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Bir kişiyle olumlu bir anı hayal ettiğimizde beynimize istemeden o kişiyi sevmeyi öğretiriz ve o kişiyi daha çok sevmeye başlarız.

Most children today don't have an elder cousin, a chacha, a bhua, or a tau at home anymore. The joint family was the original mentorship programme. We dismantled it and now wonder why kids feel lost.

The cosmic design was that a man provides a roof and a kitchen over a woman’s head. Nothing more. Nothing less. Today, it is economically important that a woman, your wife, be established and financially reliable for the future security of the children, especially in the event of instability, death, or unemployment. And so, it becomes necessary for a man to preempt the calamity that may befall his family by investing in his wife’s business, education, or career growth. Modern civilization has expanded the male burden beyond what the natural male-female arrangement was structured to sustain. That men today are sending women to school, using influence to secure jobs they may not even be competent enough for, building businesses, apps, and entire career structures for them, is a mutilation of cosmic intelligence and design. It is men overplaying their role in intergender dynamics. It is men doing more than the divine, in its intelligence, approved. Marriage has become an economic survival project instead of a relational structure. Men are not merely suffering from women, but from overextending themselves trying to solve civilization-induced instability through women. This is an offense. The cosmos knew that women or relationship with women is not worth these amount of sacrifice and self undoing. The cosmos never designed relationships to carry this much existential burden. It never designed men to have to economically engineer women into survivability before intimacy could become viable. But civilization, as constructed by men through politics, capitalism, bureaucracy, and modern insecurity, has created conditions where men now feel compelled to do too much for women in order to sustain marriage, family, and survival itself. Men are trying to solve man-made problems through women. But the cosmos punishes man through the woman, because the cosmos does not care about the artificial crises civilization has created. And in trying to solve those crises, men end up defacing the original design of male-female relations—a design structured around minimal investment, simple provision, and natural polarity. The modern man now labors excessively not because women are worth more than before, they are not. But because survival itself has become inflated. And in attempting to compensate for that inflation through women, men undo themselves. Men are doing too much. This is a mutilation of cosmic intelligence. The rest are merely the consequences. The solution, then, is not for men to further overextend themselves compensating for civilization’s instability through women, but to choose women who have already attained a degree of survivability on their own. Women who have built something - education, competence, discipline, a career, a stable inner structure. A man should not have to construct an adult from scratch before marriage becomes functional. The burden of modern survival is already excessive; adding the responsibility of manufacturing capability in another adult is what collapses many men psychologically, financially, and spiritually. If modern conditions now demand two economically viable adults for stability, then men must stop romanticizing dependency and start selecting for reliability. Not because the cosmos originally designed it so, but because civilization has made it necessary. As you were.