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Jeremy Bodenhamer

Jeremy Bodenhamer

@FounderDad

The research tells you what's happening to boys. Fiction tells you what it's like to be one. Essays + poems + fiction → https://t.co/gIgeiMwxHY

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Jeremy Bodenhamer
Jeremy Bodenhamer@FounderDad·
I'm changing what I write about here. I'm focused on boys, fathers and formation. I write fiction, poetry, and essays because lectures don't reach boys and fathers don't need another manual. If you are here for that, welcome.
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Jeremy Bodenhamer@FounderDad·
Dungeon Crawler Carl by @mattdinniman It’s like your wife wanting ice cream and you say no because you’re being good. So she orders it anyway. She offers you a taste. You know it’ll be good. You also know it’s gonna make you fat. So you take one bite. Just one. Then another. Call it your Doomsday Scenario. Next thing you know you’ve taken the cup clean out of her hands and you’re licking the bottom while she watches in silence. Gonna be a long nite. The next thing you know you’re on book 7.
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Reads with Ravi
Reads with Ravi@readswithravi·
Have you ever read a book by an author that was so good it made you want to read everything else they've written?
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Jeremy Bodenhamer@FounderDad·
Today, college = debt. Trades = freedom. I’d rather my sons become master electricians or fix old sewer pipes and own homes, coach little league, and set their own hours than sit behind a screen in a sterile downtown condo to make rent. “Elite” parents know that’s not settling. That’s winning.
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Amy Nixon
Amy Nixon@texasrunnerDFW·
College degrees were more valuable in the job market when fewer people had them Is it any wonder why college educated parents who are sending their own kids to elite private colleges are telling everyone else, “No, your kids should go into the trades”
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Jeremy Bodenhamer@FounderDad·
@drantbradley The bubble wrap isn’t protecting boys from the world. It’s protecting parents from the discomfort of watching their kids struggle. Responsible, polite, and safe is a parenting win disguised as a formation failure. Result: We got compliance. We didn’t get a man.
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Anthony Bradley
Anthony Bradley@drantbradley·
Evangelicals don't have an elite problem. They have a formation problem. They raise bubble-wrapped cubicle boys and then complain about them later becoming passive men. Raised for passivity, destined for people-pleasing.
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Jeremy Bodenhamer@FounderDad·
Reeves did something remarkable, he got the mainstream to admit boys are in crisis. Of Boys and Men made the argument. Obama put it on his list. The policy world is now convinced. But the boys themselves? Still no voice. No fiction written from inside that crisis. No Holden Caulfield. No Ponyboy. No Owen Meany. What we have is Captain Underpants. Catcher in the Rye was 1951. We haven't replaced it.
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Jeremy Bodenhamer@FounderDad·
The reading crisis for boys isn’t just that they won’t read. It’s that nobody’s writing or publishing for them. Publishing chased girls. Schools pushed “love of reading.” Boys got fantasy and an overweight principal in tighty whities. We handed them Diary of a Wimpy Kid and wondered why they’re not becoming the men the world needs.
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Jeremy Bodenhamer@FounderDad·
@drantbradley The research tells you what's happening to boys without fathers. What it can't tell you is what it's like to be one. That's what fiction is for. These stories haven't been told in decades.
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Anthony Bradley
Anthony Bradley@drantbradley·
