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So what we are seeing now is not a conflict between the bigoted (or sensible) middle-aged and the progressive (or misguided) young, but between two generations of gender nonconformists whose approaches to resisting gender expectations are difficult to reconcile.

@NoShirleyNo @j4ppleby Not in my lifetime, anyhow. The 2016 referendum shouldn't bind us forever. But rejoining would be pointless when the country is so split on the issue. What's the point when a lot of our MEPs would just go to sabotage the process? Why would the EU want us?

Just getting ahead of yet a at another Terf split. I voted remain to avoid the inevitable chaos. But we had a referendum for which the rules were laid down. The majority voted no. That’s democracy. So no. I don’t believe we should rejoin.

If you break the promise to lay the EHRC guidance in May @bphillipsonMP @Keir_Starmer , women will not forgive or forget. With @UKLabour in such a precarious position, it would be unwise to piss women off further. We will not tolerate a delay because of reshuffles, resignations or leadership contests - that's your own mess to sort. We've waited long enough. #OneYearLater #SupremeCourtRuling #TickTockTimeIsUp

This woman lying here so peacefully is named Aida Aghili. But her story has shaken millions of Iranians. During the January 2026 uprising, the Islamic Republic killed so many people that hospitals ran out of space for the dead. Bodies were piled in hospital courtyards, and families were told to walk among the corpses to find their loved ones. Aida was 34 years old and was killed in Tehran. Imagine a government murdering its own people in such numbers that mothers and fathers had to search through rows of bodies just to identify their children. Aida became one face among thousands slaughtered by the mullahs but behind every body was a life, a family, a future stolen. The media must not bury the stories of these people beneath headlines and politics. 💔

People worried about assisted death services should sign this. People who strongly desire assisted death services should also sign this. Everybody should sign this. Petition: Fully fund Specialist Palliative Care provided by hospices petition.parliament.uk/petitions/7664…

And now for my least popular tweet since I broke the internet by declaring that women don’t have penises: ***Clears throat I’ve been a mom for almost 18 years. I’ve also worked outside the home in some capacity for most of that time. What most happily working mothers will tell you is that their children do not compete with their work. They deepen it. Motherhood changes the way you move through the world. It sharpens your empathy. It gives weight to your decisions. It makes you more aware of the kind of world your children will inherit, which means your work is no longer just about a paycheck or personal ambition. You become deeply invested in creating excellence, beauty, stability, and integrity in the spaces your children will one day inhabit. You stop seeing people as abstractions. You understand vulnerability differently. You become more patient, more efficient, more emotionally intelligent, more capable of balancing competing needs without losing sight of what matters most. And conversely, meaningful work outside the home can make you a better mother. It keeps you connected to the broader world your children are growing up in. It reminds you that your kids are deeply loved, but not the center of the universe. It gives you opportunities to model discipline, resilience, professionalism, creativity, and service. Your children get to watch you contribute something valuable to the world beyond your household, and that shapes them too. For many women, the relationship between motherhood and work is not adversarial. They strengthen each other. No, I’m not saying anything negative about stay-at-home motherhood. I currently AM a stay-at-home mom. And no, I’m not saying the balancing act is easy or an exact science. We don’t always get it right, and sometimes sacrifices have to be made. But despite what the naysayers want you to believe, it is, in fact, possible to be a good mom who works outside the home. And in this economy, for many families, it’s also necessary.

@JohnFoster12 @MaxE2review She doesn't follow the wind - that's Starmer. When she decides where she stands on an issue she defends her position even when it's unpopular.

@MaxE2review Yeah right. She is a pick and chose which side to fall with as the wind blows. Her party is full of racists.

The reason that clip of Kemi Badnoch slapping down the islamo-leftist agitator a hits home is that you can tell she's genuinely sick of them, and her face captures the genuine disgust that so many feel, and that they warrant. She's confroning a malevolent, racist movement, that comes packaged as holier than though 'anti-racism'.

@sheilaRNBD @NoLongerTheFuzz The Greens won't give us 'everyone matters'. Polanski is offended by people who disagree with him - so anyone who wants single sex spaces, effective policing, controlled borders or science-based policy does not matter in his world.

@NoLongerTheFuzz Bring on the radical, humanitarian, more equal, fairer, Tax the Rich and everyone matters society that we so desperately need. If you think Farage and his gang are the answer, you are dangerously mistaken, they only serve the rich few.

