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"He that is without sin among you, let him cast the first stone..." - John 8:7

@Deadassmcheadas @Timcast

@Deadassmcheadas @Timcast

The creator of "Did You Know Gaming" was shown ample proof that anime (an obviously broad artistic medium for storytelling) & its creators don't fit cleanly into Western leftist politics & the best he could come up with was: "you're dumb & your penises are small." Truly a bastion of security & an intellectual heavyweight of our time. They'll (try to) claim anime, but are the first to complain about how Japanese works are "problematic" & need to be censored via localization for not fitting their view of what "art" should be.

I thought I'd be a natural at being a dad. I wasn't. Here's what fatherhood actually taught me (the last one broke me): Before kids, I had a vision: Patient father. Present. Kids who listened. A home full of respect and laughter. Then reality hit. My 3-year-old threw a tantrum in the grocery store. I lost it. Harsh words. The kind that echo. He looked at me like I was a stranger. That's when I realized: Everything I thought I knew about being a father was wrong. Here's what fatherhood actually requires: YOUR TIME ISN'T YOURS ANYMORE I used to have hobbies. Projects. Time to myself. Now? My son wants to build Legos. My daughter wants to explore the woods. They want me to watch the same movie for the 47th time. I can either resent it or embrace it. I chose wrong for too long. The truth: This window closes. One day they won't want my time. YOUR EXAMPLE IS YOUR ONLY REAL LESSON You can lecture about respect all you want. But if you yell at your wife, dismiss their feelings, or scroll your phone while they're talking, that's what they learn. They don't listen to your words. They copy your actions. Every moment you think they're not watching, they are. THEY WON'T THANK YOU FOR DOING IT RIGHT Kids don't wake up and say thanks for the boundaries, dad or I'm grateful you disciplined me. They fight you. They push back. They make you question everything. But 20 years from now, they'll either respect the man you were or resent the one you weren't. You're not building compliance. You're building character. YOUR ANGER IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY I used to blame my kids for my reactions. They made me yell. They made me lose my temper. No. I chose that. Your patience isn't about them being easier. It's about you being stronger. If you can't control yourself, how are you leading them? THEY NEED YOU TO BE THE AUTHORITY Not their friend. Not their buddy. Their father. Someone who sets the standard, enforces it, and doesn't waver. Kids don't need gentle suggestions. They need clear boundaries and the security that comes from knowing you're in control. Weak leadership creates anxious children. THEIR LOVE FOR YOU ISN'T UNCONDITIONAL FOREVER Right now, they love you by default. But that changes. If you're absent, angry, or inconsistent, that love turns to distance. You earn their respect by being present, strong, and reliable. Don't waste the years when they still look at you like you're everything. THE WEIGHT OF IT NEVER GETS LIGHTER I thought it would get easier. It doesn't. The stakes just get higher. When they're toddlers, you're teaching patience. When they're teens, you're teaching integrity. When they're adults, you're watching to see if any of it stuck. Every decision you make today echoes into their future. That responsibility doesn't fade. It grows. I still mess up. I still lose my patience. I still fall short. But I'm better than I was. Because I stopped pretending fatherhood would come naturally and started doing the work to become the man they need. Your kids don't need a perfect father. They need one who shows up, owns his failures, and keeps getting better. Which of these hit you hardest?

Here a story about how X isn’t real life. Last weekend I was at a child’s birthday party and I bumped into a girl I knew in college. We had been friends and in a few clubs together. She had a reputation as the “college ho ”. She didn’t hide this much. She had attended parties in her birthday suit and the photos were sent via hundreds of email accounts all across campus. Everyone knew, even if they didn’t want to. Obviously I didn’t approve of her behavior, but I was always friendly and kind when we met. We never dated so it was platonic. I had sort of gotten the impression that she may have had a difficult upbringing. I know now for sure that she had been abused as a child, because she had all the signs professionals are trained to notice. Her sexuality was her way of acting out against whatever trauma she had suffered. Well, I hadn’t seen her in decades and she showed up with a husband and two beautiful tween girls. We chatted for a while and I got the impression that she had started making a lot of positive changes in her life. I gave her a hug, told her I was proud of her, and said it looked like she was raising her girls well. I didn’t ask about her “body count” or say she was “damaged goods”. I talked with her husband about being a girl dad and we hit it off. We went our separate ways after that, but I was happy to have seen her and proud that she finally had gotten life figured out. You see, that’s a normal human reaction. We certainly don’t need to approve of bad behavior, but we needn’t give up on someone in their 20s, either. Not all of us mature on the same schedule, and what matters is how we finish, not how we start. There’s hope, even for “304s”, because human beings always have a chance to turn it around. As Christians, we can fill someone with shame, or we can teach them that there is always a way out. I would never want anyone to follow this woman’s path, for it is filled with pain and heartache. But I did want to share that you have the agency to be happy again.

