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This woman is an absolute queen.

@Joe_in_NJ @brad_polumbo So you took out parent plus loans? I thought there was some kind of income driven repayment available for those, but I could be wrong because the available plans are always changing. I'm on income based repayment for my grad school loans - my payments are way more than $60!

I borrowed a significant amount to get all my kids through school - but I somehow don't qualify for any of these programs, I don't get income based payments or debt forgiveness or anything else and the best part is as a net tax payer I get to pay for Ms. Tully's also. One thing about the dem mafia, they do take care of their own.

lol imagine fleeing the country over $60 per month and you still think you’re not the problem

@RunchieC @JocastaMoney Thank you! I'd never heard of this book but I'm ordering it now.

@JocastaMoney Muscle tone loss only happens if people don’t change their exercise regime - ‘you are your own gym’ by mark lauren is easy/effective way to build muscle (even post menopause)

Ozempic just seems like a Fairy Tale curse to me. Like a wish from a jinn. You can lose weight but also, destory your ability to build muscle tone. You may be thin and attractive but, just as your desire to eat has been nullified, so have all other desires. Is it just me?

@MissingBoss @DanFriedman81 I think it's great. I'm an SLP with loans that far outweigh my salary potential in this field. I'm paying my loans, but it was the availability of the funds in the first place that allowed my school to charge what it did for a master's degree.

@DanFriedman81 Trump got rid of the grad plus loan for a lot of programs for that reason.

A lot of people are dunking on this, and it’s true, she should have paid the $60 per month for 20 years and let the forgiveness kick in. But what they’re missing is that she was loaned $65k for a terminal master’s in historic preservation. That should never have happened. Tuition has skyrocketed because the ability of students to pay it has completely decoupled from how much money they or their families can afford. Colleges charge infinity dollars because students have access to infinity student loans. In many cases students hoping a credential will lead to a better life get duped into indenturing themselves permanently to get worthless terminal master’s degrees. If the loans didn’t exist, then the master’s programs wouldn’t exist, and if the master’s programs didn’t exist then employers wouldn’t be looking for job applicants with master’s degrees which don’t even connote any real skills. Burn this whole rotten system down.

@KellyHeaps47732 @itslinklauren If you haven't watched The Good Place, it is an absolute joy. It manages to treat a pretty heavy subject with lightness and humor. Probably not for young kids, but tweens and up would love it.

Hi Link, yes! Dark, depressing, hopeless, or nasty storylines. As grandma of 6, I noticed this shift a few years ago. Where are the happy, light-hearted shows? Feel-good movies, or ones that don’t leave you feeling like, ick!! I’m constantly reaching back in time for shows to watch with the kiddos and family.

Is it just me or are movies and shows way darker today? And I mean color wise… way less vibrant. Every movie is flat and dull. I almost wanna turn the brightness up. Hollywood, get it together!!

@Prolife_Sam @HPluckrose It's not as bad for ages 3 and up. But the littlest ones really shouldn't be in institutional care settings unless there is literally no other option.

@Prolife_Sam @HPluckrose I spend much time in daycares, in the older infant, toddler, and 2s rooms. Even the best ones are not good. The child to staff ratios are too high and the record keeping requirements are nuts. If parents could be a fly on the wall, they would find a way to keep their kids at home

Kids have not historically spent all their time in a house with parents. They’ve lived in communities where some adults watched over a bunch of them while others gathered resources. But now we’re to believe daycare will scar them for life. No need to make parenting this difficult

@BlingWillow64 @susanamendoza10 Honestly, abolish all teacher's unions. Better, all public sector unions. Why should people paid by tax dollars be allowed (or required) to unionize so they can withhold services while they extort us for more of our tax dollars?

@susanamendoza10 It should be illegal to use students as propagandists. Abolish the Chicago Teachers Unions. By all measures they have failed the children they were supposed to educate. Even worse they are now using the children as props in their political demonstrations.

Why is there a push to close Chicago Public Schools on May 1? According to the Illinois State Board of Education, only 1 in 3 CPS elementary students are proficient in reading and only 1 in 5 are proficient in math. Our kids need more time in the classroom, not less, yet Chicago parents are being asked for their kids to lose another day of school on May 1st for a political Day of Action. Parents and kids rely on schools for learning and consistency. Closing schools will send parents scrambling for babysitters or losing wages to stay home to care for their kids. For some kids, schools are where they get their meals and are the safest place they’ll be that day.  As a CPS mom, I have skin in the game and expect my son to be in school where he belongs on May 1st. Keep Chicago’s students in the classroom, parents at work, and focus on the city’s test scores, not its politics. #chicago

@MotherOfAKing12 @MonkEmma @helenstaniland She seems to think people can only identify the sex of other people by seeing them naked. Either that, or she just really enjoys thinking and talking about genitals.

