Sim Kiever

@maternalgroyp @stefiegriff Have you tried with a bottle when she’s very hungry? And have you tried the Philips avent bottles? Those worked like a charm for me when others failed.

@stefiegriff @sim_kiever I couldn’t get her to take a bottle of breastmilk either though :/

some fun facts about me & sleep: -the longest stretch of sleep I’ve had since 2020 is a single 5 hour stretch and 9 nights I had a 4 hour stretch (yes I know it was 9 times because each one was a documented miracle) -newborn sleep stage is when I get the most sleep (3 hour chunks) -my babies all wake up every 30-90 minutes the entire night arouns 6/7 weeks and onward until at least 12mo. - I have virtually been waking up between 1-3 hours all night, every night, for almost 6 years STRAIGHT. does anyone else out there function on this amount of sleep? Does anyone else have babies that will not sleep longer than that? I’m completely exhausted but no one seems to have good sleeping advice other than leave them to cry. I don’t know what to do …all my other goals seem impossible while being in such a state of constant sleep deprivation.

@maternalgroyp If you have success with bottle feeding your breastmilk, could you try adding a small amount of formula to the bottle and work your way up?

@sim_kiever I like to EBF but then around 6 months into a new round of sleep deprivation I regret not giving a bottle sooner haha

@ThrillaRilla369 Of course. Obviously. There’s a pretty obvious difference between someone caring for young children and a pervert or a molester. How is this even a debate.

To the women on this app please be honest: Would you be comfortable with a father bringing his young daughters into the women’s restroom if it’s completely empty, so the girls feel safe and at ease?

@maternalgroyp Oh that’s frustrating, mine had formula usually in the first week.

@sim_kiever oh I def. tried that but literally all 4 of my EBF kids rejected formula/bottle so hard LOL they were like what the hell is this Probably needed to introduce it sooner than 6 months in my case

@adventurekell Im so sorry for your loss. Could you set up a small scholarship at your local High school in his memory? My husband was the beneficiary of one for trade school.

I’m suffocating today. Jeremy told me before he died that one of his greatest fears would be that no one would think of him. Now I feel i have no one to talk to about him since his family cut me off. I’m just so sad today. and the painful reminder of being cut off isn’t helping

@sunfwrpwr Worked like a charm for me 3x!! Avoided getting induced and had no complications or interventions.

I need thoughts on membrane sweeps. My OB suggested to do it at 38 weeks and I told her I was going to do some research.

@neon_heartbeat I had 3 completely uncomplicated, natural vaginal deliveries with zero meds and no complications…same with my 4th and then immediately had a hemorrhage where 18 people flooded the room to save my life …which is why I’ve had all 4 in the hospital!!

Her husband immediately starting a go fund me and describing her as “successfully” having given birth before an “extremely rare” complication got her… ick Postpartum hemorrhage is NOT extremely rare it’s VERY COMMON and that’s why we GO TO A HOSPITAL

@9mmsmg If there’s any ill will against you after paying for an expensive vacation, your wife should be shutting that down immediately.

On the flip side, if I don't do it its going to likely be 10 days of spite stuck in Rome hell surrounded by pickpockets and tourists. 10 days of misery vs 10k

In laws are arriving shortly and while I get along with him, I've had a tumultuous relationship with the mother. I posted about it during Christmas. We sort of hashed things out and are definitely on much better terms. I no longer hate the woman, but I wouldn't say I like her either. We're heading back to Italy soon and are going to be gone until winter and I thought I'd be the bigger man and have them come with us. They've never been. Figure 10 days doing touristy BS like Rome, the Vatican, Venice, etc. I covered their room and flight. I'll buy all the meals even if they volunteer. I'm really trying to be nice and that's hard for me. They're booked on the same flight as us, I booked them in coach. I didn't upgrade their seats, they're going to be stuck in there alone. I'm bad at situations like this because of autism, but also I don't really like her mom. I'd upgrade the dad's seat and leave the mom in coach, but I doubt that'd go over well. Is this something I should feel bad about? It'd be different if we were sitting there with them. It feels really strange and awkward to say "well, enjoy your flight, see you when we land." I hate that X has become my "is my autism making me have terrible social graces" meter, but I like being validated in my awkward choices.

@TTUjeff @McJuggerNuggets I read it after seeing a beautiful DS girl at my daughter’s paediatricians office yesterday. Beautiful blonde hair and eyes exactly like her mamas. She was so thrilled to see my baby. Angelic little girl.

@McJuggerNuggets That has to be super hard, I honestly can’t imagine what you and your wife have gone through. What’s crazy is I just happened to read this post while watching a kid with Trisomy 21 play whiffle ball with the other boys in the church group having the absolute time of his life.

