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@Dammi_Esq Some stubbornness are follow come. There's absolutely nothing much you can do. Just guide and manage them. Some were enabled by their parents by over-pampering and excessive attention. It's a parent's duty to guide their wards. Not that of some correctional facilities.

Which boarding school in Nigeria would you honestly recommend for a child coming from the US who’s become really stubborn? 🤔 Do you think a stricter environment here can actually help reshape discipline?

@DearS_o_n No matter how old you get, your parents would always care about you.

CORRECT ME IF I'M WRONG BUT, after 37 years of age, I’ve finally come to realize that, as a man, no one cares about you. Not your wife. Not your family. Not your friends. Not your workmates. Nobody. People act like they care, but deep down, they don't. You are on your own. Always on your own.

@dimmakilishi I think it's completely normal. Two persons from totally different backgrounds and mindsets would naturally disagree before they agree. Those quarrels are prerequisites for greater understanding. Don't shy away from them. Don't overcompensate. Just learn to be patient.

When I got married newly, I and my husband really quarreled a lot. It got to the extent I started asking myself who sent me to embark on this journey, him too no dey gree. We said a lot hurtful words to each other. Days turned into months and it wasn’t getting better. I remembered telling him that I was going back to my parent’s house and he would reply that I should better start packing. We said it another day and I went straight to the room and packed my ecolac, made my way to start going but deep down I was expecting him to call me back but man kwechili. Immediately, I opened the gate dragging my ecolac, he rushed me and said so somebody cannot play with me. Just small play and I was already packing my bag, I was still acting but inside of me I was happy. You know we women with our shakara, It was that day we said our mumu don do 🤣 We sat down and talked like two adults ready to make things work, he listed the things I do that he doesn’t like and I did same. We worked on it and I can say till date I don’t remember us having any heated arguments. Early years in marriage is usually a tough one, very tough that you need wisdom to scale through that stage. Avoid saying hurtful words because words said when you’re angry can never be taken back, that’s why it’s better to remain silent than say things you might regret later. Being able to talk to him when he errs does it for me because he’s not the bossy type. How was yours during your early stage and how were you able to scale through. Do you mind sharing…

@Mrdnd256 Stop using Isreal to fire Lebanon. She'll reopen.

Marriage is not easy my wife has closed the Strait of Hormuz for two weeks now.

Whores occupy a high place in the human value chain. "Just as there is a concept in biology such as the economic importance of earthworms, cockroaches, termites, and other seemingly insignificant organisms, the female human ability or habit of invoking lust in viewers (online or in real time), feeding sexual fantasies, and becoming a non-religious, non-professional spectacle also has its place in the interplay of the human ecosystem. All of this is value. What these women do, though unfitting to moral or socially agreeable definitions of VALUE, remains value. It is value because it has utility. Through it, many MEN, young and OLD, find a kind of sexual relief. Through it, capitalism and entertainment thrive on the screen time these contents generate, and on the views and revenue that follow. Female waywardness is of value to musicians, the film industry, and even to the natural design of men. It is of value to capitalism - social media creators and owners, gyms, clubs, hotels, hospitals, churches, and, not to be left out, therapy centers." Mr Sergio 2026

@instablog9ja She's neither good-looking nor attractive. The guy doesn't look happy. What's wrong?

Actor Jide Kene ties the knot

@Vicyndysimipeal Your wife cheating on you, your son, a disgrace, or your friend taking advantage of you doesn't mean you aren't disciplined, high value, respectable, and responsible. You have a duty to train your kids, but you can not enforce discipline. They choose to be that way.

You could be the nicest guy on the planet, but if you are weak: -Your wife Will cheat on you -Your son will be a disgrace -Your daughter will masturbation on Tik-Tok Live -Your friends will take advantage of you. I didn't make the RULES. NATURE DID.👂🏿🤌🏿✌🏾 Do what you can with this piece of INFORMATION 💯.

@Vicyndysimipeal Kindly define who a weak man is. Cos I think we misuse that word a lot.

@Strydizzle @chibuzo_mikel @PeterObi You know very well that's not true.