Zack Polanski is not a joke. He is a warning ⚠️ The Green Party under him is the most radical force in British politics, and the most carefully disguised. This is what they will do to the country if you let them. Don’t vote 🌱 without reading this 👇 🔗 @donnalouiseflowers/note/p-196425693?r=6sd61x&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=notes-share-action" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener">substack.com/@donnalouisefl…

@ForWomenScot @EHRC A norm of trans inclusion has worked for decades? Worked for whom?

Rogue charity Scottish Trans is using public money to say that the @EHRC guidance must break the law. They don't want to find solutions & third spaces, they want women's spaces. But this is all hot air. They can't defend this legally. Time to defund & ignore them!

I believe people “peak” about trans ideology in stages - and we have to let them. Because some of what people eventually discover is genuinely frightening and difficult to process. Push too hard too early, and instead of becoming more open to the evidence, many will simply shut down or turn away from it completely. That aside, I spent the best part of a decade in digital marketing. Which is how I know - first hand - that most of us need to hear something more than a dozen times - and often in many different ways - before the message has any chance of landing. And that we can't assume everyone is at the same 'stage' we are. STAGE 0: “Live and let live.” You support gay rights and assume this is mostly about kindness and acceptance. You may feel uncomfortable about men in women’s spaces - but it hasn’t affected you personally, so you don’t think too deeply about it. And because it’s all grouped together under LGBTQIA+, you’ve never really separated sex (LGB) and gender identity (TQIA+). STAGE 1: Something unsettles you. Maybe it’s a nurse being forced to share a changing room with a man who says he's a woman at work. A parent challenging a school because girls are expected to undress in front of a male pupil. Boys being allowed to join a girls’ only organisation. At the same time, you start noticing language changing. NHS leaflets that say “pregnant people” or “cervix havers”. Women’s initiatives that include men. Men in women’s sport. Children being medically transitioned. You still feel sympathetic - especially towards young people struggling with gender identity - but something feels ‘off’. But you still think there must be a sensible solution. Third spaces. Clear boundaries. Some kind of ‘compromise’ maybe? But when you cautiously voice even mild concerns - or see someone else doing so - you realise these views are often treated as unacceptable. STAGE 2: The penny drops. You realise this isn’t simply about being kind to people who are different. People are being expected to publicly deny biological reality - socially, politically and professionally. You notice people in positions of power saying ridiculous things - like ‘women can have penises’ or men can 'grow cervixes.' And that challenging such ridiculous statements costs people jobs, reputations and friendships. You notice some gay people are pushing back hard - and why. Because if sex is no longer real or meaningful, then neither is same-sex attraction. So this doesn’t just affect women’s rights, but gay people too - whose hard-won rights also depend on sex being real. You learn about women like Maya Forstater, Kellie-Jay Keen and Sall Grover - women who have been publicly attacked, vilified and, in Kellie-Jay Keen’s case, physically assaulted, for what feel like entirely reasonable positions about sex and women’s boundaries. You learn what a “TERF” is - and how it’s used as a slur against women who defend their sex-based rights. You see pictures of masked protesters holding up signs calling for women to be hanged and r*ped. Videos of activists calling for them to be urinated and defecated on. Simply for defending their lawful right to single sex changing rooms, toilets and other intimate spaces. You notice journalists, politicians and institutions seemingly afraid to state basic biological facts. Male offenders - who have committed the most serious crimes - being described as women in the press. You start to feel the chill. Not just around women’s rights - but around free speech itself. And start asking yourself: If people can be pressured into denying biological reality - into literally agreeing that the man standing in front of them is actually a woman - what else can they be pressured into staying silent about? STAGE 3: You can’t unsee it You realise that men demanding access to women’s spaces aren’t poor, misunderstood people who simply want acceptance. They are vulnerable. But they need mental health support - not affirmation. You learn that some may have a recognised condition called autogynephilia - where a man is sexually aroused by the idea of himself as a woman. And realise - often with horror - that many public institutions have embedded harmful ideology in the name of compassion and inclusion. Without properly questioning it. Allowing some men to bring their ‘kinks’ to work, education, social and other aspects of public life. In some cases, into settings that include children. You still have compassion. And recognise that many vulnerable children - and their parents - have been swept up in something adults should have questioned much sooner. But know you can’t look the other way. Because you now understand why so many ordinary people stayed silent - not because they agreed, but because they were afraid. At this stage, some people speak publicly. Many speak up earlier. Others support quietly behind the scenes. But very few return to Stage 0 - and nor should they.

@STwatte @chrismullinexmp It's Iona, which generally is not kempt like a manicured municipal cemetery.

@chrismullinexmp I am always amazed at the unkemptness around famous peoples graves. It is a strimmer for 30 seconds.