@MonkEmma @helenstaniland No one mentioned genitals. Surely you're not suggesting boys and girls are defined by their genitals?

'The move has sparked fears that trans girl guides could be outed to their peers because of the September deadline, according to one parent'. They should be. Girls shouldn't be lied to about the sex of someone they are close to and confide in. What are these parents thinking?

@Blackneto @MichaelARothman Same.

@MichaelARothman As an Illinois hostage I thank you for this.

𝐈𝐋𝐋𝐈𝐍𝐎𝐈𝐒 𝐔𝐍𝐃𝐄𝐑 𝐏𝐑𝐈𝐓𝐙𝐊𝐄𝐑: 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐑𝐄𝐂𝐄𝐈𝐏𝐓𝐒 I’m generally annoyed by people in the public eye who I find to be hypocritical about who they are, what they believe, and their documented past and behaviors — so like the Newsom post I made yesterday, I decided to pick a couple new targets. Let’s start with good ole J.B. Pritzker. He likes to see himself in the spotlight, so let’s up the wattage on that and take a look at what’s there. Pritzker is a $𝟑.𝟗 𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧 Hyatt hotel heir who wants you to believe he turned Illinois around. Before he launches his next political vanity project, every American deserves to see what he actually did to the fifth-largest state in the union. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐓𝐨𝐢𝐥𝐞𝐭 𝐓𝐚𝐱 𝐒𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐦𝐞 Before he was governor, Pritzker bought a $𝟑.𝟕 𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 next door to his Gold Coast home in Chicago. In 2015, he had 𝐟𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨𝐢𝐥𝐞𝐭𝐬 𝐫𝐢𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐮𝐭 so the Cook County assessor would classify it as “uninhabitable” — dropping the assessed value from $𝟔.𝟑 𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐨 $𝟏.𝟏 𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧 (Cook County Inspector General). The inspector general called it a “𝘴𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘳𝘢𝘶𝘥” taxpayers. Total savings from the scheme: $𝟑𝟑𝟏,𝟎𝟎𝟎 in property tax refunds and reductions (Fox 32 Chicago). He repaid it. Federal investigators later opened a criminal probe into the tax appeals (Illinois Policy Institute). No charges were filed — but the man who would go on to lecture Illinoisans about paying their “fair share” literally removed toilets from a mansion to dodge his own property taxes. 𝐏𝐨𝐩𝐮𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐄𝐱𝐨𝐝𝐮𝐬 Since 2000, Illinois has lost a net 𝟏.𝟔 𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 to domestic outmigration (IRS). Under Pritzker alone, the bleeding accelerated. IRS data for 2022 shows 𝟖𝟕,𝟑𝟏𝟏 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐥𝐞𝐟𝐭 in a single year, taking $𝟗.𝟗 𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐧 𝐚𝐝𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐬𝐬 𝐢𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 with them (IRS Migration Data). The income gap between those leaving and those arriving grew from $5,519 per person in 2010 to $𝟑𝟕,𝟗𝟐𝟐 𝐩𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧 in 2022 — meaning Illinois is hemorrhaging its highest earners. In 2024, 𝟗𝟓% 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 fled to states with lower tax burdens (Wirepoints). Illinois already lost one congressional seat after the 2020 Census — it is on track to lose another in 2030 (Illinois Policy Institute). 𝐓𝐡𝐞 $𝟏𝟒𝟓 𝐁𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐏𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐂𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐫 Illinois has $𝟏𝟒𝟓.𝟓 𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧 in unfunded pension liabilities — 𝟔𝟐% 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 than California, the second-worst state (Equable Institute). Its pension systems are funded at just 𝟓𝟎.𝟖% — the lowest funding ratio in America. Unfunded liabilities as a share of GDP stand at 𝟐𝟏% — by far the worst figure in the nation (Americans for Prosperity). The median Illinois household already pays $𝟏𝟑,𝟎𝟗𝟗 in state and local taxes per year — $𝟒,𝟒𝟕𝟐 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 than the national average (Tax Foundation). And Pritzker’s pension “reform”? He’s sticking to a plan that won’t fully fund the systems until 𝟐𝟎𝟒𝟓 (Capitol News Illinois). That’s not a fix. That’s a 20-year prayer. $𝟐.𝟓 𝐁𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐧 𝐌𝐢𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐬 — 𝟑𝐱 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐒𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐨𝐧 𝐕𝐞𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬 An estimated 𝟓𝟏,𝟎𝟎𝟎 𝐦𝐢𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐬 arrived in Chicago from the southern border. By the end of 2025, Illinois will have spent over $𝟐.𝟓 𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧 on their care — roughly $𝟒𝟗,𝟎𝟎𝟎 𝐩𝐞𝐫 𝐦𝐢𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐭 (Illinois Policy Institute, Fox 32 Chicago). Over $1.6 billion went to migrant healthcare alone through July 2024 — “𝘧𝘢𝘳 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘰𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘤𝘵𝘦𝘥” (Illinois Comptroller). For context, that $2.5 billion is roughly 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞𝐬 what Illinois spends on veterans’ services (IL House Republicans). The state is spending three dollars on someone who crossed the border illegally for every one dollar it spends on someone who served the country. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐁𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐆𝐫𝐚𝐯𝐞𝐲𝐚𝐫𝐝 Boeing. Caterpillar. Citadel. Tyson. Guggenheim Partners. TTX. All gone. Boeing moved to Virginia. Caterpillar — headquartered in Illinois for nearly 𝟏𝟎𝟎 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬 — moved 230 jobs to Texas. Citadel CEO Ken Griffin took his $36 billion hedge fund to Miami, citing crime and a hostile business environment. Since 1994, Illinois has lost 𝟐,𝟔𝟏𝟔 𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐬 to other states, with the rate 𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐩𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐜 (Illinois Policy Institute). The Tax Foundation found Illinois’ business climate dropped 𝟏𝟎 𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐭𝐬 in five years — the only Midwestern state to decline — after Pritzker imposed $𝟔𝟓𝟎 𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐧 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐭𝐚𝐱𝐞𝐬 during a pandemic recovery. When asked about Ken Griffin leaving, Pritzker’s response was essentially “𝘩𝘦’𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘣𝘭𝘦𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘸” to Florida (Free Beacon). That’s the governor of the fifth-largest state celebrating the departure of his wealthiest taxpayer. 