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Trevor Sheatz isn’t some humble husband sharing a sweet redemption story. He’s a disingenuous little twat running a full-blown grift, and the mask is slipping hard. He proudly announces his wife was “formerly promiscuous” while he stayed a virgin, then has the audacity to declare she’s “more pure than most virgins.” He turns their altar-first-kiss wedding photo into viral bait, racks up millions of views, and uses the whole thing to grow his “On the Mount Inc.” business — the one where he teaches Christians how to monetize their faith stories online. Bro, you’re literally pimping your wife’s body count for clout and clients. That’s not testimony. That’s content farming with a cross filter. Disgusting. Then comes the gaslighting masterclass. When men push back and say, “Yeah, God forgives, but I still don’t want to marry a woman with a long sexual history,” Trevor and his defenders scream: “You’re idolizing virginity! You’re a Pharisee! You don’t believe in grace!” WTF?! Men aren’t denying God’s forgiveness. We’re not saying a repentant woman can’t be saved. We’re saying stop shoving “forgiveness” down our throats as an obligation to ignore reality. Stop pretending there’s no difference between the girl who guarded her purity and the one who didn’t. And for the love of God, stop claiming the ex-promiscuous woman is somehow purer now. That’s not biblical — that’s cope on steroids. Trevor twists Scripture like a pretzel: Luke 7 becomes “see, the biggest sluts love Jesus the most,” 2 Corinthians 5:17 becomes “her past literally doesn’t matter,” and 1 Corinthians 7 gets mangled to shame men who have preferences. All while he quietly admits “past sin carries consequences” in the same thread. Pick a lane, you disingenuous twat. He’s not defending grace. He’s defending his own choice by trying to make every man who wants a virgin wife feel like a graceless legalist. He’s not elevating redemption — he’s lowering the bar so his story looks like the premium package. “Sin big, repent loud, get praised as purer than the virgins, and land a simp who’ll brag about it online.” That’s the message young women are hearing, and it’s poison. Meanwhile, this same guy built his brand on the salacious details of his wife’s past. He coaches people on turning personal stories into engagement bait, then acts shocked when people call out the hypocrisy. Newsflash, Trevor: Real grace doesn’t need to shame men for having standards. Real grace doesn’t erase consequences just because it feels better for your narrative. Real grace doesn’t turn “go and sin no more” into “go and sin, then monetize the testimony.” You’re not a bold voice for the gospel. You’re a slick little operator who found a way to profit off the exact sexual chaos the Bible warns against, all while calling anyone who notices a Pharisee. That’s why so many men are fed up. It’s not hate. It’s exhaustion with the endless gaslighting, the deliberate distortions, and the weaponization of forgiveness to bulldoze basic wisdom and self-respect. Trevor Sheatz isn’t preaching Christ. He’s preaching cope, clout, and compromise — wrapped in just enough Bible verses to sound spiritual. And that, folks, is exactly why he’s a disingenuous little twat.

Matt, thanks for the post, friend. 1. I appreciate you calling out the harmful remarks to me and my bride. We don't hold it against them. We're also far worse than they know. 2. I agree that some Christians are far too eager to share the details of their past sins with others, and that often, it can be unwise. And I agree that discretion is important, and there's a place to not share details of past wrongs (Prov. 11:13). But sharing details of our lives before Christ and how he's transformed us is biblical and brings great glory to God. If you open up Acts chapter 26, Paul wrote paragraphs about his life before Jesus, going into great detail of the shameful things he had done (Acts 26:4-11). He then shared how Jesus marvelously transformed his life (v. 12-15), and then tied it into the gospel, hoping that God would "open their eyes so that they may turn from darkness to light and from the power of Satan to God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins" (Acts 26:18). Or consider the woman at the well that Jesus evangelized to. Her sexual immorality before Christ is etched into Scripture for all eternity: "'For you’ve had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband'" (John 4:18). After her interaction with Jesus, verses 28-29 say, "Then the woman left her water jar, went into town, and told the people, 'Come, see a man who told me everything I ever did. Could this be the Messiah?'" Revelation 12:11 says, "They conquered him (the Accuser) by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony." There's more examples in Scripture of godly men and women's sins being explicitly written down, including sexual immorality, fornication, harlotry, etc. My point is that if God through the Scriptures brings up the past sins of godly people to edify the saints, and if godly people in the Bible itself shared their past sins before Christ and how the gospel transformed them, how is it any different, or inappropriate, for my wife and I to agree to publicly share how she once was promiscuous, but has now been saved and redeemed? 3. Lastly, I unquestionably struggle with pride and vanity. That much is true. And I'm a great sinner, so I wouldn't be surprised if vanity and pride was in my heart as I wrote out that line about my wife being purer than most virgins. But pride has more to do with praising oneself, whereas praising another is biblical: "Let another praise you, and not your own mouth — a stranger, and not your own lips" (Prov. 27:2). Proverbs 31 even includes an explicit example where a godly woman's husband says she's better than every other woman, and it's highlighted as a great thing, not pride or vanity: "Her husband also praises her: 'Many women have done noble deeds, but you surpass them all!'" (Prov. 31:28-29). So praising my wife by saying she's more pure than most virgins is in line with that the Scriptures say actually happens to a godly woman. Most importantly, the principal desire in my heart upon writing that she's purer than most virgins was to underscore this key truth: that biblical purity is much different than the world's understanding of purity. Jesus said, "Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God" (Matt. 5:8-3). Or consider 1 Timothy 1:5: "The goal of our instruction is love from a pure heart, a good conscience, and a sincere faith." While sexual purity matters and is commanded (1 Cor. 6:18-20), and all Christians should strive to remain virgins and will be blessed for that, the purity that God looks for and cares about the most is found in the heart. And as I've now seen first-hand the glorious and redemptive work of Christ in the life of my wife, I can most certainly say that she is more pure than most virgins, since most virgins are unfortunately lost and without Jesus. And a Christian with a promiscuous, forgiven past who loves Jesus has a heart that is far more pure in the eyes of God than a virgin who isn't in Christ. This viral debate has shown me that people greatly struggle to separate one's life before Christ from their life after Christ. The world can't fathom that such change can happen. But the Bible is clear: "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has passed away, and see, the new has come!" (1 Cor. 5:17). Or consider Galatians 2:20: "I have been crucified with Christ, and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me." That old Ashley is dead. It's because of these truths that my wife and I choose to boldly, confidently, and without giving loads of explicit details, share the sins that stained us before Christ with others. Not often, but at times and when fitting, so that other believers can be encouraged, other sinners can be given hope of redemption and forgiveness, and the lost can hear the good news of the gospel, that though all are headed for Hell for their sins, anyone who repents and places their trust in the resurrected Christ will be saved (John 3:16, 18). Regardless of how much you've sinned, you can't out-sin the mercy of God. You can be washed clean, your shame and guilt removed, and you can have a brand-new identity in Jesus Christ. Hallelujah! God bless you, Matt.