Iona, by John Smith's modest grave.

@boudicasarmy @PaulEmbery @MatildaMinter It looks like this page was specifically about elections, so maybe respecting law was covered elsewhere? I would hope.

@PaulEmbery @MatildaMinter Interesting that they prioritise a citizen’s responsibility to vote and not to cause offence, but no mention there of the requirement to follow the laws of the land and in particular not to commit violence or sexual assault.

Helping no.2 child with GCSE ‘Citizenship’ revision. Get a load of this.

@fem_mb A. Though C is iconic.

Inspired by recent posts, what's the greatest movie evening gown of all time? A. Audrey Hepburn, Sabrina B. Rita Hayworth, Gilda C. Audrey Hepburn, Breakfast at Tiffany's D. Marilyn Monroe, Gentlemen Prefer Blondes E. Demi Moore, Indecent Proposal F. Drew Barrymore, Ever After G. Keira Knightley, Atonement

For the love of almighty god, the world has real problems. This ludicrous chin scratching over "woman: what even are they?" has been the stupidest, most insane, absolute fucking bollocksing waste of everyone's finite time on this rock. Stop. Or just ask your Mum. Enough.

@1mmer1ch @JournalismSEEN Unlike The Times.

@JournalismSEEN Carefully avoiding any use of pronouns for the crossdresser. Well, that's something!

‘Related topics: television’ Hiding a significant victory against a trans activist from the trans page, BBC Online? Whyever would you do that? ‘Graham Linehan's conviction for damaging trans activist's phone overturned’ bbc.co.uk/news/articles/…

Every time I see a TRA post about @Glinner there are hundreds of comments about him being divorced. Considering the number of men who throw away their marraiges, simply to persue a fetish full time, this strikes me as rather a strange thing for them to get hung up on.

@NeilThin @HJoyceGender @AndrewDoyle Any disciplinary process requires managers to listen to the employee's point of view. Those criticising him are asking that he be taken through that process. (Imo, if he can show that the university culture led him to think it was okay, he should get a warning.)

@HJoyceGender @AndrewDoyle Agreed. Perhaps he did this to test the limits of freedom. Maybe to stoke debate on when and if so in what ways it's ok for blokes to crossdress in the workplace. Managers/colleagues should listen to his explanations, tell him why it's unacceptable, punish if he persists.

For perhaps the first time, I may be in disagreement with @andrewdoyle. Same as with language, this is a freedom of expression issue. We're free to laugh at this lecturer's attire or say it's ugly or offensive, but we shouldn't censor it if it doesn't endanger anyone.

@NeilThin @pro_nouns @KarrieboKarrie @andrewdoyle_com @AndrewDoyle Most other workplaces manage it.

@pro_nouns @KarrieboKarrie @andrewdoyle_com @AndrewDoyle Well in principle, yes. But I struggle to imagine any form of words that would clearly set boundaries. So far as I know few if any universities have tried to put minimum everyday dress standards into words.

@NeilThin @coccinellanovem @AndrewDoyle Saying 'we shouldn't censor it' does suggest you think it's justifiable.

@coccinellanovem @AndrewDoyle I never suggested it was justifiable. However offensive and ugly it was, it was a form of self-expression and discussion rather than censorship seems the best way of understanding his motives and persuading him to desist.

@Veritatem2021 @kevin_ovenden The dismissive attitude of the bill proponents gave good grounds for fear. It was obvious that the bill was not motivated by compassion or respect for individuals.

@kevin_ovenden The relentless orchestration of fear destroyed any chance of rational debate about assisted dying. This is the pitiful state of public discourse in the UK.

Here's what ought to be the issue (& lesson for Leadbeater): you conducted this on culture-war lines. Thus you looking for religious/secular, liberal/reaction divides. You dismissed concerns by professionals. People didn't like that & support *fell*. Let's have an honest debate.

@pompeyawayman @nmdacosta @timfarron @kitmalthouse Freedom? Forcing hospices to participate in killing their patients? Personal 'choice' regardless of emotional or economic coercion? If its religious to believe that life has intrinsic value, then give me that religion over utilitarian euthanasia any day.

@nmdacosta @timfarron @kitmalthouse The religious minority have won. Freedom and personal choice have lost. For now. Of course individuals should be able to choose. Not he controlled by religious dogma.

The House of Lords has disgraced parliament. Their existence is based on trust, now roundly abused by a small group of unelected zealots. Time for a serious look at who these people are, and how they are allowed to govern us. The X trolls will be jubilant, but we will be back.