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@SCHIZO_FREQ You know what's a great way to stop menstruating for ~ a year to a year and a half? Getting pregnant.

There's no way it actually works like this. I refuse to believe nature is this stupid "If we just make the women lay less eggs... they will store more in their cartons..."

@Strangeland_Elf In Europe, it's usually accurate to say "Country X has/is Y". So that's what Europeans do. What they don't understand is that the US is *everything*. It's a utopian paradise *and* a third world shithole. It's sugary slop-bread *and* artisanal organic sourdough.

Look. No one likes to have people make rude and ignorant or misinformed claims about their country, especially in order to mock and deride them. Europe puts a bigger emphasis on normal bread than the US so they put more focus on the craft of artisan bread making and need to have it more readily available since more people care a great deal about bread. But there are supermarket bakeries and standalone bakeries all over the United States that make very good bread. So yes, it’s frustrating because both rude and inaccurate. I also think it’s rude and inaccurate when people mock British food as all disgusting when much of it is very good, we just tend to see and focus on the most absurd of it. And even much of that probably doesn’t taste BAD even if it’s weird looking. But the United States tends to focus on other baked goods besides bread because the US is a land of excess so plain bread is going to take a backseat to things that are full of butter or something. Americans will often make cornbread or southern style biscuits as a side rather than buy traditional bread or have some potato dish with lots of butter and/or cheese. Americans don’t need bakery bread in the quantities of Europe because many of them just treat bread as a vessel to hold “all the good stuff” and not as something to be enjoyed for its own sake. But there are Americans who love bread and so good bread does exist. There is also a level of subjectivity to “good bread” to begin with. American flour often makes softer bread and some people like that, a lot of the European bread is more hearty or rustic and some people like that. I grew up in a country where… I don’t really think there were many options for good bread at all. Compared to that the United States seems to have drastically more options and so many things are also a matter of perspective. I’m not offended because I’m just a “weak American who can’t handle people saying their thing is better than ours”, I’m offended because I don’t like the behaviour in general. I hate it when Americans ignorantly act like everything in every other culture is inferior and I hate when people do the same thing to Americans. I just hate when people treat each other that way.

@keysmashbandit The world can wait, your baby can't.

Cannot conceptualize a world where either my mother or I would ever feel this way. You do you but the women in my family have meaningful contributions to make to the world outside of changing diapers and travel soccer

@AniseNot This is in fact why I co-sleep. It helps me be much more rested and awake during the day

The first time I crashed out with my newborn baby on my chest, propped up in a position that seemed very safe, I woke up & in a haze forgot my baby should be on me & after about 30 seconds realized “OH SHIT WHERE IS MY BABY”. He had fallen between my armpit & was basically smushed under me in bed, luckily I did not suffocate him & he was totally fine But I didn’t use drugs or alcohol I was just exhausted & that scared the ever living shit out of me & I never relaxed with him on me ever again

@luinalaska No I'm sorry but "marinate" was not the word I needed in a post about someone's vaginal microbiome

In 1952 it was deemed too explicit to tell a general tv audience that Lucy was “pregnant” on I Love Lucy. They used the word “expecting” to be socially acceptable in mainstream culture. Less than 100 years later I’m supposed to read about Kate’s vagina germs without warning when I’m trying to enjoy my morning coffee. What exactly happened here? Is there a middle ground where we can accept adults do adult things without me having to know the exact bacterial circus inhabiting this stranger’s vagina? It’s lactobacillus crispatus. We all needed to marinate in that information.

@Seraphima94 My kids just call us by our first names most of the time. Which is kinda weird ngl 😅

@Pv @tradwifetoday @Hybridathlete Well yeah the dad should obviously not sleep anywhere near the baby. It's specifically a moms synchronicity with the baby that prevents accidents

We did co-sleeping with our kids -- and nothing happened -- that said, I was deathly afraid that I would roll onto my children - so certainly, at least my sleep was poor. When my kids have kids, I will not recommend that they co-sleep. It's a romantic and cute but ultimately bad idea Black Swan.

Your opinion on the dangers of co-sleeping would change real quick the first time you have to wrap up a dead 3mo little girl up in her pink elephant blanket after doing CPR on her for 30 minutes because her mom insisted co sleeping was safe and the worst couldn’t happen to her.