𝐄𝐝𝐮𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧: 𝐒𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐃𝐨𝐮𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐝, 𝐒𝐜𝐨𝐫𝐞𝐬 𝐃𝐫𝐨𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐝 From 2013 to 2024, Illinois increased K-12 education spending by $𝟏𝟎 𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧 — 𝐚 𝟒𝟒% 𝐢𝐧𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 — while enrollment 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝟏𝟎% (Illinois Policy Institute). Chicago Public Schools saw instructional spending per student jump 𝟒𝟖% in four years — from $10,314 to $15,274 (CPS Data). The result? Roughly 𝐨𝐧𝐞-𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐫𝐝 of Illinois fourth and eighth graders score at or above proficiency in reading and math on the NAEP — a rate that “𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘥 𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘵𝘭𝘦 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴 20 𝘺𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴” (NPR Illinois). Both reading and math scores were 𝐝𝐫𝐨𝐩𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐞𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐂𝐎𝐕𝐈𝐃. They spent billions more. They got the same results. In some cases, worse. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 $𝟓𝟖 𝐌𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐕𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐓𝐚𝐱 In 2020, Pritzker spent $𝟓𝟖 𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐟 𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐦𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐲 pushing a graduated income tax amendment he called the “Fair Tax” (NPR Illinois). Illinois voters rejected it — it got just 𝟒𝟓% of the vote, far short of the 60% supermajority needed to amend the constitution (WTTW). A $3.9 billion man spent $58 million trying to raise taxes on everyone else. The voters said no. His response? He warned of “𝘱𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘤𝘶𝘵𝘴” — as if the state’s fiscal ruin was the voters’ fault for rejecting his plan. 𝐂𝐎𝐕𝐈𝐃 𝐋𝐨𝐜𝐤𝐝𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐇𝐲𝐩𝐨𝐜𝐫𝐢𝐬𝐲 While Pritzker imposed a statewide stay-at-home order on 12.7 million Illinoisans, his wife and daughter were in 𝐅𝐥𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐝𝐚. When they returned, they went to the family’s 𝐡𝐨𝐫𝐬𝐞 𝐟𝐚𝐫𝐦 𝐢𝐧 𝐖𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐧 (Pantagraph, NBC Chicago). His defense? Taking care of horses is “𝘢𝘯 𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘧𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯” (CBS Chicago). Meanwhile, small business owners were being fined for opening their doors. Restaurants were shuttered. Churches were locked. But the billionaire governor’s family was in Florida, then tending to their horses across state lines. Rules for thee. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐀𝐅𝐄-𝐓 𝐀𝐜𝐭: 𝐂𝐚𝐬𝐡𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐁𝐚𝐢𝐥 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐌𝐮𝐫𝐝𝐞𝐫 𝐂𝐚𝐩𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐥 Pritzker signed the SAFE-T Act, making Illinois the 𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐀𝐦𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐜𝐚 to abolish cash bail entirely (ABC7 Chicago). In November 2023, a suspect with 𝟕𝟐 𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐬 who was out on electronic monitoring was caught on video 𝐬𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐧 𝐨𝐧 𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐞 on a CTA train (ABC7 Chicago). Law enforcement across the state warned the law would put dangerous criminals back on the street. Pritzker dismissed the criticism. 𝐒𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐬𝐭 𝐂𝐫𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐭 𝐑𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐀𝐦𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐜𝐚 Despite 10 credit upgrades under Pritzker, Illinois 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐭 𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 of any state in the nation (Yahoo Finance). Its Moody’s rating of A2 sits 𝐟𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐣𝐮𝐧𝐤 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐮𝐬. Over the prior 15 years, the state received 𝟐𝟒 𝐝𝐨𝐰𝐧𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐬 (Illinois Policy Institute). During the Rauner-era budget impasse, both Moody’s and S&P dropped Illinois to one notch above junk — the 𝐥𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐧 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐫𝐝 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐔.𝐒. 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐞. Pritzker inherited a dumpster fire and brought it up to a controlled burn. It’s still on fire. This is J.B. Pritzker’s Illinois. The toilets were removed. The businesses left. The taxpayers fled and took $9.9 billion in one year. The pension debt is $145 billion and climbing. The migrants cost $2.5 billion — three times what they spend on veterans. The schools spent $10 billion more and got the same failing scores. He blew $58 million of his own money on a tax hike voters rejected, then blamed the voters. His family went to Florida while yours couldn’t go to work. And through it all — every dollar lost, every business gone, every resident who packed up — he still has the lowest credit rating in America. 𝐇𝐞 𝐝𝐢𝐝𝐧’𝐭 𝐟𝐢𝐱 𝐈𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐨𝐢𝐬. 𝐇𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐈𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐨𝐢𝐬’ 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐦. 𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐧𝐨, 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝟒𝟗 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐡𝐢𝐦 𝐞𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫.

