If you want another man to assist you, • With a job, • Opportunities, • Financial assistance, Never use your emotional issues and predicaments as bargaining points. Nobody is interested in your problems, "I am suffering, please help." "My wife is sick, I need the job." "I have been kicked out of the rental house. Please help" "Banks are auctioning me." "I have a degree, yet I am jobless, I am depressed." Once you sell your emotional package, you automatically become a turn-off. A man will help you in view of your value to him, not because you are suffering. He may be philanthropic in supporting you in the short term. Still, he will expect you to discard your victimhood mentality and seek a sustainable solution to move beyond your rock bottom. However, do not pour your problems onto him. The best he can do is to tell you, "May God see you through." Please note that everyone is going through some sort of problems, including the man you are seeking help from, not just you. Many men you see as successful are seen that way because they have successfully hidden their chaos and emotions from the rest of the world. The man you see driving an expensive car and wearing expensive suits is also going through something that, if he shared, you would empathize with his situation. A lot of men have chosen to outgrow their problems by ignoring circumstances beyond their control while focusing on maximizing their skills and value to the world. So, when you are seeking support from another man, sell your skill, value and experience, and how you can solve a problem for him. Keep your suffering and problems to yourself; nobody is interested in them. You are a MAN, you have yourself, and that is enough. Your breakthrough will come. Chin up, towards God!