@TheFreelyAshley You are not entitled to comfort.

I don't know why the assumption is I *want* people to struggle just because I think it's brat mentality to call a sandwich slop. The reality is: sometimes you have to be slightly uncomfortable for a short time to get ahead long term. And quite frankly packing a lunch isn't even uncomfortable, it's just one way to cut back on unnecessary expenses, which was where this discourse started. You have to make sacrifices at some point. Yea, houses are insane right now. But throwing up your hands and declaring you'll never get ahead keeps you in the same spot, doesn't it? Suffering isn't avoidable. We will all suffer and struggle at some point (to varying degrees) because it's part of life. But it doesn't have to be all of life if you're smart.

You are right. One day, my son came home early after riding bikes with his friends. My wife and I asked why he was home so early since he still had about an hour to play. He said he fell off his bike and didn’t want to ride again. My wife said to me, “You see why he shouldn’t play outside or ride bikes like that? It’s dangerous.” I told my son, “Okay, let me see your wound. It’s quite bad, so let’s bandage it and stop the bleeding. I’ll give you pain meds. Relax today, and tomorrow you will go out and ride your bicycle again.” I explained that as a boy, we learn from pain and don’t back down because of it. Today, he happily went out to enjoy time with his friends riding bikes. If left to my wife, as the protective mother she is, our boy would not ride bikes. As a father, I have fallen many times and always gotten up to keep moving. My son needs to learn that too. A woman does not know how to raise a boy into a man.

Im convinced that social media influencers are all retards

@ZubyMusic Besides the typical watching my son grown and being with my wife and family? Probably collecting Pokémon cards, lol

What are you currently excited about?

this is, as @ArynneWexler explains, totally unsurprising.

Why is no one talking about the fact that appetizers are now the same price as entrees

We need a reboot of little women about gamer men in 2026 and the struggles they go through. The parallels are there

Every day I see fewer and fewer Americans in Texas. Maybe they're moving to smaller towns. Maybe they're moving to different states. Maybe they just don't want to go out as much. I don't know. But one thing is for sure, it is beginning to feel less and less like America here.

Yes, you can still game as a hobby as an adult. But, if you are 30+ years old with nothing but gaming going on, while everyone else has moved on to improving themselves, building careers, and making families, then you don't have your priorities straight.

If gaming is still taking up a majority of your free time as an adult, you are doing something wrong.

@angelodotsui Wow, I got this just in time then. I bought it at the $23 price just a little over a month.

what’s happening with this bulbasaur card is honestly insane we’re witnessing one of the biggest manipulations on a modern card we’ve ever seen the price of this first partner bulbasaur has skyrocketed after some people pointed out that a “treekachu” is hidden among the trees, referencing the famous pikachu sir from ascended heroes we are clearly living in a massive bubble

lip fillers should be illegal they are disgusting you look disgusting

There's a reason that the 00s feel like the last real decade. Something happened in 2009. iPhones invented two years before. Then in 2009, Facebook rolled out its personalized algorithm-driven feed. Twitter and Instagram followed a few years later. I really think, if you have to point to just one culprit (though there are several), it would be this. The algorithm killed the monoculture more than anything else. We live now in a culture almost entirely shaped by the algorithm, which is to say that we have no culture.

Ken Levine, the creator of BioShock, recently shared his views on new gaming hardware and pointed out that the upcoming Nintendo Switch 2 and Valve’s new Steam Machine are not big technological jumps. “Look at, say, the Switch 2 and even the new Steam Machine coming out. Those are not massive technological upgrades. That wasn’t their strategy. I think people are realising we’re hitting a bit of diminishing returns with that,” Levine explained that his team avoids ultra-realistic graphics because it is expensive and does not age well, preferring stylized art that lasts longer like in BioShock. He believes real innovation comes from strong stories, artistic choices, and meaningful player decisions rather than raw power, and his new game Judas uses this approach, similar to the success of Baldur’s Gate 3. “If you have the right art director and the right approach, you don’t need to be on the cutting edge of technology all the time.”