@spygate47 @Ravious101 (This did not stop me from buying and eating an entire bag of Beaver Nuggets without sharing)

@spygate47 @Ravious101 I've only been once. It was so crowded and overstimulating, I kind of wanted to throw myself on the floor and cry like a toddler 😂

Is this even true I live in a place where you have to go 40 min just to have any real food don't even know what this is. From a post We stopped at Buc-ee’s just to “use the bathroom real quick.” Rookie mistake. Twenty minutes later… I’m pushing a cart (WHY do they even have carts at a gas station??), my toddler is licking a 3-pound bag of gummy worms, My husband is talking to a complete stranger about beef jerky like it’s a fine wine tasting, and I’m somehow Standing there with a cart full of fudge, a brisket sandwich the size of my face., matching family Buc-ee’s shirts, and a cast iron skillet I absolutely did NOT need The baby has a whole new wardrobe and is now chewing on a Buc-ee’s spatula like a teether The 5-year-old has a beaver plushie the size of a Golden Retriever. And I’m $300 poorer wondering how the heck we just left a GAS STATION with more stuff than I got at Target last week. Buc-ee’s isn’t a gas station. It’s a full-blown amusement park disguised as a bathroom break. And we fall for it EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. Send help. And wet wipes. And maybe another brisket taco.

@chefmarkintulsa @redheadranting @RobertKennedyJr Yep. If I must buy tomatoes at the grocery store, I only buy grape tomatoes. Which means I pretty much only eat regular tomatoes during the local tomato season, when I grow my own. Not a long season in Illinois, but that makes the BLTs taste even better!

@redheadranting @RobertKennedyJr They really have no flavor at all, just mealy. I’ve better luck with grape tomatoes.

I just made a garden salad with a 'tomato' from the grocery store and home made ranch dressing. The 'tomato' ruined the whole salad. I really thought @RobertKennedyJr was going to take care of this sort of thing. Dude, I am trying to eat healthier, but we've ruined the produce too.

@statomattic @suzy_redd The author of Predictably Irrational discussed this. Fascinating stuff!

@suzy_redd People just don't think through the math, but the psychology of getting something free is strong. One example is how people go crazy at sporting events when they launch T-shirts into the crowd. A crappy XXL T-shirt that will instantly become a rag. But we can't resist a prize.