Marriage is something that college educated adults do and something that non-college adults do not. Regardless of the anecdotal stories of people you know personally, this is the America current trend line. If you don’t believe me, read this book for the data. It’s startling!
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Jeremy Bodenhamer@FounderDad·
@cboyack The default advice used to be: “Go to college.” In our house, it’s now: “Don’t start your adult life in debt.”
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Connor Boyack 📚
Connor Boyack 📚@cboyack·
Only 35% of Americans think college is "very important." That's down from 70% in 2013. The market has delivered its verdict.
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Dana Palubiak
Dana Palubiak@DanaPalubiak·
The 'Mississippi Miracle' wasn't just phonics. It was coaches, training, intervention, retention, and curriculum support.
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Jeremy Bodenhamer@FounderDad·
@MBDscience Reading lessons at grade level for a 7-8 year old and holding their hand until they catch up.
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Claudia Lewis
Claudia Lewis@MBDscience·
Sometimes, staff voice needs to overrule student voice. If the 14y.o. with a reading age of 7 says they don't want to do reading intervention, we shouldn't be agreeing to just give model answers and sentence starters instead, we should be saying you're having reading lessons.
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Jeremy Bodenhamer@FounderDad·
@educator4ever36 It's the school's job. The teacher's. The social worker's. The counselor's. The officer's. The judge's. The prison's. Or maybe it was the parent's job all along.
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Jeremy Bodenhamer@FounderDad·
Middle school is where kids get lost. The research is clear. One adult who actually knows them has the ability to change the outcome - regardless of home life or background. Twenty teachers and a sea of kids? The math no longer works. The transition from elementary to middle school is one of the most researched inflection points in education. GPA, attendance, and engagement all drop and rarely recover later. Chronic absenteeism accelerates in middle school. And once a kid is chronically absent in 6th grade, the dropout risk in high school spikes dramatically. Boys specifically fall off harder and earlier than girls. The gender gap in reading, math and academic engagement widens significantly in middle school. The information is known. And what has the system done for generations? Introduced class-to-class middle school earlier and earlier. The programs that are winning are those who do it the other way around and go back to one class room, one set of students and, if necessary, the teacher rotates, but the kids have a home room teacher who knows them, and cares about them, and is responsible for their success. The conversation we should be having is making grade school structure the standard.
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Jeremy Bodenhamer@FounderDad·
The best gift we can give any kid is a hard thing they didn't want to do but had to finish anyway. Comfort is not the goal. Capability is.
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Jeremy Bodenhamer@FounderDad·
@SarahBBeverly @educator4ever36 In this scenario, specialists could still rotate into each class instead of students rotating. But the home room teacher would maintain ultimate responsibility for the assigned class and would not rotate.
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Sarah BBeverly
Sarah BBeverly@SarahBBeverly·
@FounderDad @educator4ever36 From a teacher perspective, I’d need a LOT more planning time if I were teaching all subjects. MS content is specialized & we’re required to be licensed by subject matter. I’ve taught ELA & SS, and w/ a good curriculum I could manage science but I’m NOT qualified to teach math.
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The Principal’s Office
The Principal’s Office@educator4ever36·
I think it’s time we eliminate the current middle school concept and figure out a different grade configuration that makes sense for teens.
Michael Strong@flowidealism

