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@RachelBitecofer If this could go viral . . .

We’re 3 months out and it’s still multiple times per day that I sit back and wonder how the fuck any of that season was even real

Do you guys remember when they said never let Indiana in the playoff again and then we went 16-0 and won the Big 10 and won the Heisman trophy and won the Rose Bowl and won the Peach Bowl and won the national championship

@elonmusk FACT CHECK: False. Voter fraud rates have been studied, documented and known for decades. The rate is 0.00006%. It’s. Non-issue. In fact, Trump has more felony convictions than there have been cases of voter fraud in the last 20 years.

@elonmusk Decades of election integrity and no evidence of widespread voter fraud says you're full of shit.

@LeighStJohn33 Underrated post

The highest form of giving a fuck is not giving a single fuck Why? Very often you "giving a fuck" is actually an attempt to control another person... Because you think you have to manipulate them & the world in order to get the state you seek (Inner peace, freedom, ease)

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Here's the 101 to joymaxxing: (From someone who went from depression to tearing up multiple times a day from sheer joy/gratitude) FOUNDATIONS: > joy & unconditional happiness is your natural state of being (think childhood) > it's not earned but revealed - like the clouds parting revealing the sun that was always there > it's entirely a process of subtraction (which runs counter intuitive to your default programming that always wants MORE MORE MORE) > any attempt to force the process or will, force or achieve your way into this natural state will fail (creating more mental turmoil in the process) STEP 1: CLEARING Write down all your re-occurring negative thoughts All the old stories All the limiting beliefs you're aware of All the things that come up "randomly" when you're driving your car or falling asleep Get it all out on paper OBJECTIFY this content of your mind Realize you are the WITNESS in which this arises AKA your thoughts, feelings, beliefs and perspectives are not what you fundamentally are It feels like "me" and 100% "real" because you have an attention skill issue When attention "hooks" onto a thought - it gives it reality You need to learn to unhook your attention from your thoughts and learn to see them as noise (More on that in a moment) Realize that you were born a blank canvas Just pure awareness/presence Everything that you have taken to be you for decades is conditioning Caveat: The parts of yourself that feel joyous, light and free are the real you All the rest that makes you feel lacking, unworthy and crap are the conditioning Iron Rule: Conditioning always carries a heaviness to it It's a position to defend Easiest way to recognize conditioning is if it has an energetic signature of "should" NOW - Go through all of the stuff you wrote down and start to curiously question it from this witness POV Question where you learned to beat yourself up Where you learned you're not enough as you are Where you learned your emotions are not ok Where you learned you need to be stressed to make money Where you learned that validation is "out there" USEFUL TOOLS: The 4 Questions from Byron Katie Etc THE GOAL: Start to question & clear out the crap that you've been identified with that's making you miserable Start to see it's not you and you don't NEED to believe it THE POV: You are the PLAYER of the game of life - not the character Thing of this as editing your characters states, passive abilities etc -------- STAGE 2: Re-training your mind This is absolutely foundational to living a life of joy If your attention is buzzing between 8 different things every 10 seconds The truth is...you're cooked If you're washing the dishes and trying to solve 12 different big life problems at the same time... You're cooked You can start in as little as 10-mins a day It's going to absolutely suck in the beginning Because you're dealing with decades of conditioning you've specifically designed your life & personality around avoiding Go slow, go steady To start, simply: > Sit > set a 10-min timer > Gently & softly focus on your breath > When your mind wanders (it will..A LOT) > Recognize the wandering (this is not a bad thing - It's a great thing - + XP unlocked) > Relax your body & mind to "unhook" attention from thoughts > Return to your breath > Repeat 100x Build this habit & progressively overload to 20-mins over time For me in the beginning - It would take around 20-mins just to start to get the mind to settle Now it takes 10 seconds This - Like anything - Is a skill And it's probably THE most important skill you'll learn You can also practice this throughout the day In fact..to make real progress..you kind of have to "Oh, I'm thinking about XYZ B.S thing right now instead of what's in front of me... Let me relax & return to my breath" STAGE 3: Embracing Emotions & Inner Tension 99% of your thoughts are the result of avoiding an emotional experience A huge % of your personality is built to avoid feeling something in your body To experience more joy - You must be willing to embrace the full spectrum of human emotion And start to see the beauty in FEELING Grief - sadness - anger - fear - doubt - Shame All of these become FUCKING BEAUTIFUL when you fully embrace them This is NOT a mental process It's a pure feeling/somatic process Whenever you notice yourself stuck in a thought loop Ask yourself: "What am I avoiding feeling right now?" It's probably a tension in your chest Or a contracted feeling in your gut These unpleasant feelings are PORTALS TO PRESENCE and inner peace All you need do? Fully embrace them Welcome them Be with them SOFTEN towards them instead of hardening up & pulling away The more you allow yourself to feel The more vibrantly alive and incredible life becomes We are deeply feeling beings To live a purely mental/intellectual life is an extremely unpleasant & ineffective way to live Move from a mental life to an ENERGETIC life There is no spoon Just energy You block the natural flow whenever you THINK about your problems instead of FEELING through them ACCEPT your feelings SOFTEN towards them (they are innocent and pure! They only want you to be free - They just don't know how to bring you there) WELCOME them fully BE with them Offer them the loving presence your Mum offered you when you were 4 yrs old and had a nightmare That loving presence at the side of your bed that dissolved fear and let you fall asleep? Same exact stuff -------------- GRATITUDE: When you feel more calm, clear and at ease in your own life Tuning into gratitude can turbocharge your life & bring you into next level JOY When you're present - Gratitude tends to arise naturally But given you are the energy bending witness wizard of your life Why not give it a little nudge in the right direction I'm at a point where just noticing the sensations of breath in my nostrils Or a bird flying the sky Or just making eye contact with my daughter... Can all trigger tear inducing levels of bliss and thankfulness Gratitude is an absolute super power and the simplest way to access "higher states of consciousness" Which really just means better feeling states of energy Now - Disclaimer - this is a super hard & fast guide But a good place to get some inspiration on how to begin from And in my 1:1 work with clients I've seen profound transformations occur when putting some of this into action I've seen clients: ⚡️Improve their sleep (30-mins to fall asleep to 2-mins) ⚡️Finally quit SSRIs (after years of trying) ⚡️Become founders of movements ⚡️Tap into deep presence ⚡️Become more loving Fathers ⚡️Find love after failing for a long time ⚡️Tap into mystical states of consciousness ⚡️Restructure their lives to be in DEEP alignment ⚡️Finally start to love & accept themselves for who they are These were all men who were successful on the outside but miserable internally The point is your natural state is already JOYOUS All you need do is let go of the crap that obscures it Godspeed