@ec_meri @chibuzo_mikel @PeterObi He's too dull to grasp anything

Let us reflect, sincerely and without sentiment. In the past few days, the President has reportedly approved ₦3.3 trillion as a “full and final” payment for debts in the power sector. Yet, this is not the first time such approvals have been made. On May 17, 2024, ₦3.3 trillion was approved for the same purpose. On July 25, 2024, another ₦4 trillion bond was approved to settle similar debts. There have also been other approvals in between, all targeted at addressing the same power sector liabilities. This raises a fundamental question: were the previous approvals mere announcements without execution? ₦3.3 Trillion Again? Nigeria’s Power Crisis Without End During the 2023 campaign, President Bola Ahmed Tinubu made a clear promise: that if he failed to deliver stable electricity, Nigerians should not re-elect him. Today, the reality is that power supply has worsened, to the extent that there are even discussions about disconnecting the Presidential Villa from the national grid. Each time legitimate concerns are raised, what we see appears more like policy pronouncements than measurable progress. Now, again, we are confronted with another ₦3.3 trillion approval to settle power sector debts. These debts were largely accumulated under successive administrations of the All Progressives Congress between 2015 and 2025. This raises serious concerns about accountability, transparency, and effectiveness in public financial management. It is important to note that government institutions and agencies, including the Presidential Villa owe a significant portion of these debts. Year after year, budgets were made and funds appropriated. Why then were these obligations not settled when due? And from what source will this new payment be made? Are we resorting once more to borrowing to service inefficiencies? Key questions remain unanswered: How did the debt accrue? What is the actual total debt in the power sector? Which components of the debts are due to operators’ inefficiency and should be borne by them? Why have previous approvals not translated into tangible improvements? Who are the real beneficiaries of these repeated payments? Is the ₦3.3 trillion approved on April 6, 2026, the same as the ₦3.3 trillion approved in May 2024, and how does it relate to the ₦4 trillion bond approved in July 2024? Nigeria must move beyond recycled announcements and confront the power sector crisis with sincerity, transparency, and decisive reforms. Until we do so, we will remain trapped in a cycle of debt and darkness. But with discipline, accountability, and the right leadership, a new Nigeria is still possible. -PO

@marriedmn The bottom line should be the ability to understand and speak each other's love language, fill each other's love tanks, and work as a team. Before committing, vet yourself first to know the kind of partner that suits your personality before proceeding to vet the other.

Laws of a Happy Marriage: 1 Protect your partner’s reputation in public, even if you are upset. 2.Never stop flirting with each other. 3.Argue to solve the problem, not to win. 4.Speak gently, especially when it hurts. 5.Take interest in your partner’s feelings. Do not wait for a crisis. 6. Do not let children, work, or money replace intimacy. 7.Say thank you for the little things. Every effort matters. 8.Grow together. Share goals, dreams, and fears.

@TheOdin_II The problem is that this feminine energy isn't always constant. One moment, they are soft and caring. The next, they are manipulative, cold, and irritating. Accommodating this oscillating behaviour wears one out the more. Guy, It is better to be alone than with an 'ogbanje'

Many men are tired not just because of work or pressure… but because they lack feminine energy on their side. A man can face the world all day, fight battles, solve problems, carry responsibility. But when he comes back, he needs peace, softness, and support. If all he meets is tension, competition, or coldness, that man will slowly wear out. Feminine energy is not weakness. It’s calm, care, warmth, understanding. It’s the space where a man can drop his guard and breathe. Without it, he stays in survival mode all the time. And that kind of life drains any man. This doesn’t mean a woman should lose herself or become passive. It just means there has to be balance. Strength outside, peace at home. When that balance is missing, the man doesn’t just feel tired… he feels alone, even in a relationship. 🤷‍♂️

@ruffydfire Why do people wish themselves happy birthday? I think it reeks of insecurity, low self-esteem, absence of love, and attention seeking. Celebrate yourself in private and let your loved ones shower you with affection. Perhaps of course, you don't have loved ones.

