Devin

Once you hit about a 20-point IQ gap, communication starts to completely break down. It's not that the lower IQ person is "stupid" (although that can often be the case) or the higher one is arrogant, it's that you're literally operating on different systems. A 20 point difference (roughly 1.3 standard deviations) means: Vocabulary and abstraction levels diverge sharply. What feels like crystal clear logic to one side sounds like vague, pretentious word salad to the other. Jokes land flat. Metaphors get taken literally. Complex cause and effect chains get simplified into "this good, that bad." Different time horizons and pattern recognition. One person thinks in months or years and sees systems, the other is locked into days or immediate rewards. Trying to explain second order effects feels like speaking another language. Also, processing speed and working memory gaps. The higher IQ person is already three steps ahead, getting impatient. The lower IQ person feels talked down to or overwhelmed. Both walk away frustrated. Both have wasted each others time.

I said "We can welcome any deacon regardless of what he wears to church, while at the same time trying to create a culture where they feel empowered to rise to higher expectations of dress and appearance, thus honoring themselves, their families, and the ordinance they are performing. The handbook says 'they should not wear clothing or jewelry that might detract from the worship." And says the bishop may counsel members who pass. I'm arguing that when youth wear white socks, sneakers, flannels, or hoodies, they are distracting from the sacrament and should be lovingly taught to reach for higher expectations.