@Ninjamoffen @crackerdoodledo @Hybridathlete In the statistic he shared, it's specifically the SIDS rate that is significantly elevated with an overweight, intoxicated person. Not the smothering rate

@crackerdoodledo @Hybridathlete Because they roll over them? You are not this stupid are you?

@FeminaStudiosa I could see electrolytes having something to do with it. I used Chronometer when I changed my diet from low-carb to Peaty and was surprised to see a marked increase in electrolyte intake (and a bunch of B-vitamins too).

I'd love to know what it is. As my child and I continue eating this way, and others like us, it would be nice to know what to look out for in terms of deficiencies and stuff, so that we could learn how to offset them if possible. I do know that supplementing with electrolytes is a game changer for us. Usually if we feel off, needing minerals is the cause. And if I do low protein high fat I feel awful so the reverse is what I have to do. But certainly there's some other variables we still need explanations for.

I'm in a community where lots of women do strict keto for type 1 diabetes and I've never heard of anyone losing their period. (We eat a lot of protein though) Lowering carbs seemed to have cured my PCOS and all my severe cramps went away and my lifelong disordered menstrual cycle got fixed.

@OldHollowTree @Seraphima94 "Nearly every culture in the northern hemisphere has some kind of celebration of fertility around May 1." Meanwhile, Germany: TAG DER ARBEIT 🫡

The merry month of May approaches and with it May Day. Nearly every culture in the northern hemisphere has some kind of celebration of fertility around May 1. How could they not? Life abounds! My mother and grandmother would tell stories of going “a maying” to collect whatever wild flowers were blooming to decorate their door and the door of their neighbors. We deliver may baskets with our girls to the neihbors. Traditionally, farmers in Northern Europe would turn their cattle out of the barn into the fields this time of year. Some farmers around me still have parties this time of year to celebrate doing just that. Growing up, we always had a fire. There is a great deal to celebrate this time of year! We should revel in the abundance of new spring life. Here is my favorite photo ever taken about six years ago on this day when my wife was getting ready to give birth to our first.

@FeminaStudiosa Yeah, there has to be some variable that explains why some women do great on keto even over decades while others deteriorate after only months or years. No idea what it is. But I'm pretty sure I'm in the latter category

@mrsarjaybee Maybe but many of these people I know have non diabetic families that change their diets along with them and see many benefits, too.

@DiggingInTheDi1 Imo the blue voters also have a skewed view of the world. Sure, in a high-trust, majority white country I can see blue ending up at >50%. But we're including the whole world here.

The blue button/red button dialogue has been the greatest IQ filter this site has ever seen The blues paint it as an indicator of their empathy when it's in fact an inability to model risk Classically feminine behavior, which is correspondingly Leftist behavior

@plasmarob I have children, and therefore a responsibility to stay alive for any of them that might vote red.

Can somebody who is still voting red explain their position to me without getting mad? (Preferably without saying I am mad, actually) I still don't get it

@escu__valentin @jankulveit To all the blue pushers: what about all the babies that will be orphaned if red >50?

@jankulveit To all the red pushers: what about all the babies that will die if red >50?

Asked AIs the Red/Blue button question. Lots to notice, but posting without further commentary. First plot is with max reasoning, models called via API.

@realtimstevens @HansAmato So what? I'm sure his wife still prefers a bad dude who doesn't snap at his kids over a bad dude who does. Whether the behavior was at any point justified is completely irrelevant to the OP

@mrsarjaybee @HansAmato My point is that he's a bad dude regardless of the health condition. A health condition isn't a valid reason for bad behavior.

