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The worst experience I have *ever* heard assembling a children's toy.

@allenwalton @clairevo I don’t equate calmly discussing the situation with “upset” but 🤷‍♂️.

@clairevo @fishmanaf Somebody’s upset

I can’t tell if this is a for real post. There are basically two options to auth something like Google to an AI tool: - oauth which inherits a specific set of user-scoped permissions. Only what the user has access to. - api/service token generated in GCP but typically would require an admin for access Openclaw in specific even requires you to create your own oauth app to connect at all. Not typically yolo-able in a corporate env. Admins for a properly managed Google workspace can 110% see which apps are connected, or in an advanced use case, which service tokens are generated. In addition, many teams have disabled connection to 3p apps by default, and permission has to be unlocked. I find these broad statements about risk super frustrating, because they incorrectly state the risk vector in one dimension (it could delete everything!!!!) and don’t offer insight into the practical controls that mitigate the real risk. This also leads teams applying the controls at the wrong point in the risk chain (no lobster for you!), which dampens AI adoption that would be net positive for the company and the employee.

@allenwalton @clairevo I’m not sure it does come down to that. Typically when you refer to a company as “huge” it doesn’t imply that they’re a small business.

@clairevo Then it comes down to reading her mind on what she meant by huge

Never go to bed angry is BS advice when it's 2am and you're buried in diapers...

Rex Gelb's manager told him "the sooner you give up, the better" right before he became a dad. Terrible advice on the surface. But after talking with Rex on Startup Dad, I think it might be the most honest parenting advice I've heard.

Rex spent 10+ years at HubSpot. His wife was at Dropbox. After parental leave, they both quit within 24 hours. They role-played their quitting conversations with each other the night before.

@onecaseman A retweet would go a long way sir 😜

@fishmanaf you're in third place right now. Time to whip some votes.

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What if masculinity was more of a dial and less of an on/off switch? I talked to @SweaterCEO about this and why prioritizing "family first" is often a lot harder than it sounds.

Every work problem seems pretty trivial after you take your kids to a fancy restaurant and one of them projectile vomits everywhere at the end of the meal. On today's Startup Dad I talked to a founder who lasted 6 weeks at his "dream job" before realizing he'd made a terrible mistake. It was such a big mistake that he left to start a company with a newborn at home. Mike Rome is a dad of 3 boys (ages 7, 4, and ~3 months) and runs a growing performance marketing studio, moonwater. We talked about why building a business when you have a family is the better move, how he got into it and why it's *not* an automatic pathway to spending more time with your family. But the projectile vomit story alone is worth listening to the entire conversation. One thing Mike said I liked a lot "Expect each day to be hard and about solving problems. When you stop being surprised by it, everything gets a lot easier." He also turned me on to the Steve Albini letter to Nirvana (Google it) - how you can stay authentic to your values even when the easier path is telling people what they want to hear. Listen to our full conversation on Youtube and everywhere you listen to podcasts. Links below.

@thesamparr If only there was an entire podcast dedicated to this topic…

Someone asked this question in Hampton’s slack (1000+ founders): “How do you build a business while raising kids?” Replies (anonymized): Member A (had his son at 22, now 44): "There was never anything in this world I wanted more than being a father. Business mattered, but my kids came first. I didn't miss their events. I coached their teams. I sat down for dinner with them. Did I exchange some financial upside and success for time with my kids? One hundred percent. And I would never change that for anything.” Member B (2 kids ages 1 and 5): "They are always the first place." Member C (3 kids and another on the way): "I feel the same way. Need to work on being at peace with my decision because comparisons still creep up." Member D: "You can't get the time back. You can always make more money. You'll be so happy you made this choice 10 years down the road." Member E (now an empty-nester:) "You only get 18 summers with your kids. Make the most of it. Time flies so fast." Member F: "I assumed an hour away from the business was an hour of lost productivity. In retrospect any hours I reallocated to family beyond 6.5 hours at work, the business cost was negligible. Compressing my time forced me to delegate things I had rationalized I couldn't delegate." ____ Anyone else raised kids while running a business? How’d it go?