This week, my wife and I made the very difficult decision to terminate the pregnancy due to Trisomy 21. The choice was not made lightly. We really appreciate all of the personal stories that you guys shared with us, especially the unconditional support we received from fans with no matter what we decided. I know some of you may be very disappointed to hear this news. We are devastated. This has been extremely traumatic for both of us, especially Ashley. She underwent the procedure earlier this week and is on the mend. Thankfully, everything went smoothly, but emotionally we are drained. Trisomy 21, also known as Down Syndrome, is caused by an extra chromosome. It is caused by an error in cell division, like a glitch. The odds of a baby having it is 1 in 1000. When I first confronted this news, I was shocked but optimistic. If they’re a little slow intellectually, then we’ll make it work. I signed on to be a parent, come what may…but I just didn’t fully understand what Down Syndrome entailed. Once we made it public, it became clear that MOST people don’t know what Down Syndrome entails (and no, it’s not the same as Autism): 50% of babies with DS have heart defects. 75% will have hearing challenges. Over 50% will have vision problems. Impaired immune function, developmental disabilities, learning disabilities, delayed physical development, poor muscle tone, structural issues with face, decreased lifespan, etc…Sadly, the list is long, feel free to look it up…Down Syndome isn’t a “blessing”, it is objectively shitty from a health perspective. I didn’t realize just how rough it is for the child, let alone the family…more often than not, they would be fully dependent on others for the rest of their life. The miscarriage risk is also close to 50%, which made matters worse…they may never see the light of day and it puts Ashley further at risk. We spoke with doctors, friends, family and genetic counselors and learned that up to 90% of women terminate their pregnancy after learning the baby has Trisomy 21. This was WAY higher than I expected, I thought it would be lower given that I hear so many say they kept or would keep the baby. I believe that’s because most terminations happen privately, it feels shameful. A lot of judgment being cast. You never think you’d be in this type of situation until it happens to you and then things change. To all of my fans who have weighed in on this topic who have Autism, Down Syndrome or any other conditions…we appreciate you. You matter a lot and we’re glad you’re here. I commend you and your families for having the strength and courage to push forward. As for us, we made a difficult decision that we believe in the long-run will be beneficial for our family. Thankfully, we had a choice. It will take a little time to move on, but we are excited to try again in the future and hopefully have a better outcome. Love you guys & thank you for understanding. ❤️

@selentelechia I remember sitting on the toilet in labor and delivery cleaning myself up after birthing my third and thinking: there’s one more. Less than 18 months later, sitting in that same room after birthing my fourth. He’s perfect. 😍

@celestialbe1ng Unfortunately the natural desiccated thyroid (T3&T4) put me into afib and I required a cardioversion. Super scary 🫣

Let me tell you how to feel about this: YOU. DO. NOT. TAKE. SYNTHROID (T4). ALONE. EVER. After spending a year trying to fix your thyroid issues, surely you must have come across Broda Barnes or Ray Peat by now? Anyway, why? In the Western world, it is common to treat patients with T4 (the inactive thyroid hormone) alone, but this approach almost always does more harm than good if your body cannot convert the inactive hormone to the active one, T3. T4 (thyroxine) is a precursor hormone that must be converted into T3 (triiodothyronine) in the body to become active. This conversion primarily takes place in the liver. However, many patients, particularly women with elevated estrogen levels or those with liver issues, have a sluggish liver that does not efficiently convert T4 to T3. Consequently, these patients do not receive adequate active thyroid hormone (T3) to meet their physiological requirements. Excess T4 in tissues where it is not rapidly converted to T3 has an anti-thyroid effect. Instead of supporting thyroid function, elevated levels of T4 can actually suppress it, worsening symptoms in patients. T3 has a shorter half-life and acts swiftly to restore respiration and metabolic efficiency. Without sufficient T3, patients do not benefit fully from thyroid hormone therapy in terms of metabolic advantages. A person is ought to improve their thyroid function with diet and lifestyle first, but supplementation with exogenous thyroid hormones (only when it’s a combo of T4 and T3) is not only often necessary but also ancestrally consistent. If you’re interested in thyroid hormone supplementation, and want to do it right, I posted a valuable read in the comment

@TheOmniBodyLife @cynomaxxx I’ve been following her protocol for a few years and went from needing regular fillings to no fillings despite being pregnant pretty much constantly for the last 4yrs. However I’ve skipped the xylitol recently because of some concerning recent studies.

@cynomaxxx What brand are you using? I've been investigating oral care with more of an open mind since finding Dr. Ellie's protocol. I haven't switched toothpastes yet, still researching.

During my time off from the hell app, I rediscovered flouridated toothpaste. My mouth has not felt this sterile and un-inflamed in years.

