD! God knows what mental and emotional damage this has done. If you consider yourself a staunch "pro-lifer" ... 1) You've never been through what we just went through, and 2) You should take a long, hard look in the mirror and reevaluate your reasons for supporting such a cold, barbaric, ignorant point of view. It's not that black & white, and it's never going to be. If you think your "Pray To End Ab*rtion" sign in your yard is "Christian", I suggest you revisit the teachings of Jesus and try again. If you support these laws that make ab*rtion illegal, and result in people being put through what we just were, you should be ashamed of yourself. I've never been so angry, or heartbroken... and the devastation I'm feeling must pale in comparison to what my poor wife is feeling.

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ElleWell@ElleWell27·
@KaeleyT @sheffiela01 @TroyJstone @alisa_childers @The_real_annek Also, my comment (about not acknowledging the comic as pro-trans) wasn't about you. I've seen some of her followers get very hostile and use ad hominem attacks simply because they are told that is a pro-trans comic. Something is very "off" about the way they react.
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ElleWell@ElleWell27·
@KaeleyT @sheffiela01 @TroyJstone @alisa_childers @The_real_annek Okay. She's highly motivated to be vague about what she believes, since taking a clear stance (either way) will alienate significant numbers of her followers. Has anyone asked her recently and received an answer? Without clarity, she should lose credibility on Biblical sexuality.
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ElleWell@ElleWell27·
@DoctorPerin Useful as long as it doesn't become a demand. Like many concepts, it works best when each person is actively working on treating their spouse well, but doesn't work when one or both are more heavily focused on how they want to feel than loving the other.
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