@anothercohen Hah! This is awesome. Just did the same thing with my Apple Health data and AppleKit.

Finally finished vibe coding my personal health app built with Claude. Here's what it does: - Connects to the Oura API to sync sleep, recovery, steps, and exercise data - Tracks my monthly bloodwork via Rythm Health CSV uploads - Uses Playwright to scrape Chronometer daily nutrition and water intake - Uses Gemini to OCR Ladder workout screenshots and track my lifts - Full dashboard with weight trends, calorie balance charts, macro tracking, and a tabbed daily log It's completely interactive and honestly, pretty fucking cool. Blood markers even have visualizations based on what's in range and out of range.

Before they had kids, Amy Winther told her husband Chris she wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. That was the plan. His career would be the anchor. She'd step back. Then their first baby arrived. And Amy realized the depth of her passion for her career when someone was actually asking her to walk away from it. She grew up with a stay-at-home mom. Every family in her community had the same setup. She just assumed that's what she'd do too, because that's what she'd seen. I think a lot of parents carry invisible scripts about who they're "supposed" to be. Amy and Chris flipped it. Now he's the Stay at Home Dad and she's the Head of Product Design at Square.

The best weapon against a toddler tantrum is the "imagine if I did that" question. Here's how it works: Kid crying because they didn't get dessert - "Imagine if I was at Trader Joe's and they were out of the cheese I liked, and I fell on the floor screaming and crying? What would happen?" The kid stops, ponders, and answers: "They'd probably kick you out. You might get arrested. They might ban you from the store." Yep. Dad: "Our lives aren't so different. You wanting dessrt is like me wanting something at the store or a restaurant. How would it look if I did it that way?" According to @jebank, founder of @relay - this works! Listen and find out.

.@jebank has three young kids and he never does household chores alone. And it's not because he needs help. He's found a way to turn every chore into quality time with his kids. He calls it "double dipping." Cooking dinner? His daughter pulls up a chair and helps mix ingredients. She literally gets upset now if he cooks without her. Running to the store for a birthday gift? Throw a kid in the jogging stroller. Better workout, fun bonding time. Every Saturday at 9am? Costco run with both daughters. They've turned it into a game spotting items in the wrong place. Listen to our full conversation on Youtube and wherever you get your podcasts.

@bbalfour I’m going to become an AI-powered farmer.

Never thought that stint on the grounds crew at my local golf course in high school is going to save me from AI. Grounds maintenance FTW.