Happy birthday to me

Please, Stay away from women who grew up watching their mother run the entire house while their father had no Voice, and no respect. If she never saw the MAN of her house being valued, supported, or honored... don't expect her to magically treat you with respect She'll repeat the dynamic she was raised in. Talking over you, dismissing you competing with you, or trying to lead you. Remember! YOU CAN'T BE WHAT YOU NEVER SAW. 💯✍🏾

Dear @PeterObi, I write in response to your misleading post around the federal government's ongoing debt settlement programme in the power sector under the auspices of the Presidential Power Sector Financial Reforms Programme. Since you make public posts as a citizen, I am also entitled to reply you as a citizen with this lengthy epistle, as part of deepening public conversation around pressing national issues. It's possible you really feel that this your commentary on the FG’s final approval of a N3.3 trillion settlement for legacy power sector debts is a patriotic intervention, unfortunately, it has exposed your persistent misunderstanding of how large-scale government financial processes actually work or maybe it is a deliberate attempt to misinform the public. For someone who governed a state for eight years and seeks to lead a nation of over 200 million people, your repeated misinterpretation of the approval process raises questions about how deeply you understand the mechanics of public sector financial management. You framed the recent announcement as if it is the “latest” in a series of identical approvals when you said N3.3 trillion in 2024, N4 trillion later in 2024, and yet another N3.3 trillion in 2026. But my dear Peter Obi, these are not multiple approvals. They are different stages of ONE structured, multi-year debt settlement programme. And every step of that process has been publicly DOCUMENTED. Perhaps, you are (just like most people raising dust over this issue) just looking at the headlines of newspapers, because I'm sure that if you had taken time to read the content in those headlines you are parading, you would see clearly that it is a process that followed multiple stages. It's just like a tabloid reporting "FEC approves N2 trillion borrowing plan" today then two months later when the Presidency sends the borrowing request to NASS for approval, news tabloids may report it as "Tinubu seeks NASS approval for N2 trillion loan". Six months later after the NASS approval to borrow N2 trillion (which didn't specify where the loan will come from), the FG through the ministry of finance may then finalise a loan deal with say IMF for maybe N1 trillion out of the N2 trillion sought. You'll see tabloids will still report it as "FG to borrow N1 trillion from IMF". The other N1 trillion can come from a bilateral loan from say China two months later and another tabloid will report with a headline: "FG again borrows N1 trillion from China". These agreements with IMF and China does not mean the funds have been released by the way, they will now go through their own internal processes which may take some months and eventual they will individually disburse the funds (most times in tranches) and news outlets will report again "IMF disbursed N800 billion loan to FG"; "China disburses N1 trillion to FG in loans". Now, if you are a pedestrian observer that reads only headlines, when you see the various headlines you may think that they are different borrowings where it's simply the same N2 trillion borrowing that started its bureaucratic journey more than a year ago passing through different steps that you CANNOT bypass. This is similar to what is happening with the Presidential Power Sector Financial Reforms Programme which you may have ignorantly latched onto. In essence this is one Programme with several STAGES and not necessarily several APPROVALS of one thing that you seek to portray. When the Federal Government stated in mid-2024 and 2025 that up to N4 trillion might be needed to settle verified debts owed to GenCos and GasCos, it was not announcing a payment approval rather it was giving anticipatory approval indicating a ceiling for a bond programme, the final amount of which would only crystallise after comprehensive audits of all debt claims by the Gencos, reconciliation of claims, negotiations with operators, validation of liabilities as well as agreement on settlement terms.

@chibuzo_mikel @PeterObi He may not fully grasp the dynamics of the financing in the power sector, hence making his questions valid. You, on the other hand, have done a grateful job in clearing the misconceptions. You did very Chibuzo. Thank you!

@BlessedGirl001 Very good points.. By all means, vet properly. Let your vetting include temperament, values, and character. How do they react in moments of tension and anxiety. As humans, we are very good at masking our weaknesses. True characters are revealed under intense heat and pressure.