I’m always amazed at what people will do for something free. Years ago I marveled at the few hundred people willing to stand in the sun on blacktop on a 95 degree day for a free ice cream cone. This morning I passed people in a car line for a free cup of coffee at some new place. The car at the end has a 40 minute wait with gasoline at nearly four bucks a gallon. Can someone explain this phenomenon?

@HeadWarriorTWM Undocumented Unhoused

Words we need to stop using. Identity Neurodiversity Keep it going.

@helenstaniland I guess adolescent Jarad would have had no trouble discussing wet dreams and embarrassing erections with girls, as long as those girls said they were boys.

It's an odd way to argue, isn't it? Having to pretend not to understand the concepts of privacy, dignity, humiliation, shame and embarrassment that a total breach of trust like this could cause a young girl.

@SchraderValves @scotchmcclure @TheAliceSmith Yeah, I think he skipped those words.

@scotchmcclure @TheAliceSmith "under the law" means something different to different folks?

My basic principle is: If you’re an adult, have whatever lifestyle you want, under the law. Just don’t force me to fund it, celebrate it, consent to it, participate in it, learn about it, or take the consequences for it.

@DaveWillmore82 @DisaffectedPod As an Early Intervention SLP, my answer to that is an emphatic, unqualified YES. I see so many little people who look autistic and then you realize that both they and their parents are constantly buried in screens. Lack of interaction can cause major social deficits.

@DisaffectedPod Not about this woman in particular, but do you think screen devices and our addictions to them produce traits similar to autism and ADHD? I do.

This is not real. Not real. It's the latest claim by narcissistic people. Autism and ADHD are not pathological narcissism and self-centeredness.

@sal_danger @DisaffectedPod There is absolutely a huge self diagnosis trend. And "AuDHD" is not an actual diagnosis. ADHD is a diagnosis, and autism is a diagnosis. "AuDHD" is made up nonsense by people who use words like "neurospicy." If a medical professional literally diagnosed you as "AuDHD," run.

@DisaffectedPod Wait, what? What is not real? I am Dx AuDHD… but idk that questioning whether I am the robl constantly is any sign of narcissism. Is it a new self Dx trend I missed? lol Insufferable, the “community”…

@ohyeahmister2 @sivori That's funny. I feel like it's the opposite in my family. I was the reason my young parents had to get married, and I think they resent me for it. My brother, the baby, is the favorite by far.

@sivori I always suspected the eldest child felt the most special. I can sort of feel it as I am the oldest of 4. I notice my parents feel more connected with me than my brother and 2 sisters.

As a parent now, I'm not sure I believe in the concept of favourites. I love all my four children as much as another and worry about each of them for different reasons and love each of them for different reasons, namely for who they are. However, I have observed that certain things happen more naturally with some of my kids. For example, my second son is rather private. I think of him as "the man of few words". We relate through physical play and in quality time, but conversation flows much more naturally with my oldest son and oldest daughter who engage with me in the way I prefer, which is verbally. At bedtime, I can talk for a long time with my daughter but with my #2 son I almost have to pull conversation out of him and will not even share much when open to volunteering. He does not even like me to look at his work, as in some way he does not like the attention and enjoys his privacy, but still likes when I praise him for his successes and efforts. But he loves to wrestle and still wants to connect that way and is always up to go do something together. The point is, that I suspect for most parents, though not for all obviously, there is the consideration of how the parent operates. Though we may love our children equally, some relationships are more work. There is also, I think, this love affair you have with the oldest child in the same way you always remember your first love. Your first child is who made you a parent. It's like falling in love the first time. They did not do anything to deserve this status, but you generally spent much more time with them than the third or fourth who always had to share your attentions with the others. And, you were younger yourself. Seven years separates my oldest and youngest child, during which time many things happened.

@RealBrittHughes That sounds pretty much how it would go here in Illinois, too. Suicidal empathy.

A neighbor of mine posted on a local social media page that his mailbox was hit by a van full of what were clearly cleaning ladies. The impact shattered the back window of the van, damaging his mailbox and leaving glass inside the box and all over his sidewalk, yard and driveway. They drove away without leaving a note, and the only way my neighbor knew what had happened was because of his ring cam. He posted a photo asking if anyone knew who they were so he could seek restitution. Almost every comment on his post was from someone shaming *him* for trying to find the people who damaged his property, saying they are likely undocumented immigrants who were poor and scared, calling him privileged and saying he needs to get over his busted mailbox and glass-filled driveway and “think of others.” In case y’all were wondering about the absolute insanity we’re dealing with in deep blue northern Virginia.