@HKW1981 @collinstimbela_ Correct. Fortunately, these men have never been in my orbit, thank goodness. This would indeed be worse.
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Cynthia Smith
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Cynthia Smith
@Cynthiasmith077
Evolving human. Seeker of the treasure in life, boy mom, wellness devotee, people lover, cancer hater.
North Carolina, USA เข้าร่วม Mayıs 2023
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@Cynthiasmith077 @collinstimbela_ Don’t dismiss random physical violence
That’s not very attractive.
I know
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A grumpy man can control a family without ever raising his voice. He just has to make his displeasure expensive enough. A long silence at dinner. A ruined car ride. Soon, everyone starts pre-adjusting. The kids are told “not now” before they can ask. She chooses the restaurant he likes, the movie he won’t complain through, the route that avoids traffic because traffic makes him unbearable. This is how a household becomes organized around one person’s refusal to regulate themselves.
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@tigerlilysghost 100% agree. Want to instantly go from a size 4 to looking like a size 10? Put on a pair of barrel jeans.
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Girls, the deep state invented barrel jeans to demoralize you. Please be stronger than this
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I’m 62, so a boomer. We grew up the daughters of women that had no control over their lives because they had no career, nothing of their own. Husbands controlled everything. We saw firsthand how that looked. I didn’t have my sons until 35/38 because I didn’t want to be my mother.
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I am 45 and when I look back on my experiences as a young woman I rarely had boomer women, even close mentors, recommend children or family formation. The propaganda was that having a baby too young would ruin young women and prevent them from having a “meaningful career”. There was never any discussion of how meaningful and important a role motherhood is.
Hildegard of Bangin’@medieval_bops
I am 51 and deeply regret not having kids. I was stringently brainwashed into believing that I should never have children. I’ve never even been pregnant as far as I know. I was on birth control from age 16 through age 49.
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@melliellimelli @collinstimbela_ Yes, always hope ❤️
Self awareness creates the path to a better way
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@Cynthiasmith077 @collinstimbela_ My husband has traces of this, inherited from his dad. But they are thankfully overwhelmed by the loveliness he got from his mum, especially now he's not on speaking terms with his dad anymore. There is hope for those who want to improve – we've grown together❤️
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@The_Weed_Hottie I make this throughout the summer but with fresh grown tomatoes, HEAVY on the tomatoes. Southern staple.
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Nothing beats the nostalgia of a dish that takes you straight back to your childhood kitchen. This cucumber salad is a simple classic that reminds us why "made from scratch" will always win.
The "Sunday at Granny's" Cucumber Salad
1/2 onion, sliced thin
2 cucumbers, sliced thin
1/2 cup vinegar & 1/2 cup water
1/4 cup sugar
1/2 tsp salt & 1/2 tsp pepper
Shake & chill
The Spin & Pairing
The Spin: Add a pinch of fresh dill or red pepper flakes for a little kick that balances the sweetness.
The Pairing: This is the ultimate side for a piece of crispy fried chicken or a hearty bowl of homemade mashed potatoes.
There is a special kind of magic in recipes passed down through generations—they just taste like home.
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@clovis1931 @DanaLeaB1 Meet his twin dog, Lucy. Same color coat, same color vest. Hard to tell the difference.
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@JustineBateman So (exhaustingly) true. There are few aspect of life that are untainted by this noise.
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@anishmoonka @DrMcFillin But there is pyroluria, urine test. Fix is B6, zinc. From off the rails to sane in a few months. It’s not an embraced diagnosis in the US, but there’s also no pharma fix, just supplements.
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$20 billion. That is what Tom Insel spent over 13 years as the head of America’s mental health research, looking for the biology behind depression and schizophrenia. When he quit in 2015, he admitted: “I don’t think we moved the needle in reducing suicide, reducing hospitalizations, improving recovery.”
That came from the man who sat at the top of the field. The reason runs deeper than bad incentives. Cancer has a biopsy. Diabetes has a blood sugar test. A heart attack shows up on a scan. Psychiatry has a thick manual called the DSM, a list of symptoms voted on by committees of psychiatrists. Allen Frances, who chaired the previous version of that book, admitted that not a single biological test made the cut for the latest one. After thirty years of brain scans and gene studies, no blood test or scan can prove a mental illness exists. When the latest DSM was being tested, two doctors looking at the same patient agreed on a depression diagnosis at a rate barely better than chance. You cannot cure something you cannot measure.
The drugs sit on the same shaky ground. For three decades the public was told depression is caused by low serotonin, a brain chemical. In 2022, researchers at University College London reviewed every major study on this and found no convincing evidence it is true. The American Psychiatric Association quietly walked back the claim. SSRIs (the most common antidepressants) do raise serotonin in the brain, but nobody knows why some people feel better on them and most do not.
The numbers from the actual trials are worse than the marketing. The biggest depression drug trial ever run, called STAR*D, tested four different drugs in sequence on more than 4,000 patients. The headline number sold to doctors and journalists was that 67% of patients got better. In 2023, a reanalysis using the trial’s original protocol reached a different number. The true one was 35%. After the first drug, only about 30% of patients reached recovery. The pattern got worse from there. By the fourth drug, the chance of the next one working dropped to 13%. And only 3 to 8% were still well a year later.