If you care to read to the end👀🙂 Submission to your husband is a must for every woman going into marriage. It doesn't matter if the man you married is unreasonable and negligent of his role as a husband. You married him. He was your best choice for marriage. Even when you were asked if you were sure about him, you affirmed. So it is your cross. Carry it. Sacrifice, protection and provision is a must for every husband towards his wife in marriage. It doesn't matter how stubborn she is. You saw her before you married her. Even when you were asked if you were sure about her, you affirmed It. So it is your cross. Carry it. This is why you're advised to vet properly. Marriage is not by "he is handsome", "He has money he can afford all my needs financially" or that "She has Yansh, and big breast. She is good in bed". The question is; 1. What is their character like? 2. How do they behave in their family? 3. How do they restrain themselves when angry 4. Who is the authority over them that they respect so much that can call them to order?(in marriage you need a referee(a neutral person). The two of you cannot run your marriage alone. You need guidance) Marriage is beyond physical beauty, Physique, and financial power(even those these things are primary necessity) Marriage will test your Patience with your partner Marriage will stretch you mentally with your in-laws Marriage will demand your presence in the life of your kids and partner Marriage will demand ACCOUNTABILITY at all times Marriage will demand your SILENCE on certain matters. Marriage will require Tolerance. It will demand that you Relearn, Unlearn and Learn certain Changes in your partner. A wise man said; "when a mosquito 🦟 lands on your scrotum, that is when you realize that there is a different approach to solving or handling issues. — Hence, marriage will require that you grow in wisdom. Submission is a must whether or not you marry the wrong person. Provision, protection and love is a must from the man whether or not he married the wrong person. Vet properly!!!

@toocoolforurpa @Temitope_Afoo No offence taken. If I were you, I'd say the same. I'm sorry for how badly life has treated you. I hope the coming days treat you better. I wish you well, my dear friend.

@ec_meri @Temitope_Afoo Lol You're just a fool

This video made me took me back in days, this was exactly how our house was when we packed in 2010. My mom was tired of worrying about rent and i remember one day after school, instead of going back to the rented apartment she took us to our house. This was exactly how it looked, we had rug at the sitting room to make it look fancy. I remember the day she bought tiles, I was so happy, we had to pack our things outside for the tillers to work. Little by little, from tiles to painting to extra toilets, pumping machine, fence. In that same house, she bought a car, she trained all of us in good schools. My brother is a computer engineer, I'm a nurse, our last born is in his final year at the university. My mother, what a woman! I've not seen someone as resilient as that woman. Kai kai God bless you abundantly, I'm going to spoil you silly. I'm already doing the little I can but I want to do more. She deserves the best. Truly, I don't look like what I've been through. Glory to God.

@dimmakilishi Put yourself out there by begging for support?? Is that what social media is all about? How do you even encourage people to come online and post their struggles? What happened to meticulously working, pursuing your dreams, making more money...? Your post is misleading.

The power of social media 🙌🏾 See ehn if you use social media so well, it can change your life. Rich kids or people wey get helper fit dey lowkey for social media. But if you weren't born with a silver spoon, you no get helper, your papa no be dangote. Please put yourself out there, come online share your story and utilize social media for good. A few days ago, this lady shared how her landlord asked them to move out. Instead of looking for another house, they decided to stay in their uncompleted building. She even showed the condition of the place and kept appreciating her husband throughout. The place was yet to be completed but she did a video taking us round the house. That video went viral and lots of people are contributing to make sure the house is completed. Yesterday, an actor came across her post! He admired her courage and gave her 1 million naira 🥳🥳 A lot of people are already throwing in their support and offering to support by raising funds to help complete the house within 60 days. Power! Power!! Power!!! Power of social media 🔥🔥🔥

@Temitope_Afoo Fot the girl child, 1.Low sense of worth 2.Lack of model for male relationships 3.Poor emotional stability 4.More emotional or social risks Why is it my business? X is that space where people learn. As an advocate of a safe society, it is important that we build stable homes.

@ec_meri What danger do children without father pose to the society? I wrote many beautiful things about my mother and the only question you could ask is something that is none of your business. Are you one of those without a father thereby endangering the society??

@Temitope_Afoo No, he's not. Your post didn't mention anything about your dad. The woman in the post even praised her husband. I'm asking where your dad was so as to know how properly I can engage your post. I'm sure you know the dangers that children without fathers pose to society.

@ec_meri Is your father missing?