$14,200 on couples therapy and anger management before a $42 fasting insulin test fixed a client of mine in 9 weeks. He was screaming at his 4 year old over spilled juice. His wife was scared of him. The therapist had him 2 years deep in "unpacking his father wound." The couples counselor handed them feeling cards every week. The anger management coach prescribed trigger journaling and breathing exercises. Meanwhile his blood sugar was crashing 4 to 5 times a day from a "healthy" diet of oatmeal, salads, and chicken breast. Every crash = cortisol dump. Cortisol burns magnesium. Low magnesium tanks GABA. No GABA = no brake pedal on the nervous system. You snap. His fasting insulin came back at 19. Magnesium bottom of range. Cortisol curve inverted, peaked at 4pm instead of 8am. Vitamin D at 22. His body was running on emergency hormones from breakfast to bedtime. The rage was just chemistry. Oh, and the kicker: not one of the 3 practitioners ran a single blood test in 2 years. 9 sessions a month at $400 a pop. Someone was making bank somewhere and it sure as fuck wasn't him. The actual mechanism: Skipped or undersized breakfast. Coffee on an empty stomach. Blood sugar starts crashing by 10am. Cortisol comes in to rescue. Cortisol elevates blood sugar but burns through magnesium and B vitamins as a cofactor cost. Repeat at 1pm, 4pm, 7pm. By the time the kids are going to bed his nervous system is running on raw cortisol and adrenaline. The smallest trigger (spilled juice, slow loading screen, wife asking what's for dinner) detonates. This is not anger. This is a body in a 12-hour metabolic emergency that nobody told him was happening. Here's what actually fixed it, in order of impact: > Real breakfast within 30 minutes of waking. Eggs, sausage, butter, salt, fruit. NOT oatmeal, NOT smoothies, NOT a protein bar. Stops the morning crash from ever starting. > Salt every meal. Not the 1500mg the AMA recommends. 4 to 6 grams of sodium daily for an active man. Adrenal glands run on sodium. > Magnesium glycinate 400mg morning and 400mg before bed for 90 days. Took 3 weeks for him to feel anything. Felt enormous by week 6. > 3 carb-protein-fat meals a day. White rice + meat + butter at minimum. Killed the chronic intermittent fasting (was just making cortisol worse). > Killed seed oils. Butter and tallow only at home. Restaurants that obviously cook in canola got cut. > Lifted heavy 4 days a week. Insulin sensitivity returned faster than any drug would have done it. The labs that catch this for $40 to $200 cash if you order them yourself: > Fasting insulin (optimal under 6, doctors call 18 normal) > HOMA-IR calculation (insulin x glucose / 405) > Magnesium RBC (not serum, serum is useless) > 4-point cortisol curve via DUTCH test or saliva (not just AM cortisol) > hsCRP (optimal under 1) > Vitamin D (optimal 50 to 80) 9 weeks in he hadn't yelled at his kid once. His wife asked what changed. He told her he ate breakfast. She cried. Every man screaming at his family right now is doing the same shit this guy was doing. Somehow nobody is testing him for any of it. DM me "REPORT" for the custom health report here's what you get: - full symptom and history mapping specific to you - the most likely biological root causes behind what you're feeling - exact labs to order and how to read the results yourself - a prioritized protocol: what to fix, in what order, built around your body not a generic PDF. not a supplement list. a personalized breakdown of what's actually wrong and how to fix it the report your doctor would give you if he had 4 hours instead of 13 minutes

@mhartl I keep hearing "vote blue in case your kids vote blue", but what if the kids vote red and parents vote blue and die? While it's emotionally devastating, it would be logistically preferable to have surviving parents and dead children rather than surviving children and dead parents

@realtimstevens @HansAmato The point isn't whether it's a "valid reason", the point is it's *the* reason. It's not about excusing anything, but about fixing the behavior.

@HansAmato 1. AI slop. 2. There has never, in the history of ever, been a valid reason to snap at your wife or kids. Men who do this are monsters. There is no health condition bad enough to excuse it.

@potatoslav @adesertdryad Genuinely, there is no way to get a child that age to sleep that's as reliable and relaxing for mom as breastfeeding.

@adesertdryad the issue is he nurses to sleep 😭

mom twitter pls give me advice on weaning, my baby turns 1 next month and im so done lol

@MeltedDollParts @MarkRichardson2 One in twenty is in fact five percent.

@MarkRichardson2 @KaeleyT Five percent?

Interestingly enough, in the golden tradwife years of the 50s and 60s, millions of women were prescribed amphetamines and tranquilizers just to get through the day. Valium was so widely prescribed it was actually known as “mother’s little helper.” It’s almost like stay at home motherhood and performative femininity aren’t guaranteed vehicles to happiness. 💁🏻‍♀️