@selentelechia My babies have all been breastfed for 6 months but heavily substituted with formula (actual supply issues). I feel guilty about the formula but they’re all super healthy and slept through the night almost immediately 🤷🏻‍♀️

@garonnevik Basically my exact story. Grew up with a mom who wanted to give us everything but couldn’t, and had no clue how to save or budget. My hard working husband has diligently tried to help me heal that anxiety and fear.

I feel weird sharing this. I grew up with a single mom, and a dad who went to great lengths to dodge paying child support, and kept losing jobs to his alcoholism. My mom eventually remarried to a public school teacher. So you know, I came from big money. In hindsight, the situation when it was just my mom working, it was really dire. I remember her buying me an outfit from Ross once, because I confided in her that my friend's mom made her a dress that was so pretty, and I had nothing like it. The outfit my mom surprised me with was $20 and I felt such shame that I had drained the family accounts that deeply, with her gift to me. Fast forward, I marry a hard working man. One of the first things my mom said about him was "you'll never starve with him." She was speaking of both his character in being a hard worker, and his character in longing to provide. He wasn't rich--we were both young and broke, but he was capable in every meaning of the word. I was trained in budgeting from my mom, and I kept a notebook with all of my purchases. I asked worked out a budget with my husband, and had monthly accounts for clothes for our kids, food, etc. I remember one fall, him commenting that our toddler needed new socks, and questioned why I hadn't bought the bigger size yet. I told him I knew, but I needed to wait until next month, because my kids' clothes budget was gone for this month. That's when he sat me down. He said he would provide for us. I needed to buy what our family needed. That was the deal. He kindly asked me to throw out my notebook, and just buy what they need, and trust him with the rest. I still like to be in the know. I like knowing how much money we have, and gauge where we are. We still have at least yearly, if not semi-yearly meetings to go over finance stuff. But in his care for me, he worried that this penny pinching, careful, maybe even fearful bent in me needed some healing. Throw the notebook away. The kids need socks? Buy some socks. He would just take care of it. We've had slim years, and we've had a couple abundant years. I know that type of mentality is not available for everyone. Budgets are still good, and careful thought on spending money. But part of me feels like that should still be the goal, and it's one of my husband's biggest flexes--not the financial part, but more importantly, seeing me and my fear part. And I'm grateful for the safety and peace it has brought me, and he went out of his way to give it to me.

@TMClash95 @BowTiedUM Copper iud has no hormones, I’ve had one and it didn’t mess me up like the hormonal birth control at all. Eventually removed it because it caused spotting - but definitely different than the hormonal birth control or IUD.

@BowTiedUM Im assuming this doesnt apply to copper iud?

She's on birth control when she gets married Noseblind to his estrogen dominance and lack of 5AR She comes off and biological reality takes over Fraudulent pairbond Many many many such cases

@Coleidoscopes Apparently at <2yrs old I told everyone about my sister who I played with in heaven and explained what her name was. My parents kept the name and she’s still one of my best friends 34yrs later 🤷🏻‍♀️

When my 8yo was about 4, she was laying on my stomach watching tv and said “There’s a baby in there,” with her hand on my stomach. I froze, mildly triggered because I had two miscarriages the year before. I asked if she knew if it was a boy or girl, and she said “girl.” I asked how she knew that, and she said “the people in the sky” (or “above her bed” it’s fuzzy to me now). I’m open-minded, so we went to Dollar General for a test. “Positive” it said. Gasped, I did. Now, we have a 3yo girl, and her sister knew before I did because people in the sky told her 😃

@Megamom1985 All of my kids have slept through the night nearly since birth….and I’ve just had 3 babies in 3 years lol!

My contribution to the never ending mommy war on sleep training: Babies that sleep though the night as newborns are the quickest way to Irish twins. My two year old has been running interference for his dad for two years now and I’m finally getting the 3 year recovery gap between births. The Lord works in mysterious ways…

@Avonleebythesea I love everything about this post and all the sentiments expressed!

My cousin is getting married today, outdoors in the Colorado mountains. I used to babysit her when we were children. She is a natural beauty, athletic and down to earth, she forgot she was supposed to get makeup for her friend to use to do her makeup today. Between the cousins we had everything she needs, but I think it’s so sweet that the person she seems to be least concerned with is herself. What a difference from the self indulgence we’re so inundated with. Also, having a big family is so fun. People forget that having lots of kids extends far into the future. My grandmother had 9 children. There are 21 first cousins just on our side, and most of us have children. The kids were all running in the field behind the cabins last night while we chatted and laughed. It really doesn’t get much better. Anyway, she’s a gem and I’m so excited to see her in her dress today.

@datingbyblaine When I met my husband, he was driving his beater work commuter (a piece of garbage). He also seriously downplayed his career success (can’t overstate this). But I thought he was hilarious, fell in love with the person. I’m absolutely obsessed with him 15yrs and 4 kids later.