Top takeaways from my conversation with @jebank the founder and CEO of @relay: 1/ The three-question framework: Before leaving Google, Jacob asked himself: Can we afford a period of lower income? Where will I learn and grow fastest? What work gives me daily flexibility? Once he could answer yes to the first question, the others pointed clearly toward starting his own company. 2/ Meetings are the enemy of flexibility: At Google, his calendar was packed 7am to 6pm with meetings he didn't schedule. Then he had to do his actual work on weekends. Now his 10-person team runs with almost no meetings. Everyone's senior, highly autonomous, and asynchronous. If a kid gets sick, he adapts without cascading chaos and scheduling overhead. 3/ The stability myth is backwards: People ask which is safer – a 10-person profitable startup with a committed founder, or a 200,000-person company doing rolling layoffs by unknown criteria? No job is safe unless you protect yourself by building versatile skills and a strong network. 4/ Intense doesn't mean 9-9-6: Jacob said he was way "smarter" at 23. He had more processing power and more raw hours available. But at 33 with three kids, he’s a far better founder. He can't brute force solutions by staying up all night anymore. Instead, he’s gotten disciplined, efficient, and strategic about every hour. 5/ "Imagine if I did that, what would happen." This is Jacob's go-to parenting framework. When his kid throws a tantrum, he asks her to picture him lying on the floor screaming at Trader Joe's because they're out of his favorite cheese. It forces kids to reason through consequences instead of just hearing "no." His whole parenting philosophy is about bridging the gap between the adult world and the kid world rather than treating them as separate. 6/ Design your family system for failure, not perfection. Jacob borrows the software engineering concept of "defense in depth." You need flexibility built into multiple layers of your system because kids will get sick, schedules will break, and plans will fall apart. When his wife was in residency working 80-hour weeks, they had zero give. Now they've deliberately architected redundancy: a nanny whose primary job is the baby but who can flex to a sick older kid; neighborhood carpooling; drop-off playdates as the oldest hits school age. 7/ Kids are natural first-principles thinkers. Jacob talks openly to his kids about work problems, and their questions are surprisingly valuable. His five-year-old overhears a sales call and asks why the customer didn't buy. Explaining IT restrictions to a kindergartner forces you to re-examine your own assumptions. He compares it to a management principle he used pre-kids: the best managers bring their teams into problems rather than insulating them. 8/ "Double dipping" over multitasking. Jacob draws a clear distinction between the two. Multitasking means doing everything poorly. Double dipping means achieving two goals in a way that's mutually beneficial. He never does chores without a kid helping. His Saturday Costco runs with his daughters have become a bonding ritual. He even shared a "triple dipping" example: volunteering in his daughter's jiu-jitsu class, then staying for the adult class while she watches and hangs with a friend. Exercise, bonding, and free childcare for another parent all at once. Listen to the full conversation on Startup Dad; you’ll find it on Youtube and everywhere you get your podcasts.

Should I leave my stable job to start a company? When Block lays off nearly half its workforce and the FAANGs are all doing rolling layoffs you might start wondering: is it possible that a 10-person, profitable startup could turn out to be *more* secure? On today’s Startup Dad I talked with @jebank about leaving Google when his daughter was 6 months old to start @relay. I thought that sounded risky; Jacob didn’t. After talking to him I’m inclined to agree. Ask yourself these three questions: -> Can you afford 2x the runway you think you need? -> Will this role actually grow your skills, or just your salary? -> Do you control your time, or does your calendar control you? For him the conclusion was: start a company. Then he learned through the process that small teams are actually *better* for parents than big companies. His 10-person team has zero standing meetings. Everyone's senior. Everyone's a parent. Work happens async (mostly). Our conversation was filled with other amazing nuggets: his concept of “double dipping” for turning chores into quality time with your kids, how to bring your kids into your work problems to show them your world, and his “imagine if I did that” framework for handling tantrums. Listen or watch our full conversation on Startup Dad; you’ll find it on Youtube and everywhere you get your podcasts.

@clairevo When I start to feel like this I step away from the computer or glowing rectangle and go outside for some fresh air. Does wonders!

It’s times like these when it’s a good idea to keep your mouth shut and start quietly filing away judgements on the intellectual depth of folks on the timeline.

Amit Shah's wife became CEO right after their second child was born. They were limping through with a setup that wasn't sustainable. While drowning at home, they made a decision to completely change their approach to childcare. On today's Startup Dad I talked with Amit, the COO of @virtahealth, about what it's like for two C-level executives raising two kids under 5. They prioritize a few principles above all else: -> The one calendar rule - if it's not on the calendar, it doesn't exist. -> Sunday night planning sessions to look ahead the next 2-3 weeks -> A "move the ball forward" philosophy; whoever is available does the next thing that needs doing -> Invest in support systems and structure (nanny, community, family) -> Hard boundaries around travel - only one parent can be gone at a time; someone is home every night Their social life took a hit. Networking dinners are out and happy hours rarely happen. But Amit was clear that modeling the right behavior is just as important as saying it: "I look back on my life and turns out I did what my dad said, but I'm more similar to what he did. Kids pick up what you do in equal parts with what you say." So instead of that other stuff he and his wife focus on demonstrating the values they want for their kids - kindness, curiosity, and persistence - rather than just talking about them. Listen and watch our full conversation on Startup Dad; you'll find it on Youtube, and everywhere you get your podcasts.