Elementary school damages some kids. Middle school damages most of them. Little kids are still hopeful and optimistic. But middle school? Brutality, vulgarity, exposure to sex and drugs, bullying. Your sweet, innocent child you raised carefully, put in an environment with the worst elements you can imagine. And you don't know about it. Ralph Waldo Emerson said it: parents pay the schoolmaster to teach their child, but it's the schoolboys who actually educate him. Peer pressure is massive. What your kid won't tell you about is what everyone else is doing. If you could listen in, you wouldn't want your child exposed to half of it.

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Jeremy Bodenhamer@FounderDad·
@FoundationDads This is the same reason schools lowered standards to begin with. Complaints without consequences are the easiest path. Just not the right one.
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Foundation Father | M.A. Franklin
Foundation Father | M.A. Franklin@FoundationDads·
A father complains about the school curriculum at dinner, shakes his head at the teacher's methods, then drops his kid off at the same building the next morning and does nothing. Abdication with some commentary. The bluster makes him feel like he's doing something productive. But narrating the problem over and over again does nothing. Captain the ship.
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Jeremy Bodenhamer@FounderDad·
George Marshall was an American five-star general who shaped the Allied victory in World War II. David Brooks tells his story in his book The Road to Character. Marshall believed real devotion means the mission comes first. Not title. Not personal upside. Not brand. You take the role the institution needs, even when it costs you. We seem to have lost this value and what an engaged and committed citizenry does for the country and its people.
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SageOnTheStage
SageOnTheStage@sage_stage·
Had an interesting conversation about how the younger generations don't see the value in working beyond their hours, and go into a profession with the plan of staying only 5-10 years. So will the teaching profession adapt to this?
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Jeremy Bodenhamer@FounderDad·
Disagree on both counts. Schools have systematically eliminated physical outlets. Recesses are shorter, fewer PE classes (my boys only see them twice a week), 'not enough yard supervisors' (who they somehow never hire), rules forbidding active sports, running on the blacktop. I could go on. Sufficient movement is what allows boys to then sit still and focus. Whatever amount that is - and it varies by boy - is the proper amount. And boys absolutely respond to high standards and accountability. I've seen it at home and on every team I've coached. Tell a boy his room stays dirty until he cleans it. He'll push back. Throw a fit. Take a nap. Eventually? Room gets clean. Clear boundary, patient enforcement, consistent follow-through. The problem isn't boys. It's that adults stopped drawing lines and holding them.
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SouthsideTilly
SouthsideTilly@SouthsideTilly·
@FounderDad @RichardvReeves @talmonsmith Boys have dozens of physical outlets. Accountability and high standards have never been something men hold boys to. "Boys will be boys" It's just finally gotten so bad that men are lamenting the outcome.
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Richard V. Reeves
Richard V. Reeves@RichardvReeves·
“I desperately want to get this whole issue about what’s happening to boys and men away from the culture war stuff, away from the dinner party lamentations about ‘the manosphere,’ and into the reality of the economy,” me to @talmonsmith. nytimes.com/2026/04/08/bus…
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The Principal’s Office
The Principal’s Office@educator4ever36·
@TomSwartz296286 @FounderDad This is not the model used in many schools. It’s typically four core content teachers sharing a team of about 125 students who rotate through and then different teachers for electives.
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Jeremy Bodenhamer@FounderDad·
The original problem wasn't high school dropouts, it was kids bailing before they even got there. The old system was 8 years of elementary, then high school. Kids were checking out in 6th and 7th grade and never showing up. Junior high (early 1900s) was built to plug that hole. It was meant to be more engaging, a little more grown-up instruction, keep them in the game long enough to make it to 9th grade. A guy named G. Stanley Hall basically said "hey, 12-14 year olds are their own thing developmentally" and the system slowly caught up. The middle school format we actually grew up with is a 1960s redesign with different goals entirely. The problem is that every time kids move class to class the system response is to make them move earlier. Some middle schools now start in 5th grade which serves only to accelerate the problems. The solution is going the other direction. One class. One teacher who cares. Teachers who rotate for specific instruction. Relationship first, structure second.
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Janell Longa
Janell Longa@jlonga1·
@educator4ever36 @FounderDad Wasn’t middle school originally created to help the high school drop out problem? Create a better transition from grade school to high school. Or am I not remembering correctly?
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The Principal’s Office
The Principal’s Office@educator4ever36·
I think @FounderDad explains very well why the middle school model most commonly used in public schools no longer works. I’ll add that I’ve always said, “Most dropouts happen in middle school. Yes, the student might be enrolled and show up, but they’ve made the decision to drop out while in middle school”.
Jeremy Bodenhamer@FounderDad

Middle school is where kids get lost. The research is clear. One adult who actually knows them has the ability to change the outcome - regardless of home life or background. Twenty teachers and a sea of kids? The math no longer works. The transition from elementary to middle school is one of the most researched inflection points in education. GPA, attendance, and engagement all drop and rarely recover later. Chronic absenteeism accelerates in middle school. And once a kid is chronically absent in 6th grade, the dropout risk in high school spikes dramatically. Boys specifically fall off harder and earlier than girls. The gender gap in reading, math and academic engagement widens significantly in middle school. The information is known. And what has the system done for generations? Introduced class-to-class middle school earlier and earlier. The programs that are winning are those who do it the other way around and go back to one class room, one set of students and, if necessary, the teacher rotates, but the kids have a home room teacher who knows them, and cares about them, and is responsible for their success. The conversation we should be having is making grade school structure the standard.

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