Yet the prescriptions keep climbing. Global antidepressant sales hit $17.8 billion in 2024. In the US, more than one in nine adults are on one, and among women it is closer to one in seven. After the pandemic, prescriptions for teen girls accelerated 130% faster than the previous trend.
So the honest answer has two parts. The incentives matter, but they are downstream. The real problem is that psychiatry treats made-up categories with drugs nobody fully understands. The man who ran America’s mental health research budget said as much on his way out the door. Nobody has refuted him since.
mitsuri@0xmitsurii
Psychiatrists when asked how many patients have they cured.
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@themaddierune My son has cancer, it’s sad. That’s not a diagnosis, it’s a sad reality that makes me grieve. No pill can fix that. What makes it better? Love from good people.
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We’ve medicalized sadness so aggressively that genuine grief now looks like a symptom. Sometimes you’re not depressed. Sometimes your life is just actually hard. And somehow we started calling it illness when a human heart finally told the truth.
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@mattvanswol I live in NC, teacher pay is a problem; we are ranked 46th nationally. This is the proposed plan
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🚨HOLY CRAP!!!!
Over 50% of ALL NORTH CAROLINA KIDS will NOT have school on Friday so that teachers can protest.
Parents are PANICKING after even MORE school districts cancelled classes LAST NIGHT.
My son's school has cancelled classes for this protest...
THIS IS INSANE!!!!!
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@BlakeMycoskie Almost ridiculously simple but absolutely spot on. Balance those three and you’ve found the good place.
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I once heard that happiness comes down to just three things.
Simple. Almost too simple.
But the older I get, the more true it feels.
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@0xmitsurii My psychiatrist cured me. He told me to get my hormones checked and restored. Sanity restored, never saw him again.
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This little piece of Pampered Chef plastic is older than my adult children. And still working.
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This is one of the worst advice ever
Be emotionally attached and passionate in love and go all the way. let love consume you fully, even if it ruins you.
Think all the strange, impossible scenarios you want, but be passionate when you do it. If you fall in love, go all the way. Do not half-ass something sacred because you are afraid of suffering. Stop calculating outcomes. Do what you want with ferocity, with all your heart, and pour your love into it without self-protection.
Do not keep trying to save yourself from the very thing meant to undo and enlarge you. Love was never supposed to be approached with caution. It asks for abandon.
blue@bluewmist
stop getting so emotionally attached and enjoy experiences with a person. be friends. be a moment in time. be a memory. you don't have to fall madly in love with everyone who comes your way. just enjoy their presence for your moment together.
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@kacdnp91 We offer thermography, refer for ultrasound if indicated. Both systems in town have locked us out on referrals; require mammograms prior to ultrasound regardless of our findings. Only 1 (independent) imaging center that will do ultrasound without mammography.
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@realEstateTrent I don’t suffer from this. I have a son with cancer; that’s the real spilled milk. Any other obstacle is nothing, rarely even registers. Compared to cancer, even difficulties seem a pleasant diversion.
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I call it Spilled Milk Syndrome.
The people who suffer from it live difficult, stressful lives, no matter how well things may otherwise be going for them.
They freak out when their iPhone screen cracks. Their flight gets delayed an hour, and it makes them crazy.
Their uber driver cancels last minute, and they yell at their screen. Their printer runs out of paper when they’re running late and need that important document - and their heart races like crazy.
Their blood boils when their latte’s too hot. Or their new shoes get stained the first time they wear them. Or the babysitter’s running 10 minutes behind.
Life’s little annoying moments shock them every time. They are the spilled milk moments that fill all of our lives - and they’re routine no matter who you are or even how wealthy you may be.
The people who expect these moments and take them in stride have an incredible gift.
When a business deal falls apart, they try to save it - and they move on to the next when they realize they can’t.
When the baby starts crying again at 3am, they can choose to be frustrated and to feel sorry for themselves because they had a long day and need the sleep - or they can choose to not to let it get them down.
How you handle those countless moments is simply up to you.
They are going to keep happening no matter what - and you can choose to take them in stride, not let them set you back, and to look forward.
Or you can choose to waste much of your life angry and frustrated, “crying over spilled milk.”
It’s perhaps the most important life choice you can make.
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@abcdentminded I do this along with a pinch of salt, great coffee
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@mattvanswol @nypost My son lives in Asheville proper. Visited him a couple of weeks ago; completely understand why you moved.
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@nypost I live in Buncombe County, where Asheville is located.
I used to live in Asheville city proper, but moved further out, mainly due to crime.
Two city council members won’t even say the pledge of allegiance.
The way the city handled Helene was AWFUL, it’s getting worse too.
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Once-charming, US mountain escape has transformed into 'nasty, crazy, and scary' city trib.al/jpSrLJ6
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@MaryBowdenMD @joevaron @DoctorCole I work for a functional doc, my son has untreatable cancer. I tell his oncologist nothing about what we do. Last PET, Onc never questioned why 11 of the 13 tumors they are tracking had significant decrease in uptake. He doesn’t ask, I don’t tell.
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Cancer doctors are “firing” patients for taking ivermectin and fenbendazole. That’s why most of the patients I know aren’t telling their oncologists.
Great conversation @joevaron and @DoctorCole.
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