@TheHappySlut1 Namaste This tears at me— The Pull: inner peace The Push: desiring inner peace for all

The push and pull of “protect your peace” and “every voice matters, silence is complicity” is tearing me apart.

@Hoosier_Review Video proof or it didn’t happen . . . Not true IU fans then. Why boo when you’re champs? Not adding up.

I feel bad for Carson Beck getting booed at the NFL Combine by Indiana fans. At one point he missed on all his deep balls and got booed. I'm extremely confident if Jamari Sharpe was there he would have completed a couple. I put this video together of Indiana fans cheering him complete with a Pat McAfee "Hey, great season dude. Sorry that happened to you". Carson and Miami fans I hope this makes up for everything today

@GiaMMacool 🔥

Did you know the average American is nearly 50 lbs overweight? Your spouse isn’t expecting you to be the most beautiful person in the world. 
They’re expecting you to care enough to want to please them. A woman who’s fat is ashamed of her body, no matter what she says. And you can’t feel ashamed of your body and fully enjoy sex at the same time. Your spouse has the right to want to be attracted to the person they married. 
And no, he’s not a chubby chaser He’s not going to be obsessed with your body “at any size.” Stop shaming men for wanting attraction, connection, and a wife who actually wants sex.

Being fat is a sin.

@mgn53 @RachelBitecofer They’re not

@RachelBitecofer Do you think they're going to therapy? Doubtful.

I’ve been wondering about this for years. Surely therapists are dealing with clients who steadfastly believe in a fake reality and that surely, part of the therapy has to be fixing that. Fascinating. I think MAGA should donate their brains to science

@GiaMMacool I’m reading this as: “If you forgive yourself and take responsibility for your mistakes, you’ll be able to do . . . the same for . . . someone else.”

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A therapist who spent 40 years counseling couples on the brink of divorce wrote down the one conversation she wishes every couple would have before they get married. She said: "If you have this conversation honestly, you will either save yourself decades of pain or build a foundation that can survive anything." Here is the conversation…

@abelljr1 @DanFlet08499316 @_DrQue @TheJugg801 @AlexandruC4 🎯

@DanFlet08499316 @_DrQue @TheJugg801 @AlexandruC4 Yours is anyway.

BREAKING: The National Governors Association (NGA) has canceled its annual White House meeting after President Trump only invited Republican governors to the gathering.  “Because NGA’s mission is to represent all 55 governors, the Association is no longer serving as the facilitator for that event, and it is no longer included in our official program,” Oklahoma Gov. Kevin Stitt (R) wrote in a letter announcing plans to forgo the meeting, according to The Associated Press.

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If you agree on these 7 things at the beginning of a relationship, You’ll almost never break up: 1. The hierarchy of loyalty.

TY for your voice

Alex Pretti was murdered.

@HollyBriden @marwilliamson Omg. Take a look at the overwhelming evidence of the Rapist-in-Chief Inside voice: Why am I shouting into the void?

@marwilliamson Thank you. We can’t have them arresting child rapists or violent animals who are here illegally.

“Get the hell out of Minneapolis!” is the rallying cry of millions of Minnesotans now. #AbolishICE

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Anxiety isn’t just in your head. It’s in your GUT too. Here are 7 gut-based ways to calm anxiety, improve mood, and restore mental clarity (without meds)🧵 1. Your gut is your second brain.

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Anxiety isn’t just in your head. It’s stored in your nervous system. Here are 9 body-based ways to release it (without medication) 🧵 1. Cold water on your face.

@SirMikeaLot_ @ModernxDad This ringing true for me

@ModernxDad men are different. when we are 'in', we are ALL in. I have not found women that way. They appear to only be 'partially' in, with one hand on one branch, and always looking for the next branch to swing to. unfortunately. I guess it's because they live life based on fear. men dont

If a man stops chasing or texting first it means..